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Need Help! Is This Actually Christian?

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NOTE: I don't often use internet research, but I followed links from a Christian forum to the forum in question (listed below).

I have been asking around countless forums and doing my own research, but I still haven't found concrete proof of whether or not the place in question is a "Christian" or real forum group or a group of trolls. So instead, I'll pose this question: do you believe it is ethically sound - by either secular or Biblical standards, whichever you choose if not both - to punish children in the following ways?

Don't know if this is the right place, but I wanted to get some Christian opinions about a specific site.

I've been writing an article about the correlations between spanking a child, IQ, and crime rates in areas that boast higher approval ratings of corporal punishment. While doing some research, I came across a forum called Voy.com.

There are many threads and topics relating to spanking in this forum. I skimmed a lot of the topics. I was disturbed, to say the least.

In a forum dedicated to spanking memories, a number of people recalled how, as teenagers, they were often spanked naked by parents or step parents, forced to assume positions that would display their fully developed genitals. In many of these instances, neighbors, other family members, and even acquaintances of the families were present and watching. This was recalled as being "just fine."

One thread was about age, and some women and men recalled being spanked naked or with bare buttocks by parents, uncles, or step-parents as old as twenty. This was said to be "just fine."

There are about five threads dedicated to how a parent should handle their male teenager becoming sexually aroused when spanked. Many said that this was "a completely normal reaction to being naked" and that erection could be taken care of by - and I'm not making this up - flicking the penis, whipping the penis, or sharply pulling on the penis.

Most of the posters say that it is "just fine" - nay, required! - that the child be completely humiliated during their punishment. They also advocate the use of implements - belts, straps, and paddles - and claim that their children (or themselves, when they were living with their parents) would not be able to sit without pain for multiple days afterward.

Typically, when numbers are listed, parents say that, when using an implement, they should strike the child's buttocks 30-60 times.

Some of the more hardcore parents advocate the use of extension cords and plastic pipe tubing, implements that were also favored by Larry and Constance Slack (whose child died from internal bleeding after 117 strokes) and Kevin and Elizabeth Schatz (who - according to the girl's siblings - beat their adopted daughter because she pronounced "four" as "fo").

Now I consider myself as a man with a level head. My first response was to shake my head in disbelief, as I truly believed that - like Landover Baptist Church - this was a farce, a satire of Christian parenting techniques. However, it didn't really seem all that hyperbolic, and it wasn't funny at all. It seemed like a poor attempt at satire.

These forums, however, seemed to be full of seriousness and often used Biblical citations to justify their actions.

VoyForums: Childhood Spanking Memories
Erections during spanking -- Old Fashioned Spanking for Teenaged Males
 
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@The Nihilist

I see your user name and have an instant desire to scream out, "We believe in Nothing! NOTHING!" and then throw a weasel into someone's bathtub.

I see what you mean, but I'm not attempting to troll. I am genuinely concerned that, if I use Voy.com as a source for the article and it turns out to be false, I'll look like an utter idiot to submission editors.
 
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@The Nihilist

I see your user name and have an instant desire to scream out, "We believe in Nothing! NOTHING!" and then throw a weasel into someone's bathtub.

I see what you mean, but I'm not attempting to troll. I am genuinely concerned that, if I use Voy.com as a source for the article and it turns out to be false, I'll look like an utter idiot to submission editors.

VoyForums is just a collection of forums. Nothing particularly Christian or non-Christian about them.
 
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@SithDoughnut

Thank you. Did a little checking up, and you're right.

I'm just wondering whether or not the section about all the discipline stuff is legit or made up. I'm having a hard time telling whether they're on the level or just taking the [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] pee pee out of spanking advocates.
 
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@The Nihilist

I see your user name and have an instant desire to scream out, "We believe in Nothing! NOTHING!" and then throw a weasel into someone's bathtub.

Why a weasel?:confused:

Looking at the forums, they don't seem to be connected in any way to a satire site... but then, you have to take things that strangers on the internet say with a grain of salt. Doubtless some exaggerating is happening. But full on satire is usually even more blatant. I would guess most of the posts are personal, anecdotal accounts, not Poes or Trolls.
 
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Why a weasel?:confused:

Looking at the forums, they don't seem to be connected in any way to a satire site... but then, you have to take things that strangers on the internet say with a grain of salt. Doubtless some exaggerating is happening. But full on satire is usually even more blatant. I would guess most of the posts are personal, anecdotal accounts, not Poes or Trolls.
It's a Big Lebowski reference. You should probably just go watch it.
 
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@Jade Margery

Thank you. I thought it was a little too tame to be satire myself.

And yes, it's a Big Lebowski reference, a cult comedy flick in which one of the major antagonists is a group of pseudo-intellectual German (or were they Austrian?) Nihilists who interrogate a man by throwing an angry weasel into the bathtub with him.
 
