First of all,
Dad in heaven, please stand right next to razz and her husband and her daughter. Make your presence obvious to them and please don't give them more than they can handle. Give them all your healing and your rest and your crazy love. Amen!
thanks, we are going for test tomorrow...
As for the holidays, I was ready to move to afganistan and grow fat and happy in my burka before having to face christmas. But I hereby give you permission to cancel all holiday events that aren't directly for your daughter's benefit. Your church friends, your in-laws, your neighbors will just have to get over it if you won't come to dinner.
We still have 3 kids at home, so cancelling Christmas isn't gonna happen. Last year, we started a new "tradition" in which we had dinner at the church for anyone that was without family for Christmas day...this year I want to even cancel that, but I think it will be good in the end, gets our mind off our pain and onto others that have pains of their own. Really anxious for our eldest to be here, he was away too many years, (military) it's always good to have him home. When our son died, the eldest was in Calif. preparing to go to Afganistan. We took him to the airport the morning after the funeral and watched him go off to war...can't even tell you what that does to a mother's heart when you bury one son, and watch the other leave for war.
And lastly, about the gifts:
I am going to bring up some counterpoints, but only so you can cement this idea up a bit. No drama, I promise.
yeah...I've been anxious for someone to get involved in discussion...yeah, if I sound short, it isn't the discussion, it's other stuff, I promise...I love questions and exploring the answers...
Number 2 I fully agree with. However, it is difficult (if not impossible) to determine another person's intentions. So I could use number 2 to gauge my own gifts, but it would be hard to gauge someone else's gifts with it.
If the person wouldn't do it without pay, it's pretty easy to know. For example, let's take counseling since that is the one that started the discussion. Let's say I am desperately in need of counseling but can't afford it. If the counselor says, sorry, can't help unless you pay me X, it's pretty easy to see that the motive is in some way money. When I was growing up, there was an artist by the name of Keith Greene, (don't know if you know of him or not) He had a whole ministry that I won't go into all the details of. What he did to support it, was to allow everyone, whether they had the funds or not, to get his records, tracts, help out at the office, etc. IOW's he didn't do anything for the money and name, he did it all to promote the living God and it was bold and obvious. Even my husband and I, as we are nearing the point of seminars and books sales to teach about Biblical Love, refuse to make it about money. When we give someone a book, we don't ask for money to cover the cost much less to cover our "salaries" instead, we tell people, whatever God lays on your heart. In fact, scripture tells us to not worry about tomorrow but instead to trust God with it. Paul himself taught that where pay was God's plan, pay wasn't necessary, he would do the work even if there was no earthly pay. Unfortunately that is the exception today, not the rule. To identify that person, is merely an issue of what they need in order to do the job. If they won't do the job without pay, it's a pretty good bet they do it for the pay. A friend said that his father always told him, "if you can pay a man to preach the word, you can pay him not to preach". I guess the point is that where it isn't an exact science, it is testable. With the discernment of the HS there wouldn't be any doubt.
For example, the head pastor at my church is pretty well paid (it's a big church - his house is much bigger than mine). Now, as you said, the fact that he is paid doesn't necessarily mean that he is in it for the money. And I don't believe that he is. But the only way to test his motivations would be to stop paying him, and see if he sticks around. I don't think that would go over very well. lol
there are other ways to test...for example, what is the history before he was paid? Is he paid for every extra thing he does and charge accordingly, for example, when our son died, our pastor refused to accept pay for the funeral because he knew we couldn't afford it. He definitely earned pay for the extra, but that isn't why he did the service. Pastors get asked to do extras all the time. If your pastor only does the extras if he gains from them, it is a good indication that he is doing the job with wrong motive. We can't be sure without the discernment of HS.
And with the role of pastor also comes church authority and a good deal of social power, so we would have to find a way to remove those as well...and I can't think of anything short of revolution that would accomplish that.
actually, scripture warns that the young believer who becomes a pastor, can easily become conceited, which is why the pastor cannot be a new believer, so seems to me that is covered in the first one, that is dealing with qualifications as well as giftedness.
So for any paid ministry, we can never completely rule out earthly motivations in others.
which is why we 1. examine ourselves and 2. rely on the discernment of the HS.
Numbers 3 and 4 I also fully agree with. But I think that God's definition of opportunity and fruit can be vastly different than our own. For example, for three years Jesus had a full-time ministry. But from the point of view of the religious leaders of his time, it was a failure, because the only people who were interested in following him around were hookers and lepers and thieves and drunks. I think that they could have made a valid case that God did not open up sufficient opportunity for Jesus's ministry (since only losers followed him around - he would have seemed more like some cult leader to them).
so how did Jesus respond to them...we aren't still living in the OT, we can behave like the religious leaders of the day, but God would respond to us the same way He responded to the religious leaders of the day, would He not?...
As for seeing fruit, this one can also be tricky to gauge. What was the fruit of Jeremiah's ministry? He got thrown in a hole! At least Elijah rounded up a few converts before the king tried to have him killed. Sometimes only God can see the fruit.
Let me tell you about the first church my husband pastored...on the first sermon as pastor, he preached on the good samaritan, answering the question that Jesus was answering with the story. The people got so angry that they threatened his job. When he didn't buckle, they threatened me, when that didn't gain them what they wanted, they threatened our children. When that didn't work, they fired him. Was it a fruitful ministry? By man's standard, not so much, by God's standard, without doubt. They heard the word and responded to it, they didn't respond to us, they responded to the word. You see, false motive has a way of making it about self (goes back to Love) and in that, the response is about the individual. When the response is about God, we know that we are not in the way of the people seeing God. What does scripture tell us? John 3:30 He must become greater; I must become less., also read the end of II Corinthians 2...15 For we are to God the pleasing aroma of Christ among those who are being saved and those who are perishing. 16 To the one we are an aroma that brings death; to the other, an aroma that brings life. And who is equal to such a task? 17 Unlike so many, we do not peddle the word of God for profit. On the contrary, in Christ we speak before God with sincerity, as those sent from God.
One fantastic book I can recommend is Fixing Abraham by Chris Tiegreen. It's a quick but fascinating thought experiment about how we would treat the prophets if they showed up today. Like, if there was a guy who laid on one side every day for three years outside of your city hall, would you think he was sent by God? Or would you think he is a loony? I could feel my mind creaking open while I read it.
I would have to know more about him, but thanks, I'll look for the book and really am enjoying the discussion. It helps to stay engaged in deeper things.