Marriages where the wife is stronger than the husband.

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[Easyk]

it would bother me. as its my role to be protector and provider and lover etc etc etc.. means my role has been upsurped.

 

[suzybeezy]

My hubby has a really bad back, currently recovering from back surgery, so I am definately stronger than him at this point. I think it does get to him to some degree, but eh what are ya' gonna do?

 

[rppearso]

This would be incredibly unlikely as I am extremely powerful physically.

 

[moonkitty]

Are there any couples where the wife is stronger than the man (of the many possibilities we'll assume physical).

I know most men like being the strongest (physically at least) and having a sense of leadership. If your wife out does you at something (arm wrestling...you name it). Does it bother you? Or do you not mind it? Would you feel...emasculated if your wife was stronger than you?

I can out bike my hubby any day of the week. I can bike all day if I wanted too. For him, after about 4 miles he is wiped out. I'm also a stronger swimmer. I just have longer endurance for somethings then he does. In a flat out run he is faster, but when it comes to something like hiking, I'm going to last longer than him.

Now he is stronger when it comes to upper body strength, and heavy weights. I have no upper body strenght at all.

I don't think he feels emasculated or bothered by it. It's just who we are. He is no less manly cause I can ride a bike longer or walk futher.

 

[Dave73]

I think it would bother me (and my wife) if she were physically stronger than me. My wife has always commented on how she feels safe and protected around me (I think most woman need that from their spouse. If I had back problems (like has been mentioned) then that's a different situation.

As moonkitty mentioned ... It wouldn't bother me if she ran / swam faster ... God gave us men guts (we're not built as sleek as you ladies). If she could out hike though, that I admit would bother me ... but she would never know it. I just don't think you should pull someone down because they can do something better than you.

If it did bother me enough I'd get my butt off the couch and hike more to build up my endurance, not blame her.

 

[JohnDB]

In my marriage my wife keeps getting surprised regularly.
She gave up on the physical thing when I picked her up and carried her over the threshold on our honeymoon...and again when cleaning up from an icestorm at her house in KY. (she still hasn't recovered and I was just having a normal workday)

She, from time to time, believes that she is stronger emotionally than I. (she likes to rant from time to time about different things) where I am much more reseved about those topics. But where she had originally decided that my inaction was weakness she is beginning to see really was strength of purpose...and a lot more strength there than she ever thought was possible.
I will admit that I can seem very relaxed about many things...and she has been and continues to be fooled by that appearance. But that is just it...it is only an apearance...the passion that lies beneath is as hot as any fire of hell can be.
(my ex never has figured that one out...even to this day. which is one reason she is an ex wife.)
I love my wife completely
I love my son completely
I love God even more...He has a plan for me and I am working dilligently towards that goal. Never stand in the way of that...get behind and push, stand aside or else get run over. And she does help push.

 

[immersedingrace]

My hubby's sitting next to me as I read/write this. I am physically stonger in some things. I can (and have) beat him at arm wrestling. I can help him carry heavy objects. However, when coming to heavy labor, he's definitely stronger. I'm huffing and puffing after just a couple shovelfuls of snow or just 5 minutes of using the heavy weed whacker. He can, and does, stay at it for hours when neccessary. I can't do a push-up/pull-up/chin-up at all and have never been able to do so. It doesn't bother him at all. My husband is all man and strong in areas where it counts.

 

[DZoolander]

Well, I think people are confusing endurance with strength. In my mind, at least, they're completely different things.

I suspect my wife has greater endurance at certain things than I do (although after the last time we took a walk up the hill - I'm left wondering...lol) - but in just flat out strength - I take the cake in our union. She'd have to be like that Chyna wrestler chick to be "stronger".

...and would that freak me out?

yeah - it would.