Will God expose infidelity and lying without us asking or looking?

[BrokenSpirit88]

If we think our partner isn't being unfaithful or untruthful, will God show us or tell us?

I've been wondering this because I've been fighting and trying to refrain from looking through social media and contacting people that my partner knows in order to find whether he's telling me the truth or not. God exposed a previous person to me before, but everyone's different and this situation unfortunately isn't the purest.

 

[Sketcher]

Maybe, maybe not.

Has your current partner cheated on you, that you know of?

 

[BrokenSpirit88]

Maybe, maybe not.

Has your current partner cheated on you, that you know of?

No, not that I know of, but I won't lie, sometimes I wonder if he's lying. I made another post that listed everything he's done that makes me feel suspicious.

 

[Jofes]

Is your partner a Christian? How much older than you? For your information , God is very concerned in the relationships between partners and states it matter of fact. God hates divorce. Divorce is of human origin and by the time infidelity is discovered that is usually way past the point of any return or repair. God has given us Jesus for this purpose and he is the center of any sustainable relationship. Ask him to talk to your partner and let this conviction lead you.

 

[Chris V++]

If we think our partner isn't being unfaithful or untruthful, will God show us or tell us?

I've been wondering this because I've been fighting and trying to refrain from looking through social media and contacting people that my partner knows in order to find whether he's telling me the truth or not. God exposed a previous person to me before, but everyone's different and this situation unfortunately isn't the purest.

I think so. Every secret thing will be made known. Sorry you are having this struggle. I hope you don't think this quote is out of context. It seems to apply to even this situation Luke 8:17 For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open

 

[BrokenSpirit88]

Is your partner a Christian? How much older than you? For your information , God is very concerned in the relationships between partners and states it matter of fact. God hates divorce. Divorce is of human origin and by the time infidelity is discovered that is usually way past the point of any return or repair. God has given us Jesus for this purpose and he is the center of any sustainable relationship. Ask him to talk to your partner and let this conviction lead you.

He says he believes in God and we discussed it recently, but I don’t think he calls himself a Christian, just spiritual.

I’m 25 and he is 43.

 

[Chris V++]

He says he believes in God and we discussed it recently, but I don’t think he calls himself a Christian, just spiritual.

I’m 25 and he is 43.

Has he ever admitted to being unfaithful to any past girlfriends? Has anyone ever cheated on him?

 

[Jofes]

I will give you my most honest opinion. There are so many men. Ask God to give you one no more than eight years older than you. You are so young and the precious gift you hold is yours alone. You need the man that will protect that gift and yes even die for it. God will show you the one, but you must ask him in your prayer time even write it down. Then you will know the one because he will give you what you ask.

 

[BrokenSpirit88]

Has he ever admitted to being unfaithful to any past girlfriends? Has anyone ever cheated on him?

He said he’s been cheated on once that he knows of. But he also has always said that most his relationships (including his marriage) have always ended because he and his partners drifted apart. Which I find hard to believe.

 

[Elliewaves]

If it's a pattern in his life to have failed relationships, then it won't stop with you. Unless he has completely and utterly changed himself, but as you still have suspicions and doubts and questions, then your mind will always go there. It's better to find someone you can trust. Don't be with someone just to be with someone. If you are capable of a good relationship with someone that is trustworthy, then seek that out.

 

[splish- splash]

Yes He can, as He is concerned about all our affairs, including who we end up with in life. He knows what really goes on behind the scenes, in each and everyone's life. He also sees the end from the beginning so He's the best friend to consult, for wisdom, direction & advice. What He will not do though, is stop us from pursuing what we want.

Bearing in mind that, every decision we make, whether good or bad. will equally bring forth positive or negative consequences.

 

[Sodafox]

The fact that you're here asking leads even a non-believer like me to think that this is god's way of showing you. The age difference alone makes it clear how much more experience your partner has than you - experience can be both good and bad. He may have a good job, house, car, whatever else which seem positive to you but are "the norm" for people his age - but he also has about 20 years more experience with lying and covering his tracks. If he's been cheated on in the past then he has even more first hand experience - and the kind of experience that puts you in a bad spot since he was on the receiving end and knows what behavior tipped him off and he can avoid that. That's if he's being truthful in the first place. From what I've seen, cheating is usually a two way street.

 

[bèlla]

I would be less concerned with finding answers and more attentive to the negative impact his behavior is causing. A person who genuinely regards you doesn't keep you in the dark. He wants you to know where you stand with him.

The fact you're contemplating searching through his social media and reaching out to mutual contacts is sad. Is this the woman you want to become?

If his needs aren't being met that requires a conversation. Not a second option.

We must be willing to confront our problems honestly. You are the lone person who can hold him accountable. Permitting its continuance is harmful. If he's incapable of being honest and trustworthy; find someone who will. You don't have to accept this.

~bella

 

[Dr. Gluckenstein]

Hm, is there any behavior in particular that he does that has you concerned or thinking this way? Also, notably, (don't get paranoid or anything) but sometimes our subconscious mind can pick up on things our conscious brains can't quite explain, like subtle gestures and behavioral changes in our partners. Is he frequently gone for unaccounted for amounts of time? Is he defensive or have a curious amount of conventionally attractive women on his social media accounts? Does he try to keep you away from his social media, either by hiding things from you or not posting that you two are in a relationship?
Also, if he says that his prior partners and he drifted apart, there's a high likelihood that he is unwilling to do what it takes to maintain a relationship and seems that he'd just rather cut the person off than try to dig deeper and get closer. That's a sign that he is most likely more interested in the superficial aspect of a relationship, as well as, quite possibly, and "idealized" relationship. Of course, I don't want to make assumptions about someone I don't know, but just be careful and guard your heart!