- Feb 18, 2008
- 45
- 173
- Country
- South Africa
- Gender
- Female
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- Celibate
Hi, everybody. I posted a while ago about having met a really nice guy and it was frustrating to me that he has a job that takes him away from home for long periods of time. It's still another two months until he'll be back and although both of us are determined to remain honourable, decent, and respectful of what God would want, for myself in particular it's not easy to be separated so much.
All that the guy and I have are our cellphones and I know he's being supportive and sweet by following updates about my life on What's App, and in turn I am supporting him by keeping an eye on his widowed and elderly mother (whom he adores), a friend/student of his who lodges on the same premises as I do, and the house in general. (I lodge in an apartment on their property.)
It's not an exclusive relationship, so in fact nobody is under any obligation to keep on holding out, but I have never met a kinder, more considerate man. If there's a problem at the house, all I have to do is text him and he'll get it sorted out within a couple of hours by delegating among his family, even though he's thousands of miles away. He's always fussing about my comfort, safety, and satisfaction in general. In all honesty, my initial attraction to him was based on his looks, but he's transpiring to be an extremely good person and THAT is what is keeping me invested in this. I'm not being self-deprecating nor am I trolling for compliments when I say that I'm not a beautiful woman from the outside. That doesn't matter to him, and it's pretty much the first time for me that a guy isn't only after one thing.
I've been hurt a lot in relationships and I really never thought I'd met a "normal" (for lack of a better word), good man again. But it's not easy to always know how to keep him interested, and, also, there are other decent single men around (such as a pastor I met in a new Church I'm attending - he's single and I can really relate to him as he is a depression sufferer like me). He's not letting it get the better of him and is continuing his God-given mission admirably. We had a brief chat this morning and he's a really good man and it made me realize anew that there ARE good guys out there who might suit and who are around almost all the time.
Nonetheless, the guy I'm really into is the first-mentioned and I want to make this work. Two months ago I was almost constantly suicidal, anxious, and in a dreadful place mentally in general - now I am doing so much better because he is taking care of me and he loves me for who I am on the inside.
Long story short, this is not an easy situation and I'd like to ask for prayer that perhaps he'll be able to come home - if only temporarily - much sooner than June. I've thought of asking him if it might be possible to ask his bosses for some time off, but the last thing I want to do is to exert pressure on him or to be too needy. I really respect and admire his job and I know he loves it; I don't want to come between him and his passion.
Please pray for this situation in general. (I know that if it's meant to be, it'll be, etc, etc. I'm doing all I can and so is he, but there comes a point when human knowledge/understanding is no longer enough.)
Blessings.
All that the guy and I have are our cellphones and I know he's being supportive and sweet by following updates about my life on What's App, and in turn I am supporting him by keeping an eye on his widowed and elderly mother (whom he adores), a friend/student of his who lodges on the same premises as I do, and the house in general. (I lodge in an apartment on their property.)
It's not an exclusive relationship, so in fact nobody is under any obligation to keep on holding out, but I have never met a kinder, more considerate man. If there's a problem at the house, all I have to do is text him and he'll get it sorted out within a couple of hours by delegating among his family, even though he's thousands of miles away. He's always fussing about my comfort, safety, and satisfaction in general. In all honesty, my initial attraction to him was based on his looks, but he's transpiring to be an extremely good person and THAT is what is keeping me invested in this. I'm not being self-deprecating nor am I trolling for compliments when I say that I'm not a beautiful woman from the outside. That doesn't matter to him, and it's pretty much the first time for me that a guy isn't only after one thing.
I've been hurt a lot in relationships and I really never thought I'd met a "normal" (for lack of a better word), good man again. But it's not easy to always know how to keep him interested, and, also, there are other decent single men around (such as a pastor I met in a new Church I'm attending - he's single and I can really relate to him as he is a depression sufferer like me). He's not letting it get the better of him and is continuing his God-given mission admirably. We had a brief chat this morning and he's a really good man and it made me realize anew that there ARE good guys out there who might suit and who are around almost all the time.
Nonetheless, the guy I'm really into is the first-mentioned and I want to make this work. Two months ago I was almost constantly suicidal, anxious, and in a dreadful place mentally in general - now I am doing so much better because he is taking care of me and he loves me for who I am on the inside.
Long story short, this is not an easy situation and I'd like to ask for prayer that perhaps he'll be able to come home - if only temporarily - much sooner than June. I've thought of asking him if it might be possible to ask his bosses for some time off, but the last thing I want to do is to exert pressure on him or to be too needy. I really respect and admire his job and I know he loves it; I don't want to come between him and his passion.
Please pray for this situation in general. (I know that if it's meant to be, it'll be, etc, etc. I'm doing all I can and so is he, but there comes a point when human knowledge/understanding is no longer enough.)
Blessings.
