Marriage at what age?

[Virvelvind]

Just curious on which age you think is the best to marry; both generally and personally. I think that it's hard to say when it's generally the best time to get married; I think it's probably for the best to be out of your teens, or at least having lived outside of home without a partner; but after that it's all about when you feel that you're emotionally ready. When both you and you're relationship are mature enough, then you're in the best age to marry. If you want a family though, I'd say 20-30 is the most desireable.
I think that I'd want to be around 22 when I marry, feels like that would be the right age for me since I will have had time to live on my own and travel before that, but I'll also be young enough to be a young mom.
How do/did you feel=

 

[Maeyken]

I got married 2 months ago, at age 24. For me, that was a great age to get married at. I had finished my university degree and been working full time for a year. I also lived on my own for several years (3 yrs in student house with others, 1 yr totally on my own).

For me, it was important to me to live alone for at least a year before getting married. It was something I always wanted to do, and it's something that can't exactly be done after marriage!

I don't think age itself should be a determining factor- I think it's more about life experiences, and the point the relationship is at. Also needing to be taken into consideration is the point in life that each person is at. I wanted to be finished school before I got married. For some people, that does not matter.

Getting married is a very individual thing, and there is no "perfect age" standard that works for everyone.

And I think you will find that 22 comes faster than you think!

 

[TravellingGrace]

I remember when I was younger I used to always talk about how I wanted to be married by 19... now I'm 19 and there is NO way I would want to be married this young! lol! That being said... I think 22/23 is a decent age... I want to be a young mom too, so I don't want to have to wait till I am 30 to get married...

I think it also depends on the maturity of the people involved, and where their relationship is at...

 

[peanutbutter12]

Age really has nothing to do with it. It's all about how mature you are and if you are ready for that type of commitment/relationship.

My wife and I got married last year. She was 19 and I was 23. But we were both ready for in spiritually, mentally, and financially. I do believe she's rare in the fact that a lot of 19 y/o's really aren't ready to face the world of marriage after mentoring some of my older youth, but there are a few.

CJ

 

[Arclight610]

I'll marry whenever God says it's time... if ever. You must also remember that sometimes you can serve God better by being celibate. If it were up to me though I'd say around 23-25. I'll be almost done, or done iwth grad school.

-TJ-

 

[Inperfected]

I'll marry in 5 weeks and 3 days

But that is because it is the right time for us. We are an unusual couple here (where I live) because we both "want" to get married at this age, and to each other, but we are also christian and won't live together before marriage.

 

[MissKittyFantastico]

i used to think that i wanted to get married at 21... and that didn't happen. I think ideally it would be around 23-25... i like that age to get married. But it is different for everyone. My sis and her fiance are getting married at 18... personally i think its too young but i'm not her!!!

 

[AceHero]

I don't think a couple should get married until they're financially secure. As for age, I'd think it'd be neat to get married straight out of college, like at age 22 or 23.

 

[miss_klara]

I always wanted to be married by about 24.... But now it looks like 22/23 is going to be my time. It's funny, because my boyfriend and I want to get married in two years. Which seems like an eternity away. But then I realised that I'll only be 22, which is still incredibly young. It's a funny thing to put into perspective.

Definitely wanna be financially secure first though!!

 

[keyz]

I'm 18 right now and am definitely not in that place at the momment. Maybe in a couple years, but God still has a lot to show me. I don't want to miss out on that. That's just me personally though.

It'll depend for everyone because God works differently in everyone's life.

 

[JourneyRain]

I always thought I'd get married young at 19. I am now 26 and still not married. I learned you can't plan or expect things by a certain age because it may not happen and then you kind of wonder what's wrong with you and all that stuff.
Plus, in order to get married there actually has to be someone to get married too.

 

[Cordelia]

And I think you will find that 22 comes faster than you think!

Exactly!!

I've got no idea what a 'good' age is to get married. I've known people of all ages who've married and experienced various pros and cons.

 

[AceHero]

Plus, in order to get married there actually has to be someone to get married too.

D'oh! I forgot about that step!

 

[Kitten87]

me n my bloke are aiming for wen we finish uni so we'll be about 22 23 ish

 

[Oblivious]

It really varies from person to person.

If I had to throw an age out there, I'd go with mid-20's, only because I feel as though it's a good thing to experience life a little (and no, I don't mean anything sinful) and get your education and career finished/figured out before you settle down.

 

[littlemrs]

My fiance and I will both be two months shy of 20 when we marry in May. I'll be the first to admit that we haven't experienced many things in life yet, but we count it a blessing to be able to experience all those things together. Being brought together so early in life has been such a blessing for both of us.

I always imagined I'd marry young, and I've always wanted to start a family young. I'm very thankful that God's plans coincide with my plans.

There's really no definitive age at which someone should be married. There are so many factors involved that you simply can't say "this age is the right age for someone to be married." What's right for one person may not be right for another person, and there's nothing wrong with that. As long as a couple is ready spiritually, mentally, and financially (meaning that they don't have to rely on mommy and daddy), then they are at an age at which they are ready to be married.

 

[The Princess Bride]

I remember when I was younger I used to always talk about how I wanted to be married by 19... now I'm 19 and there is NO way I would want to be married this young! lol! That being said... I think 22/23 is a decent age... I want to be a young mom too, so I don't want to have to wait till I am 30 to get married...

I think it also depends on the maturity of the people involved, and where their relationship is at...

AMEN! *high fives Holly*

When I was younger, I wanted to be married by 17, and have 10 kids. ........

Now, @ 19, after already having been engaged, and close to getting married, I realized I WASNT READY.

Being mature enough for marriage is a BIG step. "I DO" as defined by God, is for the REST of your LIFE.

At 18 and engaged, I couldn't say that. I needed more time, so I broke off the engagement.

Now, even at almost 20, I am not quite ready.

Plus I know God hasnt finished making me into "MRS. RIGHT" yet either....If I spend all my time looking for "Mr. Right"..God cant make me into who He wants me to be for my FH!

Time is only a benefit to you in helping you to clearly see who you are, what expectations you have for a spouse, and what criteria the person you are dating has.

I am dating (in my opinion!) the greatest guy in the world, BUT I am still waiting for 1) God's perfect time, and 2) To be sure I am ready to commit myself wholely 100% to a young man for the rest of my days on this earth.

 

[Manda_24]

In all honesty I wouldn't mind being married now or at least by 22, but that's just me. It's different for everyone so people are ready earlier than 20 and others wouldn't even consider it until they were 25 or older.
I feel that I am ready, I have about a year left of school and financially I'm basically ready too. I work at a bank as a teller and this summer I started working in the cash office of a local water park, I pay all my own bills as well as the payments on my car.

 

[Tsarina]

I got married not to long ago, and i'm 18.

 

[KET20]

As everyone has said, it varies for each person. As for me, I don't think I ever want children, so I'm not at all concerned about geting started on a family or being a young mom or any of that stuff. I would not get married a day before I turn 25, and it wouldn't hurt my feelings any if I was 30 or so. Ideally, I would be out of grad school and have a career before I take that step.