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For some background, I have an anxiety disorder, so I spend a lot of my time worrying and fretting when I don't need to be. With that said, this pandemic is starting to get to me psychologically and making me dread the future when it's over.
Things were fine during the month of spring, when it seemed like not much was going on. Then George Floyd was murdered and protests and riots swept the country, despite having been told before that we were all supposed to practice "social distancing". Apparently racism was an even worse "pandemic" than an actual virus.
I would have been fine with everything if the protests remained peaceful, even though it still would have prolonged the pandemic. But instead, there were massive riots, more unrest, buildings being burned down, incidents of police brutality and more black men getting killed, thus inspiring more violence in a cycle of revenge. And now there seems to be a campaign focused on erasing history and striking the name of every historical figure and his achievements due to not having the same values as we do today--and thus a new social narrative of self-loathing and a resurgence of "cancel culture".
I don't like any of it and I want it all to end. I want things to go back to 2019, when everything was peaceful. People may insist that wasn't a particularly peaceful year, but it was comparatively peaceful to the Hell on Earth that 2020 has been for everyone, even me, even though I've avoided getting covid so far and no riots have happened where I live. I want to be able to live my life ordinarily and peacefully.
But everywhere I go, and every time I try and interact with people, it seems like people only want to discuss these issues. I have numerous fears surrounding all of this. One of them is that by engaging with people in conversations about all this, I'm going to be exposed as a racist.
I say that because I used to have an issue of having hateful thoughts. As far as I can remember I've never insulted a black person to his or her face. I've just found myself afraid of black men who are much physically stronger than me (I'm a skinny, short white guy) and I've always been afraid that they could beat me up, rob me, or kill me out of revenge for the racism my ancestors inflicted on theirs, or hatred of me if they were so inclined. In the time I was in college, a lot of the black men around me (but certainly not all) seemed to be very loud, annoying, disruptive and disrespectful of the rules, which provided more stress to me in an already stressful environment. Looking back, I know that most people did not mean to harm me at all. I know that I was too bitter and saw things that mildly inconvenienced me as a personal attack on me. It's nothing compared to what black people experience in their everyday lives and certainly no "reverse racism", but it's thoughts I used to have that I'm ashamed to have had. It didn't really end until I was out of college and most of my peers were white once again, like they had been before college.
I knew before the riots happened that at some point, I needed to overcome however much racism was in my heart if I was going to be a proper Christian. But I put it off because I thought other personal issues I needed to improve on were more important. Then when the riots happened, it was around that same time my predominately white (but full of millennials) church opened back up and had a sermon on racism, featuring a black pastor telling his experiences with it. It was a good sermon and tried to be as neutral and reconciling as possible, but it filled me with anxiety. I agreed with most of what my pastor said, except for one phrase: "Black lives matter is not a political statement". Given all of the news I had seen about the riots, I can't agree with that statement. Black Lives Matter as a group is a leftist political group with a good ideal but horrible tactics. I know that the Church wants to help heal racial tensions, but they don't need to side with this secular, leftist group that will insist Christianity take a back seat for its own narrative about why racism exists. "Black lives matter", to me, IS a political statement, even though it shouldn't be. It became one when leftists insisted that saying "All Lives Matter" is racist. I know the mindset behind that line of thinking, but I disagree with it. But apparently disagreement isn't allowed. "White silence is complicit in the oppression", or something. I don't know just how racist America is, and I don't know what to make of the various books being promoted right now that insist that America is still inherently racist and all black people are suffering under it. I'm skeptical of the claims made, but I don't think the other side wants to have a debate. If I tried presenting facts, statistics, etc., to the contrary of the narrative, I could be labelled a racist.
I have a lot of friends who are Christians but also leftists. Unlike me, they have no problem harmonizing their belief in Christ with their leftist political beliefs. Some of them stop short of supporting abortion and homosexuality, but others go all the way. Unfortunately, my own church has some of these leftists. I was reassured by my pastor that he believes what typical Christians have always believed, and isn't a leftist. I believe him, but he seems to have no problems appointing leftists to prominent positions in the church. I don't know why he isn't willing to be assertive of doctrine, but it could be a denominational difference. This is a Nazarene church and I was raised Presbyterian (PCA). God hasn't called me to any particular denomination, but he did call me to that particular church because before all of this happened, they were immensely kind to me.
