I didn't see this sub group and had posted this in another part of the forum.
Hi,
Just looking for some points of view on my current situation. I don't want to have a theological debate the issue of divorce and remarriage.
My wife and I are divorced. She had an affair with my best friend and left me. I fought to save the marriage and she filed for divorce. So it's been 8 months and I have more than healed. My walk with God is stronger than it's ever been.
I started dating someone, but now most of my friends are for it. There are a few against it saying I should wait years before even thinking about it.
We have an incredible time together, have great chemistry, we are both christian.
I have gotten very close to this girl and we are talking about marriage. Let me preface this with 2 things.
1. she had been a close family friend for about 4 years.
2. she is the ex wife of the person my wife had an affair with. (odd I know)
I believe her and I have talked about every possible angle involved in this relationship and both want to move forward. I have prayed and have no checks in my spirit at all.
These were both first marriages. No chance she has any desire to get back with him. I will have to see him and my ex no matter what as they live together and we have joint custody and evenly shared visitation
The girl also has kids and they have joint.
I'm sure it's not a rebound thing, I've thought about that.
we are both over our exes and ready to move on. I know I could go out and date other people where there you be not as much weirdness abut the situation. But we are in are late 30s and are an incredible match. Because we've been friends for years we already start on a different level I guess.
Most of are friends are for it and think we are great together...just trying to figure out how to handle the few that are opposed to it. The main concern of friends is they don't know what they are going to tell their kids when they see us together. I really dont see that as a legitimate reason...so im looking for other input
am i missing anything?
thoughts?
Hi,
Just looking for some points of view on my current situation. I don't want to have a theological debate the issue of divorce and remarriage.
My wife and I are divorced. She had an affair with my best friend and left me. I fought to save the marriage and she filed for divorce. So it's been 8 months and I have more than healed. My walk with God is stronger than it's ever been.
I started dating someone, but now most of my friends are for it. There are a few against it saying I should wait years before even thinking about it.
We have an incredible time together, have great chemistry, we are both christian.
I have gotten very close to this girl and we are talking about marriage. Let me preface this with 2 things.
1. she had been a close family friend for about 4 years.
2. she is the ex wife of the person my wife had an affair with. (odd I know)
I believe her and I have talked about every possible angle involved in this relationship and both want to move forward. I have prayed and have no checks in my spirit at all.
These were both first marriages. No chance she has any desire to get back with him. I will have to see him and my ex no matter what as they live together and we have joint custody and evenly shared visitation
The girl also has kids and they have joint.
I'm sure it's not a rebound thing, I've thought about that.
we are both over our exes and ready to move on. I know I could go out and date other people where there you be not as much weirdness abut the situation. But we are in are late 30s and are an incredible match. Because we've been friends for years we already start on a different level I guess.
Most of are friends are for it and think we are great together...just trying to figure out how to handle the few that are opposed to it. The main concern of friends is they don't know what they are going to tell their kids when they see us together. I really dont see that as a legitimate reason...so im looking for other input
am i missing anything?
thoughts?