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@The Nihilist

I see your user name and have an instant desire to scream out, "We believe in Nothing! NOTHING!" and then throw a weasel into someone's bathtub.

I see what you mean, but I'm not attempting to troll. I am genuinely concerned that, if I use Voy.com as a source for the article and it turns out to be false, I'll look like an utter idiot to submission editors.

Don't pick on the Nothinians.

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Just like to point out that spanking with objects is almost universally considered child abuse by any professional field working with kids- psych, social service mainly.

Yet it is the implement (and implementation) of psychology that has ruined our youth in no uncertain terms.
 
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Sage advice, miss. But obvious.

@Jaws

Yes, I understand that this is true. There have been a number of incidences about parents being "talked to" by law enforcement for beating their kids with extension cords, pipe tubing, and sometimes even paddles that cause nerve damage, muscle atrophy, and the subsequent formation of "fat tumors" on their buttocks later in life.

What I'm going for here, though, is whether or not this site is filled with actual people and not trolls or BDSM fanatics.

Perhaps no one here can offer an answer, which is understandable, since I sure as heck couldn't find anything out on my own.

So I'll change my tactic: The Morality of Corporal Punishment Against Children: what are your thoughts and opinions?

Ever get that feeling like you're Pandora cracking the lid of the box?
 
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What I'm going for here, though, is whether or not this site is filled with actual people and not trolls or BDSM fanatics.

Perhaps no one here can offer an answer, which is understandable, since I sure as heck couldn't find anything out on my own.

Can't say, regarding that one site (which I haven't read), but I know "To Train up a Child" by a couple named Pearl, honestly teaches whipping infants for crimes like not going right to sleep, and biting while nursing. When a kid is a little older (getting to age of reaching for things) they advocate deliberately putting things out to encourage children to reach, in order to them switch them for it, to teach them not to explore their environment. I think they might also be the ones who advocate carrying a piece of PVC tubing around in your purse/bag, to menace your kids with in public. They are honestly Christian, and teach this within a Christian philosophy. I've also heard of Christian parents honestly advocating and practicing humiliation as a component of punishment (switching taking place outdoors, fully naked, sticks in my mind--that one was described by the child, now grown, and mentioned that it only took place over the course of a few months after her parents had read a Christian author advocating such things, and that her father apologized for it much later, for what that's worth--she still has nightmares.)

So that one site--couldn't say, but it certainly has a place in some Christian traditions.

FYI: BDSM, by definition, is consensual. Just like sex without consent is rape, BDSM without consent is abuse. It cannot include an adult with a child. If somebody does advocate that, they're not talking about BDSM anymore--it's plain and simple abuse.

So I'll change my tactic: The Morality of Corporal Punishment Against Children: what are your thoughts and opinions?

Ever get that feeling like you're Pandora cracking the lid of the box?
Do a three-dimensional punnet square of buttock-touching, age, and consent:

Gentle touching/consensual/adult: It's a sexual caress or playful tap. Maybe foreplay.--This is a good thing.--

Hard slap/consensual/adult: BDSM, almost certainly sexual. If not, it's because the people involved have mutually decided that they don't want to treat it that way.--A lot of people consider this good, some consider it bad. Either way, it's definitely a little deviant. Pain is what makes it questionable.--

Gentle touch/non-consensual/adult: Sexual harassment or assault. --lack of consent makes it bad.--

Hard slap/non-consensual/adult: Sexual harassment or assault. --lack of consent makes it bad, and pain makes it worse--

Gentle touch/consensual/child: Questionable propriety. With infants it's generally considered ok. With older kids, it's part of the "area covered by a swimsuit" region, so it may raise eyebrows and draw questions. Also, since children can't legally consent, I'm treating "consent" here as whether the kid willingly and happily accepts the treatment, or needs to be manipulated or forced. --inclusion of a child is what makes it questionable.--

Hard slap/consensual/child: I have trouble imagining this situation developing at all, except maybe between a kinky teen and an adult partner, which would be considered sexual abuse. --child involved in sexual situation makes it bad--

Gentle touch/non-consensual/child: Child molestation. --child + lack of consent make it bad--

Hard slap/non-consensual/child: --child + lack of consent + pain = ?-- What mental gymnastics are necessary to conclude that all the things that were considered bad (or at least somewhat deviant or questionable) in other combinations suddenly twist around and become a moral good? And, apparently, all the sexual connotation that has been present up till now suddenly vanishes. I can't understand this twist of logic.
 
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VoyForums is just a collection of forums. Nothing particularly Christian or non-Christian about them.

Some time ago I came across a discussion group about corporal punishment in the schools. It seems (and I believe it) to have been started and was moderated by the headmaster of a private school in Australia that still uses corporal punishment.

His posts and many others were a very seerious discussion of the benefits and problems with such a system.

But it was often 'visited' by those who had other interests.

I imagine any such group will have those visitors. Yes including Christian sites.
 
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