When my husband and I married, I wanted 2, he wanted 7 (typical, that was the number in our own families of origin)....After the 1st child, I wanted lots more, he wanted, maybe 1......
We had 3 and had to stop, I can't keep them in safely to term. Even hubby would have more now, but, they all came too early. (1st one 26 days, no intervention. 2nd one 23 days, bedrest and medical intervention, 3rd one 19 days with bedrest, and maximum does of intevention meds) True contractions started earlier each time, and the cervix was never fully effaced or had even begun to dialate, so cervical stitch is not and option. The last one was 19 days early with bedrest from week 28 and daily med of terbutiline to control contractions. All labors were fast and furious. 12 hours the 1st, 4 hours the other 2. And my water broke each time as well...no stopping the labor once that happens.
God's blessing, I lived close to the hospital, made it there in time for medical care immediately for them, they were all amazingly a good weight (6 to 8 pounds)....I had taken meticulous care of myself....and they all turned out healthy, bright and without disablity.
But my OB said, based on my delivery history, hormone levels, and pelvic structure each continued pregnancy would be harder to maintain with any success
I was in my mid 30's, and now am in my 40's....my body just won't hold them as I get older.
Sigh.
I just dreamed last night that I was pregnant again, and was at the baby shower, where I realized it couldn't be true, and my tummy was suddenly flat. I cried so hard I couldn't explain to the people in the dream what was wrong....they just kept telling me how great I looked this far along, and how did I keep my tummy so flat with a baby in there. Not a good dream.
So, if you can build the nest (basic needs met), and you want lots of children, they are one of the greatest gifts in life that God can give you. Have 'em and hold 'em for me.
IMHO