Massages

[brokenbananas]

Just wondering what people's thoughts on full body massages are...the kinds where you are completely naked. Is it ok to get them by the opposite sex? If you're a guy, would you have a problem getting a massage from another guy (as a therapeutic thing) who is a massage therapist? Also, if you're a guy, would you allow your wife to get a massage from a male massage therapist that involved touching the breasts (like in a lymphatic massage). None of the massages I'm referring to are meant as sexual massages, rather all done for therapeutic purposes.

Reason why I ask is that awhile back I had a lymphatic massage by a male massage therapist that involved working the lymph nodes in the breasts. That did feel a little weird to have another man touching that area who was not my husband. My husband had a cow when I told him, but I really didn't expect that to be done.

On a regular basis, though, I do get deep tissue massage therapy by men where I am completely naked. They never work my breasts or genitals, though. I feel completely comfortable with this and prefer a man over a woman because they are typically stronger. I do not get turned on by this, BTW.

Just wondering what people's thoughts were.

 

[Svt4Him]

Why on earth would you do something that made the person you've chosen to spend your whole life with, give your all, love through all, give yourself to, feel bad?

 

[ironman]

let me say this as a male massage therapist when this person did this massage on you breast did he have your written consent if not it was wrong in order to do a breast massage you need written consent.and i dont think it is wrong to get a massage by someone of the opposite sex,i do it all the time but i am sure to be professional and modest with the client at all times i have built up a clientel of male and females.To me its a matter of trust

 

[hisbloodformysins]

My hubby and I discussed this- though we haven't gotten a massage as of yet. Umm, personally, I think I'd feel uncomfortable getting a naked message from anyone- but I think I'd want it to be the same sex, for my own comfort- would be a little less self conscience. I'd be embarrased if it were some hot guy. On the other hand- my hubby is well aware that his massuse would have to be a male, or a very old ugly lady LOL.

 

[Chark]

My husband & I both enjoy having massages done. Just make sure you pick a reputable place. You can have couples massages in some places where you are in the same room. Very safe way to go! PS - I would have jumped off the table if a massage therapist had touched my privates!

 

[pegatha]

On a regular basis, though, I do get deep tissue massage therapy by men where I am completely naked... I feel completely comfortable with this and prefer a man over a woman because they are typically stronger.

Why not have your husband learn to give you a massage, then? There are plenty of books on the subject, and probably classes & videos as well.

 

[brokenbananas]

More good questions. I did ask my husband if we could both take classes in massage so we could save the money and it would be good for us. He wasn't all too thrilled about that and we never really made time for it. Plus, the massages I'm getting are not meant to be sexual, but to help me deal with overall stress and in the area of sports/working out. They supplement the periodic chiropractic adjustments I get.

The very first massage I got was a hot rock massage by a woman whom I know who is licensed in this. I remember feeling so uncomfortable because I didn't like being naked with anyone except my husband. She did explain to me what she would do, but none the less, it was very uncomfortable at first. Midway through the massage, I relaxed and tried to enjoy the massage. Since my body was extremely "tight", the aftermath of the massage for the next couple days was rather painful. She had told me it would be such. After that though, my body felt so incredibly great as it never had...like freedom. So, periodically I would get massages from her, but when I did, I came out so relaxed that I found I couldn't drive home safely.

About a year or so later, for my birthday, my husband had a massage therapist friend of his come to our house (while my hubby went out with our daughter) to give me a massage. I did not expect that and I felt sooooo uncomfortable with being alone naked having a man whom I did not know massage me. Greg could see my uncomfortableness and said that I did not have to go through with it. My husband had already left and I was floored that he would give me this for a present. I also figured having a massage therapist come to the house was expensive and since I was money conscientious, I stuffed my uncomfortableness and said to give me a few minutes to compose myself. He did. I told Greg I needed to talk throughout our session and it was very helpful. About 15 min. into the 1.5 hr massage, I calmed down and did enjoy the massage. Greg was very professional and understanding. Since then, he's come to our home on numerous occasions and given me massages with my husband's blessings. I wanted Greg to give Henry a massage, but Henry just didn't want a massage from a man.

The reason why I shared these 2 experiences is that both times I was extremely uncomfortable, but things turned out fine. So, in the experience where the massage therapist (a different guy) did the lymphatic massage which included my breasts...I was also very uncomfortable with that. He did explain during the massage that he would do that. I had questioned it, but he explained it very logically, so I said go ahead despite my uncomfortableness. My husband was in the next room waiting for me, so I figured it was ok. Now, looking back, I should've not had it done. I didn't think my husband would have a problem with it since he was fine with the other stuff I had gotten...but, they never involved my breasts. I won't have that done again, and my hubby and I did talk about that and what is or is not allowed when I get massages. I did sign something with that massage therapist, but I don't remember anything saying breasts would be done. But, that might have been implied in that lymphatic massage. I don't know. I've not gone back to that therapist. All the therapists I've used are licensed.

