Sexual acts in the marriage bed.

[James22]

Okay.., I'm sure this questions has been asked, but I'm a new member to this site but not a new member to the "Borned Again Christian family". My question is: what sexual acts are acceptable as married Christians, husband and wife to do in the privacy of their bed room? Is oral sex something that the scriptures directs us (Christians) from doing? Or is it a personal choice between husband and wife to do or not to do?

 

[caitlincares]

This subject has been discussed before and if anyone wants to please respond decently
and if you have any other comments, take it to PM. Thanks

 

[Andy Broadley]

Not read anywhere that oral sex is not ok.
In a loving marriage with both people happy about it (important that) then I suppose it's whatever works for that couple.

 

[bliz]

You will find differing opinions within the Christian community. Many Christians, myself among them, believe tht so long as both parties are comfortable, there are no inappropriate sexual activities between husband and wife.

 

[MaryAlaina]

Whatever is "acceptable to both and harmful to neither" is what I've been told is ok to do.

 

[manda79]

If both husband and wife give consent then it is ok. What ever you do is between you and God.

 

[ElderMan2000]

My spouse and I feel that if performing a certain sexual act on eachother is fine then it's fine with God, as long as it's between my spouse and I.

 

[InTheFlame]

Marriage Partnership (Christianity Today) have some articles about this - most of the ones I've read have been quite sensible and balanced. Here's a link to some of them -

http://www.christianitytoday.com/marriage/features/realsex/

 

[GirlieGirl]

Intimate Issues is a good book to pick up about this.

 

[IslandBreeze]

You will find differing opinions within the Christian community. Many Christians, myself among them, believe tht so long as both parties are comfortable, there are no inappropriate sexual activities between husband and wife.

I'm of that mindset as well.

 

[mghalpern]

Intimate Issues is a good book to pick up about this.

Excellent book. Have given to many newly marrieds as part of their wedding gift along with "Moments Together for Couples" (Rainey)...Michael

 

[Ringu]

You all have to understand that sex is designed only for reproduction. Therefore the only acceptable sex is the one that is most effective in your attempts to get pregnant.

 

[lancers1990]

I suggest the book "Sheet Music" by Kevin Lehman.

 

[Oblivious]

You all have to understand that sex is designed only for reproduction. Therefore the only acceptable sex is the one that is most effective in your attempts to get pregnant.

You're kidding, right? How about for pleasure? Why would God make something that gives us so much pleasure only for the means of reproduction? What if one can't get pregnant - then they can't enjoy ior have sex?

To answer the OP, there is nothing with oral sex within a marriage.

 

[mghalpern]

You all have to understand that sex is designed only for reproduction. Therefore the only acceptable sex is the one that is most effective in your attempts to get pregnant.

Ringu... Before you read "Sheet Music" read the Good Book... The Song of Songs...Michael

 

[Ringu]

Song of Songs does not have "sex" in it. You probably stretch it too far and say it's about sex.

 

[mghalpern]

Song of Songs does not have "sex" in it. You probably stretch it too far and say it's about sex.

Ringu... Guess we're not reading the same "Songs."...Michael

 

[Ringu]

Ringu... Guess we're not reading the same "Songs."...Michael

I meant Songs of Songs of Solomon. What do you mean?

 

[Zoomer]

You all have to understand that sex is designed only for reproduction. Therefore the only acceptable sex is the one that is most effective in your attempts to get pregnant.

I am curious if you can show me the verses that speak of marriage as only for procreation?

Song of Songs does not have "sex" in it. You probably stretch it too far and say it's about sex.

Have you ever read the book? I am guessing that you have not, since the comment above. It's a beautifully written, very sensual book- I suggest you read it. Here's one chapter:

Song of Solomon 7
1 How beautiful your sandaled feet,
O prince's daughter!
Your graceful legs are like jewels,
the work of a craftsman's hands.
2 Your navel is a rounded goblet
that never lacks blended wine.
Your waist is a mound of wheat
encircled by lilies.
3 Your breasts are like two fawns,
twins of a gazelle.
4 Your neck is like an ivory tower.
Your eyes are the pools of Heshbon
by the gate of Bath Rabbim.
Your nose is like the tower of Lebanon
looking toward Damascus.
5 Your head crowns you like Mount Carmel.
Your hair is like royal tapestry;
the king is held captive by its tresses.
6 How beautiful you are and how pleasing,
O love, with your delights!
7 Your stature is like that of the palm,
and your breasts like clusters of fruit.
8 I said, "I will climb the palm tree;
I will take hold of its fruit."
May your breasts be like the clusters of the vine,
the fragrance of your breath like apples,
9 and your mouth like the best wine.


Beloved
May the wine go straight to my lover,
flowing gently over lips and teeth.
10 I belong to my lover,
and his desire is for me.
11 Come, my lover, let us go to the countryside,
let us spend the night in the villages.
12 Let us go early to the vineyards
to see if the vines have budded,
if their blossoms have opened,
and if the pomegranates are in bloom-
there I will give you my love.
13 The mandrakes send out their fragrance,
and at our door is every delicacy,
both new and old,
that I have stored up for you, my lover.

To answer the OP, I believe that oral sex, toys etc. are fine if both husband and wife consent. The only things that cannot be done are bringing others into the bed, whether it is actual people or porn.

 

[shaaz_99]

actually Guys this has been bothering me for a while...this same issue...so if anyone has Bible refs about sex in marriage...i would really appreciate it......