If you're in a Christian relationship, is it wrong to marry after only 6 months?

[RizNChrist]

1- If priorities are right, and things are being done in the right order, SURE WHY NOT.
2- Depends on the two individuals, but YES it can work.
3- Absolutely WRONG! This is not enough time to get to know eachother.
4- No, it is a immature, rash decision to marry after only 6 months.

PLEASE let me know what you guys think.. (just curious)..

 

[Briseis]

2- Depends on the two individuals, but YES it can work.

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[KristianJ]

2. (In my mind, 1=2 and 3=4 in terms of the general response)

Personally I would be hesitant to do so, but if I knew 2 people who were at the stage where they thought they should marry that "early", then I wouldn't be opposed to it. After all, Paul said in 1 Corinthians 7 that it is better to be married than be filled with passion.

 

[lacedinlavender]

It depends on a lot: age, maturity, place in life, etc.

Normally I would say that age doesn't amount to a hill of beans, but when it's such a short dating relationship I wold say that age would have to factor into the equation. Someone in their late 20s might be more able to say "This is the man/woman I want to marry" after only six months, whereas a teenager might not.

I do think that when you know, you know, and no one else can/should question that.

Jen

 

[chocolateloverjen]

I suppose people will give different opinions but after a month of meeting my boyfriend and going out with him the day after i mjet him he said to me 'if we make this relationship n thru uni etc then i would love to marry you' (something like that n e way) and i could have married him their. I know it was meant to be. I know God put us together. It was just the way we met (long story). So i think if you are truly i love then i understand and yeahhhh if you can get married.

---> Ric and i are in a long distant relationship and we have been going out nearly 2 years. Ill wait however long. I know God has put us together and wants us to be together.

 

[f U z ! o N]

no, i think you should wait till you have at least dated for more than 2 years. heck, wait till you both are older as well.

 

[Carri20]

1- If priorities are right, and things are being done in the right order, SURE WHY NOT.

My fiance and I were only "together" for about 2 or 3 months before he proposed. We would have been married right away, but because of financial obstacles our total engagement period will be around 8 months. But I wouldn't recommend this kind of thing to just anyone.. My fiance and I have been doing some heavy praying since before we even met, and we know God has His hand in our relationship. Any time marriage is being considered -- whether you've been together for a decade or a day -- PRAY!

 

[Just Me Garry]

That is about what happened with me and my wife. But the Lord was in it.

 

[alwayz_remember_Calvery]

I don't think i would ever get married after only being with a person for that short amount of time. I don't think you have enough time to get to know each other. I firmly believe that people can be dating for 6 months-1year and still never really get to know each other. I think that most of the first year both people are on their best behavior and are actively trying to be the best. After that i think they slack off a little and you get a better glimpse of who they are.

That said, if a friend of mine only knew someone for 6 months and wanted to get married, i wouldn't be totally against it.

A friend of mine met her boyfriend when the started college. Sometime after thanksgiving she told me that they were planning on getting married after they both graduate. they had known each other at the most 4 months. They still have another 3.5 years until they graduate so they have more time to get to know each other, but I'm happy for them.

 

[Harlan Norris]

Well,I have to say that if ones heart is true and the relationship is solid.Get married.

 

[getch]

i was with my wife for 3 months and we got married. and we are happier now and we have 3 beautiful sons. remember anyone can get married but not anyone can keep a merrage. good luck and god bless

 

[MrsSeptemberPenguin]

1 and 2, but there are a lot of "if's"

 

[ahmunmun]

I don't see the harm in waiting longer than 6 months to be certain whether you want to marry the person.

It's not like I'm saying a couples has to wait for 8 years...

 

[lacedinlavender]

no, i think you should wait till you have at least dated for more than 2 years. heck, wait till you both are older as well.

I'm not sure that a two years guideline would work for everyone. Two years is a long time to date and can end up causing more trouble than it's worth. I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years, and I love him dearly, but I do wish that we could be married already. It's tough having the patience to wait. I know that we are going to marry, it's just a question of when, and the fact that we aren't sure when it's entirely possible has caused a few problems between us. Thankfully, we submit ourselves to the guidance of the Lord, and we're always able to pull through, but it's so hard sometimes. There are so many temptations present in our dating relationship that wouldn't exist if we were married.

Jen

 

[Leanna]

I'll vote for this one:

2- Depends on the two individuals, but YES it can work.

My husband and I got married after 10 months and we've been married 6 years now. My sister in law and her husband got married after knowing each other for 8 months and they've been married for 3 years and have a son. Its been done before... but there is some logic in waiting longer than that, especially if you are young.

I think we all want to know your situation now....

 

[~Nikki~]

My husband and I were engaged after five weeks of dating, and married three and a half months after that.

I wouldn't recommend it for everyone, but for us it's worked out fine. Maybe it makes a difference that we didn't meet until I was 29...

 

[faerieevaH]

After six months of what?
If a couple knows eachother their entire lives, but have only dated 6 months, I don't see a problem.

The question is: how well did they get to know eachother in those six months?

 

[TheReasoner]

Normally no. With capital letters.
It depends on how well you knew eachother beforehand though.
I will have known my wife (to be) for two years when we marry. I still think that's a tad quick. But then, I love to take things slowly.

 

[WnW]

How could one pledge "Til death do us part" if you've only been dating 6 months? One needs to see how the relationship fares through seasons of good, bad and in-between. I say one year minimum.

 

[Carri20]

Hey for some people it works, for some it doesn't. But it's not wrong in and of itself. Wasn't that the original question -- whether it's wrong or not?