I went away from that sermon, the first after things were starting to open back up (not sure whether that's a good idea or not, but that too has become politicized, which I hate), feeling alone, scared, and not able to trust anyone in my church. My fear was that if I admitted to having been racist in the past but skeptical of the BLM movement now, I would be deemed a racist and expelled from the church. I was filled with so much anxiety I had to run and hide away from the world, just like we've all had to be doing since the spring of 2020.
My fears go further, though. My other concerns are that if my church, in a desire to "fight racism", decides to be friendly with these radical leftist groups like Black Lives Matter, they'll adopt their secular leftist positions on homosexuality, abortion, and basically the entire DNC platform, in an attempt to be seen as advocating for kindness and equality in society. Christianity can't be reduced to just advocating for political and social causes, just like it can't be reduced to GOP talking points. Ironically, I see both sides complain about the other side of the church being too political without realizing how political they are themselves. My current church has been doing a great job of avoiding that, but now I don't know what the future holds.
I've had to witness my friends on Facebook turn into political machines, churning out "hot-takes" and sometimes outright propaganda about how black people are oppressed, police are evil, every statue or plaque honoring any historical figure from before the 1980s should be taken down because they were all racist, etc. These people are too ignorant right now to realize that technically, Christianity too has been spread by "racist" societies and governments through imperialism. Whether the individual missionaries themselves were racist is another matter, but I can see "cancel culture" targeting them next, and they won't stop until it all gone. Even Biblical figures like David can be interpreted as not worthy of honor under this new system "once you're racist, you're beyond redemption and recognition."
In addition to the fact that this likely includes me, given what my past thoughts and attitudes that I mentioned earlier, I'm worried so many of my friends will become liberals and eventually leave the faith altogether due to being influenced by secular political culture. I already had one friend block me on Facebook long ago without even telling me. I feel awful at having alienated a friend and wish we could still be friends, but I haven't even been able to talk to him on the phone. It's as if he doesn't even exist anymore. But at the same time, the idea that I need to change my opinions on things without discussion, debate, or careful consideration to both sides of the argument, all because one side is supposedly bigoted and the other isn't, and I'll lose my friends if I don't, isn't appealing to me. I value the truth more than anything else. And if something is the truth, it remains true no matter how inconvenient, troubling or unfortunate that it is.
So, having said all of that, I don't know whether it's a good thing or not to air my opinions, even if I leave out my past racist thoughts. But I'm scared of these riots, I don't like that everyone is constantly talking about them, and how if you're not you're apparently a racist, and how this combined with the pandemic means Trump could lose in November. I know Trump isn't a Christian, but at least he claims that he will protect Christians instead of treating us with condescension and disdain like Obama did--unless, of course, those Christians vote Democrat and agree with them on everything, even if it means going against the Bible.
If we have another Democrat now of all times, it's back to a government that penalizes and dislikes conservative Christians, but much worse, now that the culture agrees with them even more. We already have social media censoring and suppressing any right-leaning or conservative thought and ideas, even if they are presented politely. Leftists came out in full force to whine about the Prager University ads on YouTube, for example, and those people were as polite as possible. So it makes no difference how polite and kind I am, I could hated just for having the wrong opinion and people on the left, even people who are supposedly my own fellow Christians, might justify it.
I don't want my beliefs forced out of me because I don't see me saying, "I'm not sure if black men are being killed by the police that often, or "I believe marriage and sex is between a man and a woman" as being hateful, or bigoted, or anything at all like someone who supported segregation, which tends to be the typical strawman comparison. I'm just trying to be a Christian, and my faith can't "evolve" into what other people want it to be, only what God wants it to be.
In the meantime, I started up a blog where I could give my thoughts on most of this, because I felt like it would be better than my Facebook to do so (my Facebook is set to private so only my friends can see what I post, but even then I have to wonder how many mistakes I've made by doing that in the first place). Right now, my friends are respectful with their opinions and in disagreeing with mine, but things could change the longer this pandemic goes on, the more politically-charged incidents happen in the news, the more dumb things Trump says, etc.
So I don't know whether it is more godly for me to engage with other people, or to shut them all out. I've tried shutting out the world before, and it just leads to me being miserable, anxious, and lonely, just like spending too much time interacting with others on the Internet does. I don't know what God is calling me to do.
