Should my boyfriend know every detail about my past?

[alexus711]

Hello,

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 10 months now. We both have accepted God into our hearts and to be the center focus of our relationship. We both love each other very much and know that God has plans for our relationship. Overall everything is going great.

However there is one thing I'm not comfortable talking about with him. My past. Throughout the past 5 months he's been asking about my sexual past. I was very promiscuous before I became Christian. I had the Holy Spirit warn me not to speak of this with him until the right timing. But my boyfriend wanted me to tell him every single person I had been with and when, where, and how this occurred.

At first I lied that certain things didn't happen but did and I was too uncomfortable telling him. I recently revealed to him that I lied about my past. He was very upset that I lied about my past leaving him heartbroken knowing what I did and that I betrayed me. I asked him for forgiveness and he had forgiven me, but it's the last straw. But now I have this guilt, as if I should tell him more of a description of what happened, because I did not tell him when this occurred. I don't know I should bring this up again to be more detailed with him. I don't feel comfortable talking about my past but he told me that if I lie to him again he will break up with me. What should I do?

 

[rob_aston]

the Holy Spirit warn me not to speak of this with him until the right timing

sis, this is a good experience for you, i know it's horrible and you feel stink but the Holy Spirit's voice is gifted to u for a reason...you are to grow too sweetness. His voice is always to be obeyed...God wants u to now read Judges 16. private message me for more if u like

 

[ripple the car]

I feel like his insistence that you reveal graphic details about your sexual past is kind of creepy. Simply knowing that you have a past, that you've committed yourself to Christ and to purity *now*, and that you have regrets but are looking forward to a Godly future with him should be enough. If getting to know in graphic detail what you did in the past is a condition for his staying with you, I'd prayerfully consider letting him go if that's his condition.

 

[com7fy8]

every single person I had been with and when, where, and how this occurred.

Well, how something occurs can mean all the details of what has happened, but also how it occurred can mean how the thing got started.

I certainly would not expect my lady friend to tell me all the details of her wrong relationships . . . certainly not pornographic details!

But I would be interested in knowing what made her able to give in to doing the wrong things. And then I might be careful not to do or say what could help to tempt her to do what is wrong. And I would pray for her to become strong more and more in real loving, so she does not stay the way that made her able to do wrong things.

In different ways, I myself have gone the wrong way, and it has helped me to get wise to things in me which helped me to give in and go the wrong way. So, I might be interested in talking with her about what can get her to go the wrong way, and we can go through scripture and pray together so we do better

 

[Sketcher]

I have never heard of graphic details being beneficial to a relationship. Don't lie, but what does he need to know and why does he need to know it, at this stage in the relationship? If he doesn't need to know, you don't have to tell him. That's for his own good as well as yours.

In case there's a next time, don't lie about your past. Lying about your past is worse than having one. What a guy does need to know is where you are at now, and what evidence there is in your life for the change that you are claiming. How are your relationships different now than they used to be?