For my massages now, I really only stick with 3 people. It makes things easier, and they know my body and the issues I am having bodywise. Believe me, had I thought that lymphatic massage would upset my husband, I would've never done. It was a surpise to me. I've gotten lymphatic massages since then, but they never involved the breasts.

 

[Mrs. Enigma]

Have you been in the men's section of the forum with your hubby at all? If you do go there you will see that men have tons of trouble with pornography and lust. They are sexually stimulated visually. Being a professional does not change this.
If you think about the position you are putting these men in, you could very well be a stumbling block to them.
Wow! How can your husband let you go in another room and show your nakedness to another man? Why would he not prefer to do the massages himself?
It does not mean that a man is not stumbling into lust, just because he talks all professional. If a massage therapist told me that he massages lots of women in the nude and has always maintained pure thoughts, I would not believe him for a second. Wow! like hands on pornography that you get paid for- wow!
Men have seen me in the partial nude while giving birth with complications or having a misscarriage, but my husband was right there, and I was not too visually appealing at the time. Otherwise, my main doctor is a female.
I'd love a full body massage, and I am sure my husband could definately use one, but I can tell you that ain't gonna happen unless it happens within the confines of our marriage.
I hope you are not offended by my post, but this is just so

 

[karla]

IF it makes you uncomfortable then I wouldn't do it. I have gotten massages before, mostly by women and a few times by men, but not where they were massaging my breasts. I don't think that I would be comfortable with that. If it is for medical reasons or whatever, I don't think that there is really a problem with. After all, when you go to the gyn. they normally ckeck your breasts for lumps. I have a male gyn. and never have felt uncomfortable with him.

 

[brokenbananas]

I think a person who is a professional massage therapist can give massages to the opposite sex without lusting. I'm not a guy or a massage therapist, so I probably don't know what I'm talking about. Actually, from anyone I've gotten a massage, I did not find anything unprofessional about the person, even the one that did the breast massage.

I suppose you could get a massage with all your clothes on, but I don't think it would be as effective. It's the touch, moving the toxins out of your body, working on tight muscles....clothes would seem to be a hinderance as well as cause possible skin irritation. I now feel comfortable enough in my body that this is not an issue and neither does my husband, so as long as it's being used as it's being used to better one's health and not some sexual thing. My health has signficantly improved over the past 3 yrs since I get fairly regular massage therapy. I like the deep tissue massages and I have gotten them from women, but other than the one that gives me the rock massages, the women have not been strong enough to help me in this area.

 

[GirlieGirl]

Have you thought about couples massages? We did that on our honeymoon. You're both in the same room at the same time getting a massage. It's a nice date idea.

 

[LadyDJ]

I've had several massages and in all cases the massage therapist made sure I knew up front that he'd be working on what I told or asked him to...strictly staying in my comfort zones.

I also was a volunteer for my brother to practice on when he was taking the classes to get licensed...I can't even tell you how wonderful it was to get all those free foot massages while I was pregnant lol

 

[Jenna]

I've never had a full body massage, but both my husband and I drool over the prospect. *laughs* However, he feels funny about having a guy massage him and would only want a woman. All that earned him was the threat of being maimed. lol I would only be massaged by someone of the same gender, because of lust issues, whether mine or the person who is performing the service for me. As it stands now though, neither of us will be getting any massages from anyone but each other, since there are issues of discomfort for both of us.

 

[coinlena]

Ok, this thread raises some serious concerns. Do you not go to the gynecologist? I really doubt that you do since they poke and prod your breasts and even more intimate areas in order to check for cancer.

Someone posted strong concerns about sharing your nakedness with others. Doctors and massage therapists are professionals. It is not sexual to work on someone's lymph nodes or check for breast cancer. Did you know that in medical school, students learn about the human body by working on NAKED dead people? By the time they are practicing medicine, they are desensitized to human body parts.

Think about when you have a baby. There is a whole roomful of people who see your most intimate area, and it is often videotaped!

I don't want you to think I want you to do things that make you or your husband feel uncomfortable. But could we use a little bit of common sense here? There are times when it is medically necessary for your breasts to be seen, poked, prodded, rubbed, or, God-forbid, removed. I've never heard of either the doctor or the patient getting turned on during a biopsy. Your chiropractor and massage therapist should be given the same professional courtesy.