Things were fine during the month of spring, when it seemed like not much was going on. Then George Floyd was murdered and protests and riots swept the country, despite having been told before that we were all supposed to practice "social distancing". Apparently racism was an even worse "pandemic" than an actual virus.
I would have been fine with everything if the protests remained peaceful, even though it still would have prolonged the pandemic. But instead, there were massive riots, more unrest, buildings being burned down, incidents of police brutality and more black men getting killed, thus inspiring more violence in a cycle of revenge. And now there seems to be a campaign focused on erasing history and striking the name of every historical figure and his achievements due to not having the same values as we do today--and thus a new social narrative of self-loathing and a resurgence of "cancel culture".
I don't like any of it and I want it all to end. I want things to go back to 2019, when everything was peaceful. People may insist that wasn't a particularly peaceful year, but it was comparatively peaceful to the Hell on Earth that 2020 has been for everyone, even me, even though I've avoided getting covid so far and no riots have happened where I live. I want to be able to live my life ordinarily and peacefully.
But everywhere I go, and every time I try and interact with people, it seems like people only want to discuss these issues. I have numerous fears surrounding all of this. One of them is that by engaging with people in conversations about all this, I'm going to be exposed as a racist.
I say that because I used to have an issue of having hateful thoughts. As far as I can remember I've never insulted a black person to his or her face. I've just found myself afraid of black men who are much physically stronger than me (I'm a skinny, short white guy) and I've always been afraid that they could beat me up, rob me, or kill me out of revenge for the racism my ancestors inflicted on theirs, or hatred of me if they were so inclined. In the time I was in college, a lot of the black men around me (but certainly not all) seemed to be very loud, annoying, disruptive and disrespectful of the rules, which provided more stress to me in an already stressful environment. Looking back, I know that most people did not mean to harm me at all. I know that I was too bitter and saw things that mildly inconvenienced me as a personal attack on me. It's nothing compared to what black people experience in their everyday lives and certainly no "reverse racism", but it's thoughts I used to have that I'm ashamed to have had. It didn't really end until I was out of college and most of my peers were white once again, like they had been before college.
I knew before the riots happened that at some point, I needed to overcome however much racism was in my heart if I was going to be a proper Christian. But I put it off because I thought other personal issues I needed to improve on were more important. Then when the riots happened, it was around that same time my predominately white (but full of millennials) church opened back up and had a sermon on racism, featuring a black pastor telling his experiences with it. It was a good sermon and tried to be as neutral and reconciling as possible, but it filled me with anxiety. I agreed with most of what my pastor said, except for one phrase: "Black lives matter is not a political statement". Given all of the news I had seen about the riots, I can't agree with that statement. Black Lives Matter as a group is a leftist political group with a good ideal but horrible tactics. I know that the Church wants to help heal racial tensions, but they don't need to side with this secular, leftist group that will insist Christianity take a back seat for its own narrative about why racism exists. "Black lives matter", to me, IS a political statement, even though it shouldn't be. It became one when leftists insisted that saying "All Lives Matter" is racist. I know the mindset behind that line of thinking, but I disagree with it. But apparently disagreement isn't allowed. "White silence is complicit in the oppression", or something. I don't know just how racist America is, and I don't know what to make of the various books being promoted right now that insist that America is still inherently racist and all black people are suffering under it. I'm skeptical of the claims made, but I don't think the other side wants to have a debate. If I tried presenting facts, statistics, etc., to the contrary of the narrative, I could be labelled a racist.
I have a lot of friends who are Christians but also leftists. Unlike me, they have no problem harmonizing their belief in Christ with their leftist political beliefs. Some of them stop short of supporting abortion and homosexuality, but others go all the way. Unfortunately, my own church has some of these leftists. I was reassured by my pastor that he believes what typical Christians have always believed, and isn't a leftist. I believe him, but he seems to have no problems appointing leftists to prominent positions in the church. I don't know why he isn't willing to be assertive of doctrine, but it could be a denominational difference. This is a Nazarene church and I was raised Presbyterian (PCA). God hasn't called me to any particular denomination, but he did call me to that particular church because before all of this happened, they were immensely kind to me.
