Will God Bring Us Back Together in His Timing?

[HopefulLove]

Hi, I'm new here and this may be long but here is my problem:

I'm 26 and my boyfriend and I were together for 6 years. He broke up with my about 3 months ago and I have been an emotional wreck ever since. I'm miserable! I had never felt about a guy like I'd felt about him and I considered him the love of my life and I can't imagine my life without him!

We had been on and off for a while but we really loved each other! We've also grown up a lot in the past couple of years and things have been great. But a few months back we did get into an argument about me wanting to move from our hometown eventually and he didn't. In the heat of the argument I told him that if we weren't sure then maybe we needed to talk about what we wanted and decide from there. I would give anything to take that sentence back because I would never choose a place over being with him. I would've stayed and been very happy!

We've also been weak in our walk with God. I know that he grew up in Church and I came to know God through him but we have in the years of being together messed up a lot. We would try to get right and do well for a while but we would mess up. He wasn't completely innocent as he had been with a couple of girls prior (I was a virgin) but I know that he wanted more spiritually. I feel so guilty that I wasn't there for him more as I should have been. I should have taken things more seriously and been there for accountability more! This has been like a real wake up call because I am scared to death that he might be gone for good! God got my attention on this one...

But after that argument he began to pray about it and felt that the Lord was leading him through a Sunday school lesson the week he prayed to split up. The lesson was about how we let relationships with people get in the way of God (Which made me feel more guilty. It should though)
But we've remained good friends because neither one of us want the other out of our lives.

I'm not looking to hear "Move on..." or "You shouldn't be friends..." I know that is what I will have to do if need be, but when I pray about the situation I get that I should be patient and not give up and keep on like I have been with improvement in Christ. I'm scared because I know that he is trying to date this girl. I have tried dating too, but it isn't the same.

I guess my question is:
Do you think that God can lead someone to break up temporarily? Do you think it is POSSIBLE that we're just meant to take time apart and work with God as individuals and that maybe God might soften my ex's heart and give him a sign to another chance later on? Does God bring couples back together? I'm just scared that he doesn't believe I can be that person. I know I can because I know I'm not doing it for my ex! I have been tired of riding the fence for a while and this just brought things into perspective. The changes I've made feel so genuine...this has been a huge wake up call!

and no, I'm not going to continue chasing this if I realize that it really is over. I'm just looking for opinions.

 

[Luther073082]

Yes, it is possible, anything is possible. . . But I wouldn't rely on that being the fact. I think what you are trying to do here is project your own desires upon the desires of God, because of how YOU feel about this relationship.

My opinion is that you have no logical reason to belive that you are going to get back together or that God wants you back together.

So in the absence of that, as hard as it is, the only logical thing to do is to move on.

 

[mina]

Sure it's possible, but you don't know if that's God's plan for you. If it is; He can make it happen. But, it will drive you crazy to sit and think about this and wonder. Instead of the term "moving on", I think you should strive to be who God wants you to be irregardless of who this man is and what he could possibly be in your life.
Being friends with an ex is dangerous ground; because if you still have feelings for them you begin to take every good interaction with them as a "sign" that you should be together again when it may not be anything. And it makes you feel awful when they start dating someone new. So I would say guard your heart and take the time to heal. Being whole and healthy with your only dependence on God will only strengthen any relationship that could come into your life. I was once in a relationship very similar with an ex. It hurt like anything to be his friend and his ex and to heal from that. But it was for the best and it opened the doors and possiblities for something and someone better. I would not be with the wonderful man I am now if i had held on hope for my ex (which I did for a while). I thought that relationship was good, but the one i'm in now is so much better and i'm extremely greatful that my ex is an ex.

 

[~Lynz~]

yeah its possible. anything possible through god.
but then its in gods timing.
but then ex become exs for a reason. and if u have been on and off its been rocky for a while. one day you will realise that breaking up was a really good thing.
trust me been there done that. hoped for years that that was gods plan that he would bring us together again. but it was wasted time. recover from the relationship and follow your life with god.

 

[Avniel]

It is possible that this may actually be God's wish for you two to remain separate and find other people to fall in love with and be equally as happy with. Breaking up hurts and you pray for a chance to make things back to the way they were but there is a possibility that this will never occur.

However on the other side you did say that you were praying and you thought you heard God tell you be patient. Many times our relationship with God is one sided, think of the scripture "Husband's love thy wife as Jesus loves the church." Now we as Christians are the bride and Christ is the groom and its similar to a wife always telling the husband what she wants and never really listening to what He wants. Dont let your walk be like that take this time to grow in Christ.

My advice to you is don't just let it go and get over it. I think you should read the word, pray and focus on your relationship with Christ find out what he wants, and I promise you everything else will be alright. But don't move on until you know that what God wants you to do.

 

[HB2012]

God works in mysterious ways. he might have done it for a reason. i never got close to God till i broke up with my man, we are back now, and much happier

 

[Andee]

Hi, I'm new here and this may be long but here is my problem:

I'm 26 and my boyfriend and I were together for 6 years. He broke up with my about 3 months ago and I have been an emotional wreck ever since. I'm miserable! I had never felt about a guy like I'd felt about him and I considered him the love of my life and I can't imagine my life without him!

