The Wedding Night

[caleb2514]

Okay, so I'm getting married in 3 weeks. My question is how bad am I gonna be at sex the first time? By the time I actually have sex it would be about 6 weeks since the last time I masterbated. I've prayed for strength to deny the Devil from my lustful behavior, and He has answered, but I feel my wedding night may be very fast.

Any married people know what I should do to make it last longer? I just don't want to disappoint her.

 

[seamonster]

Don't worry about it!

Just take everything really slow with lots of foreplay. The first time is usually kind of awkward because you're just figuring everything out, and most girls don't expect everything to be perfect the first time. In fact, she's probably worried about how good you think *she's* going to be!

As Blue Impulse said, don't fret -- you guys will have the rest of your lives to perfect your lovemaking. Don't think your first time is how it always will be -- it'll get better and better and better.

Another word of advice -- don't be afraid to laugh together. Funny stuff happens in the bedroom and this is something nobody warned me about when I got married. Sometimes you just have to roll back and giggle together.

And definitely post this in the marriage forum for some more feedback

 

[Sketcher]

Not married, no sexual experience, but I've got to agree that "How bad am I going to be?" is the wrong question, and that will make you worse. Take a more confident approach. After all, she is crazy about you, right?

 

[invisiblebabe]

Many blessings to you for waiting. She should feel extremely blessed that you did wait, and that should be enough regardless of how "long" it is on the wedding night.

Sex isn't a performance, so try not to think of it that way

-kayli

 

[BlackLamb]

Dude, I know it's easier said then done, but don't worry about it! You should be excited! You're starting a new life with your mate, and well, to be frank, I'd just be glad I could finally have sex (I'm not even engaged to the guy I'm in love with yet, so I've got quite a while to wait).

But why don't you try The Marriage Bed (www.themarriagebed.com)? It's a christian website about sex and marriage and all that good stuff. You might be able to find something there that helps you out, or go to the forums. I'm sure the people there would be able to help you out, especially since there's an area in the forum specifically for engaged people. So you won't feel so alone.

And congratulations!

 

[dusky_tresses]

Wedding night...I'd probably be freaking out myself too...

 

[newyorknewyork]

try not to stress too much

relax and enjoy it all

you will have the rest of your lives together to get better at sex!

 

[Lake]

this is just stuff I don't wanna know about,lol..sorry guy.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

I would be feeling this way too, just pray about it. And if she really loves you she wont care.

 

[Johnnz]

You will take some time to learn the many ways of mutually satisfying sex. Relax, enjoy, and be willing to learn.

Good information is important too, but you won't always relate information and experience all at once.

John
NZ

 

[dusky_tresses]

Just look forwards to that night. I've heard that laughing helps And this is gonna sound funny but since when have you HAD to do it on the wedding night? I mean, can't you just cuddle and fall asleep together, and then have fun the next day

 

[fandera]

Um...hopefully you have some married guys who will give you real advice...technical stuff.......that's a little much for all ears...just get someone who will give some nuts and bolts stuff. We know our own gear, but, thankfully, you don't know a girls...so get some good advice. Hopefully some good girl will give your fiancee good advice too.

Have fun. I have no idea how bad I am, and neither does my wife. We are the only ones the other has ever been with, all since our marriage 8 years ago...but we like each other just fine.

Blessings,

 

[sistagirl]

Okay, so I'm getting married in 3 weeks. My question is how bad am I gonna be at sex the first time? By the time I actually have sex it would be about 6 weeks since the last time I masterbated. I've prayed for strength to deny the Devil from my lustful behavior, and He has answered, but I feel my wedding night may be very fast.

Any married people know what I should do to make it last longer? I just don't want to disappoint her.

hey do u love her than thaat all matters cause if shes the one than your love should be strong to withhold any of that just make god your centrepeice and nothing can go wrong

 

[stevezak11]

I've had the same thoughts. Don't know what to say!!!

 

[holo]

The only thing that will make you last longer, is to actually have had an [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]. In other words, touch, if you don't want to blow your load within seconds. But I take it that's not an option for you. So I guess all you can do, technically, is to sleep with her and then sleep with her again.

Other than that, have fun and laugh. Take it easy ans slowly.

 

[AutumnDreamer]

Okay, so I'm getting married in 3 weeks. My question is how bad am I gonna be at sex the first time? By the time I actually have sex it would be about 6 weeks since the last time I masterbated. I've prayed for strength to deny the Devil from my lustful behavior, and He has answered, but I feel my wedding night may be very fast.

Any married people know what I should do to make it last longer? I just don't want to disappoint her.

Focus on her for as long as she needs, do not rush into the intercourse, take your time wiht her and don't worry you will both be fine. The first time can be akward and quick but you have a whole lifetime to figure it all out.

 

[Carri20]

Okay, so I'm getting married in 3 weeks. My question is how bad am I gonna be at sex the first time? By the time I actually have sex it would be about 6 weeks since the last time I masterbated. I've prayed for strength to deny the Devil from my lustful behavior, and He has answered, but I feel my wedding night may be very fast.

Any married people know what I should do to make it last longer? I just don't want to disappoint her.

Um.. Don't worry about it. If she's like the majority of women then she won't care how good or bad you are, just that you're there. And whatever you do, don't get frustrated if she doesn't...you know, reach her peak. Women are built differently than men and you could spend YEARS trying to figure out what trips her trigger.

Just relax and try to enjoy the meaning rather than the process.

 

[AceHero]

If she's like the majority of women then she won't care how good or bad you are, just that you're there.

Women don't just like to feel good, they like to be felt. And from what I've heard, females are emotion maniacs. Sex is so much more than physical for them, which is probably good for the wedding night concerning the average guy's inexperience.

 

[intricatic]

Women don't just like to feel good, they like to be felt. And from what I've heard, females are emotion maniacs. Sex is so much more than physical for them, which is probably good for the wedding night concerning the average guy's inexperience.

I dunno, I thought sex was a great deal more than physical.

Maybe women are just more in tuned with the nature of the experience than most men are.

 

[YouthPastor]

is she a virgin as well? ( ihave a reson for asking)