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The "Pentecostal dress code" thread

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NorrinRadd

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I wanted to add my rants to the "Is there a Pentecostal dress code" thread in the Pentecostal forum, but since I don't hold to all the listed Pentecostal beliefs -- specifically that Spirit-baptism necessarily follows salvation, and that tongues is "evidence" of such, initial or otherwise -- I think I am technically not permitted to post in that forum. (Since I saw at least one non-Trinitarian posting there repeatedly, I don't know how strictly the rules are enforced, but for now at least, I'll try to play along.) So, I'll broach the topic here.

I used to attend a Pentecostal church. It was chartered under the Independent Assemblies of God (which is distinct from the "regular" Assemblies of God). Since the IAOGI is explicitly committed to the autonomy of the local church, I'm fairly sure the "holiness" and "modesty" torah of the church I attended reflected the thinking of the pastor, and not the parent organization.

And yes, at that church there was a dress code, but it was not written down. The basic intents were modesty and holiness . So, for example, "social" dancing was discouraged, but we were encouraged to "dance before the Lord" or "dance in the Spirit" What the leadership *expected* regards to those latter ones was essentially the ol' "Pentecostal Two-Step" ; in reality, some of the younger women didn't know the "right" way to dance in church, and so would pretty much shake their stuff as if they were in a club.

In terms of apparel, women who were not directly involved in ministry could wear pretty much anything. It was assumed they would not be displaying cleavage -- front or rear -- or doing something totally idiotic like wearing a see-through shirt with no underwear. I know they were also told "no bare midriffs." Fine. The problem is, not all men are "turned on" by the same things. I happen to find Rose McGowan's hip-curves more attractive than Alyssa Milano's cleavage or belly-button. I'll notice -- and be distracted by -- a pair of athletic but not manly bare arms at least as quickly as by a pair of shapely legs in a short skirt.

There were rules for the men, too. I got a, um, "brief" lecture once for wearing short pants to an evening service.

There were additional and more specific rules for those directly involved in ministry. For Sunday AM service, ushers and greeters were to wear jacket and tie; for evening services, jacket was optional. Women were to wear dresses or skirts. The general principle was "look your best when you go to the house of God," and those involved in ministry were to "lead by example."

(And of course there's the unofficial "T-shirt rule." If you wear a T with any kind of wording on it, it must be some sort of evangelistic or God-praising message, or else you get the stink-eye from all the Maude Flanders Christians.)

This was all well intentioned. It was also futile, silly, and unscriptural.

Modesty is fine. Rules are questionable, at best.

(Col 2:20) If with Christ you died to the elemental spirits of the universe, why do you live as if you still belonged to the world? Why do you submit to regulations,

(Col 2:21) "Do not handle, Do not taste, Do not touch"?

(Col 2:22) All these regulations refer to things that perish with use; they are simply human commands and teachings.

(Col 2:23) These have indeed an appearance of wisdom in promoting self-imposed piety, humility, and severe treatment of the body, but they are of no value in checking self-indulgence.

We see the same thing in Galatians. Focus on external rules leads to the works of the flesh. Paying attention to God inside leads to the fruit of the Spirit.

The point is to not be a distraction to others in the assembly. Instead of wasting time piddling with rules about who was showing what, they could have gotten A/C and better fans. Stifling heat is at least as much of a distraction as a glimpse of skin here and there. If you keep the temperature comfy, people will feel less need to wear "abbreviated" clothing.

The "look good when you're in church" and "look especially good if you're serving" things are sadly Old Covenant in perspective. The church building is not the holy Temple; that honor belongs to the people. And the people serving are not some special Levites who are to be set apart by ornate ephods. I always did sort of enjoy dressing a little better when I went to church, just because it was an "outing" of sorts. But I questioned that a bit when guys would come in straight from work, not having had time to change clothes; or when we'd get people of very modest means, who didn't have many clothing options. Adjusting for cultural context, THAT is the point of 1 Tim. 2:9.

Happily, that church was not a "long hair for women, short hair for men" church, nor a "no pants for women" church. Instead of saying what I *really* think of that sort of doctrine (hint: Gal. 5:12), I'll just call it bizarre and unscriptural. On the one hand, they want to carry over Deut. 22:5, even though we are redeemed from the curse of the law. On the other hand, they want to ignore the Nazirite example; those men were exceedingly "holy," and showed it by their long hair.

Ok, rant over.
 

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Sounds like you know your bible well. And the church you are discussing is still not as strict as some; in my circle we fondly (because the people are super nice) call them "skirt ladies"; those churches where women are not allowed to cut any portion of their hair, including bangs, and must wear dresses or skirts and cannot wear makeup. However, most of the people I know who are skirt ladies are Christians, just like I am.

