I posted in the general parenting forum but thought you who have been convicted to have a quiverfull might have some insight or maybe someone has been in this situation. I'm not sure God ever told my heart to have a quiverfull, but I do feel horrible that my husband got a vasectomy 2 years ago. I had toxemia with both of my pregnancies and they ended with a 37 week birth and a 36 weeker. My husband was scared of a preemie birth, so he got the vasectomy. I wasn't completely on board, but went along with it because he seemed to really want it. So many people we know have had it done and it just seemed like the thing to do. Well, a pregnancy "scare" soon after showed me that although my husband is worried about my health, he would be happy with another child. But alas, it was just a scare. Now he is set firm that we can't "afford" another child. I have a lot of school debt which I now regret because before having children I thought I needed a fancy education, but now all I want is to be with my kids. I have a hard time thinking someone I don't know very well will have such a big influence on my child's life if I go back to work! Anyways, I feel like if we did it all God's way, we could totally afford another child. But he had the vasectomy, so essentially we can't. I am obsessed with researching reversals and adoption, but they all cost so much and we are already in debt. I know fostering and adopting is cheap or free, but I have seen that tear apart families in my area due to red tape and a lot of trouble etc. I long to be pregnant again, to nurse, to anticipate all their milestones. Sometimes I feel like it might be a selfish desire, and I should just be content, but I'm not! The worst part is that I don't feel any urge to be sexually intimate with my husband now. Cuddling, kissing, hugging, totally ok. Sex? No way! I enjoyed it before the vasectomy, but ever since I have been totally turned off by it, because I know it is a dead end road. I know God created intimacy not just for getting pregnant, but for bringing couples closer together, but I just feel like, well, lost. It's hard to explain. Anyways, any advice? Please pray for me! I want what is best for my family and I want what God has planned for me but right now I just feel lost in my life because of that "missing" child! Sorry to ramble on here, but I know you all have wonderful large families and are so happy with them. I don't want 20 kids or something, just one more (or maybe two!).