I went away from that sermon, the first after things were starting to open back up (not sure whether that's a good idea or not, but that too has become politicized, which I hate), feeling alone, scared, and not able to trust anyone in my church. My fear was that if I admitted to having been racist in the past but skeptical of the BLM movement now, I would be deemed a racist and expelled from the church. I was filled with so much anxiety I had to run and hide away from the world, just like we've all had to be doing since the spring of 2020.
My fears go further, though. My other concerns are that if my church, in a desire to "fight racism", decides to be friendly with these radical leftist groups like Black Lives Matter, they'll adopt their secular leftist positions on homosexuality, abortion, and basically the entire DNC platform, in an attempt to be seen as advocating for kindness and equality in society. Christianity can't be reduced to just advocating for political and social causes, just like it can't be reduced to GOP talking points. Ironically, I see both sides complain about the other side of the church being too political without realizing how political they are themselves. My current church has been doing a great job of avoiding that, but now I don't know what the future holds.
I've had to witness my friends on Facebook turn into political machines, churning out "hot-takes" and sometimes outright propaganda about how black people are oppressed, police are evil, every statue or plaque honoring any historical figure from before the 1980s should be taken down because they were all racist, etc. These people are too ignorant right now to realize that technically, Christianity too has been spread by "racist" societies and governments through imperialism. Whether the individual missionaries themselves were racist is another matter, but I can see "cancel culture" targeting them next, and they won't stop until it all gone. Even Biblical figures like David can be interpreted as not worthy of honor under this new system "once you're racist, you're beyond redemption and recognition."
In addition to the fact that this likely includes me, given what my past thoughts and attitudes that I mentioned earlier, I'm worried so many of my friends will become liberals and eventually leave the faith altogether due to being influenced by secular political culture. I already had one friend block me on Facebook long ago without even telling me. I feel awful at having alienated a friend and wish we could still be friends, but I haven't even been able to talk to him on the phone. It's as if he doesn't even exist anymore. But at the same time, the idea that I need to change my opinions on things without discussion, debate, or careful consideration to both sides of the argument, all because one side is supposedly bigoted and the other isn't, and I'll lose my friends if I don't, isn't appealing to me. I value the truth more than anything else. And if something is the truth, it remains true no matter how inconvenient, troubling or unfortunate that it is.
So, having said all of that, I don't know whether it's a good thing or not to air my opinions, even if I leave out my past racist thoughts. But I'm scared of these riots, I don't like that everyone is constantly talking about them, and how if you're not you're apparently a racist, and how this combined with the pandemic means Trump could lose in November. I know Trump isn't a Christian, but at least he claims that he will protect Christians instead of treating us with condescension and disdain like Obama did--unless, of course, those Christians vote Democrat and agree with them on everything, even if it means going against the Bible.
If we have another Democrat now of all times, it's back to a government that penalizes and dislikes conservative Christians, but much worse, now that the culture agrees with them even more. We already have social media censoring and suppressing any right-leaning or conservative thought and ideas, even if they are presented politely. Leftists came out in full force to whine about the Prager University ads on YouTube, for example, and those people were as polite as possible. So it makes no difference how polite and kind I am, I could hated just for having the wrong opinion and people on the left, even people who are supposedly my own fellow Christians, might justify it.
I don't want my beliefs forced out of me because I don't see me saying, "I'm not sure if black men are being killed by the police that often, or "I believe marriage and sex is between a man and a woman" as being hateful, or bigoted, or anything at all like someone who supported segregation, which tends to be the typical strawman comparison. I'm just trying to be a Christian, and my faith can't "evolve" into what other people want it to be, only what God wants it to be.
In the meantime, I started up a blog where I could give my thoughts on most of this, because I felt like it would be better than my Facebook to do so (my Facebook is set to private so only my friends can see what I post, but even then I have to wonder how many mistakes I've made by doing that in the first place). Right now, my friends are respectful with their opinions and in disagreeing with mine, but things could change the longer this pandemic goes on, the more politically-charged incidents happen in the news, the more dumb things Trump says, etc.
So I don't know whether it is more godly for me to engage with other people, or to shut them all out. I've tried shutting out the world before, and it just leads to me being miserable, anxious, and lonely, just like spending too much time interacting with others on the Internet does. I don't know what God is calling me to do.