Like Augustine said: In the essentials, unity, in the nonessentials (like skirts and makeup), liberty, and in everything, charity. I can see where your rant is coming from, but those are great words to live by, don't you agree? :)
 
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I agree with you. I often think back to the early church and what they did when they had their meetings. I don't think those meetings were as structured as ours are today. After all, they had a love feast! I bet they got their clothes all dirty from the barbecue ribs! J/K
 
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Our church agreed, right from the start, that we would not have a dress code. It worked well … until God tested our resolve.

We were happy that people wore sandals and burmudas, T-shirts and cut-offs. Then people started showing up in short-shorts, tank-tops, AC/DC, and Budweiser T-shirts, Goth kids showed-up in black attire, body piercing and an attitude. The usual grumblings came from the older members.

What were we to do? We were tempted to draw up some rules—dress-codes—but we decided to stick to our resolve and love and accept anyone God led into our fellowship. We felt this was God’s will for us.

In time, as we just loved on people, folks began to opt for modesty and today we are a pretty conservative-looking group. Occasionally, someone will show up a little less “conservative” than others but we have learned that God will take care of these things if we just love people.

~Jim


God doesn’t exist for the sake of humanity. ~C.S. Lewis
 
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Dressing with love is required... if someone of the opposite sex was trying to HELP others who might be wounded by the vexing of "lust", then they would dress as not to entice. This goes for men (who tend to dress to display specific unchristian attitudes or lifestyles) as well as women.

I seem to be saying this a lot in various threads. I hope it sinks in.
Ladies, many men have a lot of trouble dealing with lust. PLEASE don't make it harder for us!

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Its not about the clothing of the body, it is about the nakedness of the heart, its about Loving, not about judgeing. The angels sing as should we when a goth child, when a stinking bumb, a street harlot, a chemicial smelling crack head, walk or stumble into an assembly of Christs deciples, because in that instant the Light of Christ should be seen through the clothing through the achohol through the drugs through the hardness of heart and the damage satan and the world has done. We can further that damage by demanding a change in action and appearance or we can Love without conditions and allow the Holy Spirit to give direction. May we choose to allow our hearts to be naked and judgement left to Shiloh !!
 
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Its not about the clothing of the body, it is about the nakedness of the heart, its about Loving, not about judgeing. The angels sing as should we when a goth child, when a stinking bumb, a street harlot, a chemicial smelling crack head, walk or stumble into an assembly of Christs deciples, because in that instant the Light of Christ should be seen through the clothing through the achohol through the drugs through the hardness of heart and the damage satan and the world has done. We can further that damage by demanding a change in action and appearance or we can Love without conditions and allow the Holy Spirit to give direction. May we choose to allow our hearts to be naked and judgement left to Shiloh !!

GREAT GREAT response!
 
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Its not about the clothing of the body, it is about the nakedness of the heart, its about Loving, not about judgeing. The angels sing as should we when a goth child, when a stinking bumb, a street harlot, a chemicial smelling crack head, walk or stumble into an assembly of Christs deciples, because in that instant the Light of Christ should be seen through the clothing through the achohol through the drugs through the hardness of heart and the damage satan and the world has done. We can further that damage by demanding a change in action and appearance or we can Love without conditions and allow the Holy Spirit to give direction. May we choose to allow our hearts to be naked and judgement left to Shiloh !!

Amen Rod! As long as someone doesn't walk in wearing their birthday suit, we all should be happy! And if they do, the Christ thing to do would be to offer them a piece of your own clothing. But not so you would be naked. :doh: Open mouth, insert foot! ^_^
 
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Amen Rod! As long as someone doesn't walk in wearing their birthday suit, we all should be happy! And if they do, the Christ thing to do would be to offer them a piece of your own clothing. But not so you would be naked. :doh: Open mouth, insert foot! ^_^

That reminds me: I recently read that by Jewish custom, baptisms were performed naked. It's not clear whether John the Baptist or the early Christians retained the same custom. :eek:

What would THAT do for church attendance?! :swoon:
 
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Sounds like you know your bible well.

Eh, reasonably. Just don't ask me to actually LIVE it!


And the church you are discussing is still not as strict as some; in my circle we fondly (because the people are super nice) call them "skirt ladies"; those churches where women are not allowed to cut any portion of their hair, including bangs, and must wear dresses or skirts and cannot wear makeup. However, most of the people I know who are skirt ladies are Christians, just like I am.
Yes, the people at my old church were also; still are when I run into them. I appreciate their intent, even as I chafe at the application.


Like Augustine said: In the essentials, unity, in the nonessentials (like skirts and makeup), liberty, and in everything, charity. I can see where your rant is coming from, but those are great words to live by, don't you agree? :)
Piffle. Haven't you heard the old song that "they'll know we are Christians by the way we mock and criticize each other"? Oh, wait...
 
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Dressing with love is required... if someone of the opposite sex was trying to HELP others who might be wounded by the vexing of "lust", then they would dress as not to entice. This goes for men (who tend to dress to display specific unchristian attitudes or lifestyles) as well as women. ...

Yes.

It occurs to me that men try to look "cool," and women try to look "hot." When they're being selfishly motivated, that is.
 
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