So a little bit of an update to this thread:
TLDR: My girlfriend is very attached to me and wants to get married to me. She is in her mid 30's so time is not on her side and she also never had a boyfriend before me. So I think she feels like I am her only hope. I have not been exactly feeling the same way as her. So I was wondering if I should break up.
The update: I did try to break up with her a couple months ago. She promised to do better, give me more space, and convinced me to stay with her. So we are still together. That was a couple months ago. We have officially been a couple for just over a year now.
She now really wants to get engaged. I originally told her when we first started dating that I want to wait at least a year and she thinks that because we reached a year, it's time to get engaged (I've told her that it was at least a year, never guaranteed a year). I'm just really not sure though. I just don't like how attached she is to me. It really feels like her whole world revolves around me. I don't like her doing this and I've tried to tell her to rely on God not me (note: she is a Christian). She also makes posts about us being together on social media and I think she has everyone at our church (and her family) convinced that we are going to end up together.
It's hard to give her things like surprise her or plan to be with her because she alllwayyss wants to be with me. The only way I get time to myself is if I ask her. I will say this: She is dead set on us getting married at some point. It feels like she gives me no other option.
note: I have tried explaining to her not to be so attached to me. But she still is.
Now outside of the attachment issue, we have some other differences that I have been thinking of recently.
Now. I am thinking of telling her that I am sorting through my options and thinking that we might not be what's right for each other. So not break up but just let her know that maybe I am thinking of breaking up in the future. That way I could give her a little bit of a warning rather than just dumping everything on her all at once. I mean: by God's power, it is possible He has plans to keep us together for good and have us get married. Doubt it though. What do you guys think?
TLDR: My girlfriend is very attached to me and wants to get married to me. She is in her mid 30's so time is not on her side and she also never had a boyfriend before me. So I think she feels like I am her only hope. I have not been exactly feeling the same way as her. So I was wondering if I should break up.
The update: I did try to break up with her a couple months ago. She promised to do better, give me more space, and convinced me to stay with her. So we are still together. That was a couple months ago. We have officially been a couple for just over a year now.
She now really wants to get engaged. I originally told her when we first started dating that I want to wait at least a year and she thinks that because we reached a year, it's time to get engaged (I've told her that it was at least a year, never guaranteed a year). I'm just really not sure though. I just don't like how attached she is to me. It really feels like her whole world revolves around me. I don't like her doing this and I've tried to tell her to rely on God not me (note: she is a Christian). She also makes posts about us being together on social media and I think she has everyone at our church (and her family) convinced that we are going to end up together.
It's hard to give her things like surprise her or plan to be with her because she alllwayyss wants to be with me. The only way I get time to myself is if I ask her. I will say this: She is dead set on us getting married at some point. It feels like she gives me no other option.
note: I have tried explaining to her not to be so attached to me. But she still is.
Now outside of the attachment issue, we have some other differences that I have been thinking of recently.
- I feel like I want to go to a different Church. I want to find a Church that is more on fire for God.
- I am starting to believe that most of the movies and tv shows (if not, almost all) are just downright bad/demonic (Not what this post is about, just explaining what beliefs I am starting to pickup). She does not.
- Don't want to do a wedding ring. My beliefs have changed on this recently and I'm just not sure God appreciates jewelry (again: Not what this post is about, just explaining my beliefs). She will not get married without a wedding ring.
- Don't really want to have kids. She does. I sort of compromised and said maybe we could have one.
- I am ok and happy being single (even if it were the rest of my life). She is not.
Now. I am thinking of telling her that I am sorting through my options and thinking that we might not be what's right for each other. So not break up but just let her know that maybe I am thinking of breaking up in the future. That way I could give her a little bit of a warning rather than just dumping everything on her all at once. I mean: by God's power, it is possible He has plans to keep us together for good and have us get married. Doubt it though. What do you guys think?