CarolineBlue said:
I have to wear a bit of make-up to look even partially human and I am considering going blonde. Not brassy blonde, just very very dark blonde with ash highlights. My natural colour is brown.
I use a little bit of make up too for the same reason. I don't think that it is a sin to dye your hair either. When I was younger, I use to dye my hair lighter. I don't anymore because I've grown accustomed to my natural hair color. It's a ash dark blonde with natural highlights by the sun. My hair has a natural wave to it too. When I use to dye it, it would go straight afterwards and then it would dry up some. I think that I should of gone to a professional instead of doing it myself... LOL
Caroline, there is nothing wrong with doing nice things for yourself. Sometimes we have to kind of experiment, if for any other reason... to appreciate what we already have.
Apparently it can be done and it will need some taking care of but I've always felt so plain and I thought it might give me a bit of a lift.
We all can use a lift now and then. Nothing wrong with that at all.
Is that wrong like rejecting the way God made me? Like is He looking at me and sayin "You have brown hair and scars because you were meant to" and that if I dislike them that that makes me bad?
I don't believe that you are rejecting the way God made you at all. God doesn't judge us by our hair color, nor in how we look. You are not bad for wanting to make some changes or adjustments here and there. As women, that is our prerogative. Besides, women have been dying their hair probably for a long time like during the Egyptain time (I think?).
I think we all go through a time in our life when we don't feel good or confident about our appearance and we want to change it somehow. Then when we do change it, sometimes, it's a good thing or we realize how blessed we were before.
I'm just not an attractive person and I don't feel excited about anything i just want to try new things and see if anything changes.
If you are doing this for the above reason... I think that dying your hair will work for a day or two. But the struggles that you are feeling, come from within you and changing your appearance is not going to change what you feel inside of you. You can dye your hair and there is nothing wrong with that, and, yes, do try new things... there is nothing wrong with that either, but do so for the right reasons. No matter how we change our appearance on the outside, we are still who we are from the inside.
If you need to build your self confidence in your appearance... dying your hair and experimenting with makeup is a good way to boost the confidence. But then you need to do things for your inside being.
Have you ever gone outside and took a walk while the sun is going down? Have you ever noticed how many different oranges and blues are in the clouds during the process of the sun going down? Have you ever walked through a flower garden and stopped and smelled those flowers? Hon.. what I am saying is... sure, dye your hair, put make up on.... but ultimately, the most important part of life is living and enjoying all of the beauty within our sights and inside of us.
You are beautiful in your heart and that beauty will shine through, once you realize that you have that beauty. The beauty will show itself through your smile, your hugs, your kind words, you kindness to others. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and true beauty comes from within. If you want to be beautiful... allow that beauty from within you, to shine through. Because that is the bottom line.
I know a lot of people who are very beautiful on the outside, but inside, they are selfish and self centered and cruel and thus... very ugly. Of course, I know some beautiful people who are truly beautiful inside too... and I also know some people who most would consider not beautiful and yet, I look at them and see nothing but beauty... it's a heart thing... know what I mean?
I've worked so hard on my Spirituality and it seems to be not going that well at all and my presence in this superficial world isn't going any better. I just feel like crap basically so is it wrong to hate the imperfections we have? My nose could have its own post code. I look like the wicked witch of the West.
It is always wrong to hate.... a part of ourselves. Hon, you really need to stop looking at the "glass as half empty" and start to see good in these situations.
We have a choice in how we look at things. We can look at the Ocean and one will see it's beauty... the colors and the life that the Ocean takes care of.
Another will look at the very same Ocean and see the dirt and pollution and the smell of yucky fish and feel its cold wind brushing against their face and hate that feeling too.
Yet, when I'm near the Ocean, I smell the salt air and I feel warm inside and alive. I feel the wind brush against my cheek and I feel as if God has kissed me.
See, it is how we choose to look at things. Caroline, you can live the rest of your life thinking in negative ways and looking at everything from a negative perspective...OR, you can try something else... you can take the bull by the horns and say enough is enough. I'm not going to see the pollution and the ugliness... but I'm going to see the stars and the beautiful clouds, I'm going to feel God kiss me on the cheek with the wind, I'm going to stop and smell the roses and enjoy the smell.
Yes, there will be times in your life when sadness is very appropriate... but that is rare. Even then, it is how we chose to see things and work through things. We always have a choice.
God gives us life. It's up to us in how we live it.
God's peace,
Debbie
