Rude Church Secretary

[Monica02]

I need to vent!!!

Thank you all who take the time to read my rants.

We are selling roses for Mother's Day at my parish.
I arranged to place the roses (1100) in the rectory garage this morning.
I ring the rectory bell, the secretary lets me in.
I tell her that I need to get into the garage.


She is soooooo rude to me.

She was visibly irritated that I asked to get into the garage. "Isn't it open, don't you know how to get in?"
she says in broken English with a really nasty attitude.

Well, honestly I did not remember how to get in to the garage. Like I am just going to walk into the rectory and open Father's garage without notifying someone even if I did know how to enter. DUUUUHHH!!!



Then she says as she leads me to the garage door from her office. "We must hurry, the phone might ring."
HELLOOOOO! How rude is that!!!!!! Since when is it good etiquette to blow a guest off because the phone might ring.

So she hurries and I don't because I have bad knees and go down the stairs at my own pace. I meet her at the door and she gives me the dirtiest look becasue I was not fast enough.

Then she like scolds me, points to the outside door and says "Use that door because other doors are locked."

So I ask her about the tables and chairs I requested for the rose sale and "I don't know anything about that" is the rude reply. Well gee whiz, the nice secretaries say "Oh, I will ask so and so". Then I reply, "Oh I left so and so a note, we usually do not have any problem."
Pleasantries are exchanged, we work out the issues in a nice, polite way.

Then the wench starts to walk away while I am still talking to her. I wanted to ask about the utility sink as we need it for the water buckets. Geesh - I did not get a chance, all I know is that the DOOR IS LOCKED and I am not allowed in.

Cripes, what is wrong with people. Usually the secreatries are soooo nice and have enough sense to use good manners.

I need scotch tape for my signs - I wonder if I should ask the rude secretary?

 

[She]

My sympathies to you. We get this attitude at the local Catholic school. The secretaries treat the school-children and their parents like dirt. Then they have the audacity to attend Mass on a Sunday and go to Holy Communion! I just cannot understand their mentality.

 

[Monica02]

My sympathies to you. We get this attitude at the local Catholic school. The secretaries treat the school-children and their parents like dirt. Then they have the audacity to attend Mass on a Sunday and go to Holy Communion! I just cannot understand their mentality.

Why do you suppose that people want to by nasty and rude? Wouln't everyone be happier if people were nice and polite.

 

[MariaRegina]

Sounds like a suggestion is in order.

What about sponsoring a day of recollection for the secretaries? It might change their attitude if the parents help out by preparing the food for the luncheon.

 

[GraceInHim]

Why do you suppose that people want to by nasty and rude? Wouln't everyone be happier if people were nice and polite.

went through this myself with a secretary for the Christmas Charities.. we were against each other because I did not like the way she treated the people who came to receive. Can honestly say it bothered me and I actually left the charities due to this attitude.

I returned, we are friends now and she has changed for the better.. I never reported her because I felt guilty to, but I spoke with her a lot when I returned and she still has that little bit of Gestapo type attitude but much better.. but not as bad as before.

hope things change for you

 

[Carrye]

Who knows what was going on with her today. Say a prayer for her.

 

[JewelInHisCrown]

I would definetly say a prayer for her...I've actually done this in the past - You could say to her, "I'm sorry am I doing something that is making you angry with me because that is not my intention". It will make her stop and think 'man, am I coming across nasty?' to herself and give her alittle wake up call.

I've had two women be SO rude to me in a Catholic gift shop. I couldn't believe it. I was there to buy stuff for our faith and these two women who owned the store were SO mean! You would think that they would have the love of Christ in them. And this was not the only time...it would be everytime I would go in there. To the point where you would be afraid to ask them a question. Well to make a long story short, the two ladies sold the store to a husband and wife. When I went in there about a month ago, I didn't recognize them and they said they were the new owners and they were SO nice. Before I left I told them they were a blessing and they said that they knew what I meant and how many people had commented to them about the ladies.

Guess they were burnt out or something.

 

[Michie]

Although there is no excuse for how rude she was. It sounds like a whole lot of stress. Let me tell you, I volunteered in our Church office for a few months. I do not envy them. It is highly stressful. Many irons in the fire. The Church office is a huge amount of work & a lot of deadlines. People calling with many, many various requests. Some dire.

Sounds to me like she was having a highly stressful day.