 

[sarah marie]

My doctor's are all female. As for full body massage. I've only had one and it was incredible. She was an 82 year old woman, who bounced around like she was 20. I couldn't believe the strength of this tiny woman. During the massage, I was sure I would emerge black and blue. After the hour long massage, I tried to touch my toes. This is something I normally can't do. I just don't stretch enough, when I work out. Not only could I touch my toes, but I could place my hands flat on the floor for the next few days. I would have loved to get them on a regular basis, but her schedule is always full with her regulars. I wonder why?

I know i got a bit off of the main question. My husband and I are of the same mind on this: same gender massages.

 

[stonehands]

My wife asked me this before because she likes getting massages. She has only gotten them from women at hair and beauty places and never an all naked massage just like a back massage. She asked me if I would feel comfortable with her getting a full body massage from a pro, I massage her all the time and she enjoys it but she seems to think that it would be better if I knew what I was doing. She even suggested me go to massage therapy school. For me, my back is too sensitive and it tickles me too much and i could never get a massage. It couldn't come from a guy because I'm somewhat homophobic I try not to be and I work on it but It is in me to shy away from that sort of thing with guys. I also couldn't get a massage from some other woman that wasn't my wife, and definitely if I was naked I couldn't be in another room as a different woman, it's just too creepy for me to think about let alone do. Some other issues were brought up about women seeing the OB/Gyn, my wife sees a practice of mainly female dr's and all of her checkups are done by them. They do have 1 male in the practice and when my wife was getting her monthly checkups before giving birth the guy had to examine her once because they all do a rotation thing or something because they don't know who will be on call when she went into labor. Anyway it was EXTREMELY uncomfortable for me to be there while another man touched my wife in private areas, but I got over it because he is a Doctor and what not. I can't help but be jealous over things like that even if they are doctors. For instance my wife has been having a problem with her knee and we go to the Dr. to see what the problem is and they make her change into these Gigantic blue shorts which you can't help but see right up them especially if you're looking at a knee and working it up and down to check it out. So the Doc is working her knee over and I could tell he caught a glimpse because he was really trying to avoid looking in that area and kind of kept his eyes up high and I could just tell he "accidentally" looked. I guess I'm just wierd but stuff like that bothers me.

 

[jenptcfan]

When I've had a "naked massage", there was an option to keep undergarments on, and I was covered with a sheet the whole time. The only time any part of my body was uncovered was when that particular part of the body was being massaged--after which it was immediately covered back up. They never touched any "private" areas. Just arms, legs, back, feet, neck.

 

[Archivist]

Frankly I think many people get far too uptight about this. I have received massages from women and frankly it has never bothered me. They are professionals--seeing naked or almost-naked bodies is part of the job.

To understand my point, go back and reread the posts previous to this one, but substitute the word "doctor" or "nurse" for "massage therapist." Would anyone reading this refuse medical treatment because the doctor was of the opposite sex?

 

[brokenbananas]

Well, since I originally posted this...I do appreciate all the different opinions. Very interesting. I think when you are comfortable about your body and your trust factor with yourself as well as your spouse, getting completely naked massages by the opposite sex typically isn't a problem. I wasn't getting my massages done as a sexual service, but as a therapeutic natural health/medical thing.

When I gave birth to our 2nd baby, there must've been over a dozen people in the room, men/women...old/young...whatever. I didn't care....GET THE BABY OUT!! Oh, and my husband videotaped the whole thing. He and I have a great marriage. I feel secure enough in my marriage for him to get a massage by a woman and vice versa. We know our boundaries and talk...communicate on a regular basis.

Maybe for those that are not comfortable with this, maybe you don't feel good about your body, maybe you don't trust yourself or your spouse, maybe your communication in your marriage aren't good....just some thoughts, here....

 

[sarah marie]

Maybe for those that are not comfortable with this, maybe you don't feel good about your body, maybe you don't trust yourself or your spouse, maybe your communication in your marriage aren't good....just some thoughts, here....

I feel fine about my body and am modest out of respect to my husband, as well as, to keep from causing another to stumble in their thoughts.

I trust myself, while I am with God. When I'm not, I couldn't trust myself as far as I could throw myself...I really can't throw myself very far. As for trusting my husband, only God knows where his heart is at any particular moment. So I put that in God's hands.

Great communication! God's been right in the middle of it from the moment we became googly-eyed for each other.