sex toys

[disciple0dave0012]

i had a long talk with my mom who is a pastor in the umc i am aslo studying to be a pastor in the umc. the other nite we had a long talk about sex and the church and personal views

We both came to an aggment that a married couple can use sex toys with in the bed as long it does not become an addictio or lust to one or both. My mom said some can be fun and smiple has dress up as cowboy or sexy nurse. But other can walk a fine line ie "personal massagers" where it can led to lust. but things such as pumps can help guys who have iusses riseing.

my thing is the church should be there and give advice any and all part of ppl lifes form sex to meantl heath.

anywho, i was wondering what others thoughts about this with in a Christian life.

 

[fuji]

Everything sounds good to me.

What goes on in a couples bedroom is their own business in my opinion.

 

[Life2Christ]

I think at God's judgement seat, sex toys will be the last thing anyone will care about it. God will be concerned about the relationship first and foremost.

 

[CounselorForChrist]

Agreed. Although I have met people who think you can only have straight up simple sex, anything else such as use of toys or new ways to do it are sinful. Which makes no sense to me since the gift of marriage is sharing your bodies with each other without sin. Unless you have a third person or something like that, anything goes, well assuming your other half is ok with it obviously.

When we helped a pastor and his family move one time they had us over to help pack up things. Well while taking things out of a closet for them a box tipped over and out spilled handcuffs and other "fetish" type items. Just as it fell the pastors wife walked in and a akward silence commenced. I sort of mumbled (to change the subject) something about some other boxes I have pilled up and reay to bring out.

She said "Ok thanks". More akward silence commenced as she bent down to put away the items. Then I was like "Um, I'm going to go grab a drink!" and I walked out with a red face. So moral of the story don't help a pastor move unless you want to risk finding out things you never wanted to know. LOL ^.^

 

[xRUSTYx]

I am 100% ok with sex toys between married couples. In my married couples (small group) -- I even suggest places on where to get them.

My wife is not able to "release" via traditional sex. We use a vibrator while making love (during intercourse) so she can receive satisfaction as well.

I see nothing wrong, as she is not *lusting* after the vibrator.

Dress Up, Lubes, *Toys*, etc... all OK in my eyes, and I feel, OK in the eyes of the Lord as well

 

[disciple0dave0012]

I am 100% ok with sex toys between married couples. In my married couples (small group) -- I even suggest places on where to get them.

My wife is not able to "release" via traditional sex. We use a vibrator while making love (during intercourse) so she can receive satisfaction as well.

I see nothing wrong, as she is not *lusting* after the vibrator.

Dress Up, Lubes, *Toys*, etc... all OK in my eyes, and I feel, OK in the eyes of the Lord as well

wel lube can be helpful seeing lot of women cant proded enough thire own lube so intercouse can be painful without lube.

 

[Vulnic]

Between a married couple, there is no biblical evidence to suggest that there is sexual conduct that can be considered immoral.

But consider this: how do you obtain a sex toy? You buy it from a business that sells other vices, such as hardcore pornography.

Therefore, why should any Christian be spending his or her money towards a shop/business that sells these things? He or she would be financially supporting a business that has ultimately aligned itself against God.

 

[disciple0dave0012]

Between a married couple, there is no biblical evidence to suggest that there is sexual conduct that can be considered immoral.

But consider this: how do you obtain a sex toy? You buy it from a business that sells other vices, such as hardcore pornography.

Therefore, why should any Christian be spending his or her money towards a shop/business that sells these things? He or she would be financially supporting a business that has ultimately aligned itself against God.

i see them at the drug stores time to time so it dosnt have to be form a tore that sells porn.

 

[BFine]

My take on this--
Your own spouse should be your "sex toy"--I haven't went to an X-rated shop or
a so called "love store" for any of their products.
I don't own any sexy lingerie either-- neither of our
naughty imaginations have been exhausted yet and we've been married
for nearly 10 yrs.

 

[CounselorForChrist]

Your own spouse should be your "sex toy"--I haven't went to an X-rated shop or
a so called "love store" for any of their products.
I don't own any sexy lingerie either-- neither of our
naughty imaginations have been exhausted yet and we've been married
for nearly 10 yrs.
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I am not married just yet but thats how I feel. My soon to be wife doens't need to buy sex toys or lingerie. When you first start in a marriage I am pretty sure theres alot of imagination when it comes to keeping that spark going.

Not to mention I have always felt uncomfortable with the thought of a spouse using a toy instead of being with me. To me it indicates that they get more pleasure from some object then their spouse. In the case of women I know this is often the case because men don't work hard at learning their spouses body and what does/doesn't work. Which is key to doing of you want that part of your marriage to have lots of passion. If you become one, you REALLY need to literally become one. You should know each other inside and out (er, no pun intended).

Anything but our bodies (sex toys...etc) will be a last resort to keep the spark going. Not to mention I also feel weird about buying them since so often that industry supports things I would not.