We had been on and off for a while but we really loved each other! We've also grown up a lot in the past couple of years and things have been great. But a few months back we did get into an argument about me wanting to move from our hometown eventually and he didn't. In the heat of the argument I told him that if we weren't sure then maybe we needed to talk about what we wanted and decide from there. I would give anything to take that sentence back because I would never choose a place over being with him. I would've stayed and been very happy!

We've also been weak in our walk with God. I know that he grew up in Church and I came to know God through him but we have in the years of being together messed up a lot. We would try to get right and do well for a while but we would mess up. He wasn't completely innocent as he had been with a couple of girls prior (I was a virgin) but I know that he wanted more spiritually. I feel so guilty that I wasn't there for him more as I should have been. I should have taken things more seriously and been there for accountability more! This has been like a real wake up call because I am scared to death that he might be gone for good! God got my attention on this one...

But after that argument he began to pray about it and felt that the Lord was leading him through a Sunday school lesson the week he prayed to split up. The lesson was about how we let relationships with people get in the way of God (Which made me feel more guilty. It should though)
But we've remained good friends because neither one of us want the other out of our lives.

I'm not looking to hear "Move on..." or "You shouldn't be friends..." I know that is what I will have to do if need be, but when I pray about the situation I get that I should be patient and not give up and keep on like I have been with improvement in Christ. I'm scared because I know that he is trying to date this girl. I have tried dating too, but it isn't the same.

I guess my question is:
Do you think that God can lead someone to break up temporarily? Do you think it is POSSIBLE that we're just meant to take time apart and work with God as individuals and that maybe God might soften my ex's heart and give him a sign to another chance later on? I'm just scared that he doesn't believe I can be that person. I know I can because I know I'm not doing it for my ex! I have been tired of riding the fence for a while and this just brought things into perspective. The changes I've made feel so genuine...this has been a huge wake up call!

and no, I'm not going to continue chasing this if I realize that it really is over. I'm just looking for opinions.

 

[Aryeh]

Hi, I'm new here and this may be long but here is my problem:

I'm 26 and my boyfriend and I were together for 6 years. He broke up with my about 3 months ago and I have been an emotional wreck ever since. I'm miserable! I had never felt about a guy like I'd felt about him and I considered him the love of my life and I can't imagine my life without him!

We had been on and off for a while but we really loved each other! We've also grown up a lot in the past couple of years and things have been great. But a few months back we did get into an argument about me wanting to move from our hometown eventually and he didn't. In the heat of the argument I told him that if we weren't sure then maybe we needed to talk about what we wanted and decide from there. I would give anything to take that sentence back because I would never choose a place over being with him. I would've stayed and been very happy!

We've also been weak in our walk with God. I know that he grew up in Church and I came to know God through him but we have in the years of being together messed up a lot. We would try to get right and do well for a while but we would mess up. He wasn't completely innocent as he had been with a couple of girls prior (I was a virgin) but I know that he wanted more spiritually. I feel so guilty that I wasn't there for him more as I should have been. I should have taken things more seriously and been there for accountability more! This has been like a real wake up call because I am scared to death that he might be gone for good! God got my attention on this one...

But after that argument he began to pray about it and felt that the Lord was leading him through a Sunday school lesson the week he prayed to split up. The lesson was about how we let relationships with people get in the way of God (Which made me feel more guilty. It should though)
But we've remained good friends because neither one of us want the other out of our lives.

I'm not looking to hear "Move on..." or "You shouldn't be friends..." I know that is what I will have to do if need be, but when I pray about the situation I get that I should be patient and not give up and keep on like I have been with improvement in Christ. I'm scared because I know that he is trying to date this girl. I have tried dating too, but it isn't the same.

I guess my question is:
Do you think that God can lead someone to break up temporarily? Do you think it is POSSIBLE that we're just meant to take time apart and work with God as individuals and that maybe God might soften my ex's heart and give him a sign to another chance later on? I'm just scared that he doesn't believe I can be that person. I know I can because I know I'm not doing it for my ex! I have been tired of riding the fence for a while and this just brought things into perspective. The changes I've made feel so genuine...this has been a huge wake up call!

and no, I'm not going to continue chasing this if I realize that it really is over. I'm just looking for opinions.

Yes, God could break you two up temporarily, or permanently. And, if He does, it is for the benefit of AT LEAST both of you.

Think about that: the benefit is AT LEAST for you both.

God can also trash certain things in your life that take attention off of Him and His relationship with you - especially if you are His child.

He could be giving you time to grow more before a significant committment.

It really is that nebulous!

But, in my experience I have had to make sure my wants for an earthly relationship doesn't prevent me from Him. Also, I have to make sure God isn't just giving me space to fight for a relstionship.

The only true answer you can get is through prayer and fast. I am sorry to say that because trust me I know how absurd it is to hear that as advice, possibly.