Should a guy ALWAYS come pick his girlfriend up?

[somethingBEAUTIFUL]

What do you think? Should a guy always come pick up his girlfriend from her house in order to spend time together? My grandmother believes this. She has a problem anytime that my boyfriend asks me to meet him in town if he is already out, or if I would mind driving over to his house either to meet him to go out, or just to hang out there. This happens about 8% of the time. The other 92% of the time, he picks me up, meets me in town, or drives over to my house. We live about 12 minutes apart, in a small town. We live roughly 25 minutes from the city (what I was calling "in town" previously). We've been dating for 2-and-a-half years. I have no problem with meeting him occasionally or driving to where he lives. My grandmother says she is just old-fashioned in her beliefs about how a guy should treat a lady. Hopefully she will not look down on him, but will instead realize that this is just how we do things. It would seem dumb to me sometimes to wait for him to come all the way back from town to get me just to head back up there all over again, when I can just go meet him. Especially when we want/need to be somewhere at a certain time, like a movie. Know what I mean? Oh well!

 

[Abiel]

If you were my daughter, living at home, and under say 21 years of age, maybe. But your profile says you are 25. You are quite old enough to get yourself around occassionally!

(Sorry to butt in- I saw your post on the new posts page!)

 

[The Nihilist]

Grandparents aren't always the best people to consult regarding the subtleties of contemporary social interaction. For example, what word does she use when referring to black people? I'm certainly not calling anyone a racist, but I've got a 100,000 blessings that says it's not a word I'd use in public.

 

[Manda_24]

It doesn't matter in my opinion. My boyfriend and I share driving, though I think I drive more than he does now, I don't mind at all though, I like driving and he doesn't care all the much for it. If we're doing something at my house he drives over and I drive if I'm going over to his house. Occasionally we'll have lunch on campus and he'll drive there since I take the bus and when he gets a lunch at work sometimes I'll drive in at eat with him.

One nice thing is that we live so close, last year when we started dating we were within walking distance of each other, he'd often walk down to my house, now we're about three minutes apart by car.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

She's right, she is old fashioned. If you want to pick him up, or it's more practical to meet up, or you drive a sports or luxury car and he drives a hoopty, then why not drive?

 

[Luther073082]

Definatly not a necessity that he always comes and picks you up. Its not offensive that he occasionally asks you to do some driving or something. Its treating you like an adult.

 

[gzt]

I mean, come on. There's a point to the old rules, but even they would bow to the practicality of the thing back in the day. If you really want to hearken back to the "old times" where such a thing might be the case, men didn't have "girlfriends" to pick up: they would get engaged to be married when mutual interest was expressed.

 

[somethingBEAUTIFUL]

Thanks for your replies everyone Guess I may just have to let things like that go in one ear and out the other (but no disrepect to her at the same time).

 

[xDenax]

Well, Grandmothers are sweet....but no, picking up your bf is just fine.

 

[NathanHocking]

I don't think its a case of right or wrong, I enjoy driving and picking a girl up.

 

[Megann*]

I think the fair thing would be that if you have your own vehical then half the girl can pick the guy up and the other half the guy can pick the girl up. Or you guys could maybe just find a place to meet up so you both end up driving a little =)

 

[SmileAndAHandshake]

I'll keep it short by just answering the subject:

"Should a guy ALWAYS come pick his girlfriend up?"

No.

You do whatever works for both of you in any one instance.

 

[AllisonWonderland]

I think older people tend to be very set in their ways. Maybe this is just what she likes and has a hard time seeing it another way.

Sometimes my boyfriend drives, and sometimes I do. He usually does end up driving a little more than me though. But I like to offer incase he doesn't feel like driving or is low on gas. However, if we are going on a date, he usually picks me because we like to be traditional. Plus he's quite the gentelman!

But to answer you're question... I don't think it makes a bit of difference.

 

[BranwenUerchLlyr]

My guy definitly enjoys feeling like the *big man* by picking me up, holding my books when we walk across campus, paying when we're out, holding doors, and all such other things. He's very nuturing and likes to express it, perhaps a bit more than recieving it. If left to his own, he'd do it all--I'd never allow this though, and do this stuff for him in turn. We often fight over who gets to pay--not trying to pass it off on the other, but insisting that the other must have last time so now its our turn.

It definitly isn't the job of one party, but both should be willing to do their share and more so nobody feels left out.