I can't handle wet dreams. But I want to avoid porn.

[Jamdoc]

Some people see wet dreams as something that only happens in teenage years but I can say, if you don't get married and aren't sexually active and aren't masturbating, well, your body feels a need to get rid of old sperm whether you want to or not.
It's been the compelling thing for me to drive me to touch (which although the bible does not specify is a sin itself, the connected lustful thoughts and viewing porn are). Because the dreams are often more embarrassing than just viewing porn and relieving yourself once a week or so. Half the time they're not even sexual in nature and just involve really embarrassing situations. It's also a mess, as Deuteronomy 23:10 even mentions, you're "unclean" when it happens. I hate having to wake up in the middle of the night, start a load of laundry and take a shower then TRY to get back to sleep feeling ashamed and embarrassed and "unclean".
Sorry to say folks but prayer and reading my bible haven't made my body just, not need to get rid of old sperm. I abstain for 2 weeks or so.. I have a wet dream. It always makes me think I'd rather just take care of it on my own terms where at least the cleanup is easier, and if I'm going to have lustful thoughts at least I can direct them myself rather than dream about something humiliating.
It's just a constant cycle of sin, guilt, try to repent, wet dream, shame and frustration that goes back to sin.

 

[Steve97]

First of all, there is no need to feel guilty since this is, apparently, a situation you are not choosing to do.
This may be a physical problem that requires a medical consultation with a professional.

 

[Jamdoc]

First of all, there is no need to feel guilty since this is, apparently, a situation you are not choosing to do.
This may be a physical problem that requires a medical consultation with a professional.

Well regardless of choice in the matter it's still embarrassing. There's just no way to shower and start laundry at 3am and not be embarrassed.

 

[Dave-W]

Paul Byerly of the marriagebed [dot] com, which is a Christian website for marriage and sexual issues, claims research shows only 40% of men ever have wet dreams; and they usually have them whether they touch or have regular sex or not.

The rest of us, as he describes, have the dreams but wake up just before the “wet” part. And that leaves you in a very precarious position. Even breathing can push you over the edge.

Yes, the body fills up with sperm and it needs to be eliminated, not unlike urine or feces. No reason to be embarrassed by that fact. Is having to urinate embarrassing?

 

[.Mikha'el.]

Some people see wet dreams as something that only happens in teenage years but I can say, if you don't get married and aren't sexually active and aren't masturbating, well, your body feels a need to get rid of old sperm whether you want to or not.
It's been the compelling thing for me to drive me to touch (which although the bible does not specify is a sin itself, the connected lustful thoughts and viewing porn are). Because the dreams are often more embarrassing than just viewing porn and relieving yourself once a week or so. Half the time they're not even sexual in nature and just involve really embarrassing situations. It's also a mess, as Deuteronomy 23:10 even mentions, you're "unclean" when it happens. I hate having to wake up in the middle of the night, start a load of laundry and take a shower then TRY to get back to sleep feeling ashamed and embarrassed and "unclean".
Sorry to say folks but prayer and reading my bible haven't made my body just, not need to get rid of old sperm. I abstain for 2 weeks or so.. I have a wet dream. It always makes me think I'd rather just take care of it on my own terms where at least the cleanup is easier, and if I'm going to have lustful thoughts at least I can direct them myself rather than dream about something humiliating.
It's just a constant cycle of sin, guilt, try to repent, wet dream, shame and frustration that goes back to sin.

You seem to automatically assume that porn and masturbating are necessarily linked. May I ask why?

 

[Jamdoc]

Paul Byerly of the marriagebed [dot] com, which is a Christian website for marriage and sexual issues, claims research shows only 40% of men ever have wet dreams; and they usually have them whether they touch or have regular sex or not.

The rest of us, as he describes, have the dreams but wake up just before the “wet” part. And that leaves you in a very precarious position. Even breathing can push you over the edge.

Yes, the body fills up with sperm and it needs to be eliminated, not unlike urine or feces. No reason to be embarrassed by that fact. Is having to urinate embarrassing?

Masturbating prevents it from happening in my experience, it's abstaining is where I start having them again. The difference between embarrassment over this vs urinating is that I'm not wetting my bed. If I was bedwetting of course I'd be embarrassed.

 

[Jamdoc]

You seem to automatically assume that porn and masturbating are necessarily linked. May I ask why?

Porn, or even just lustful thoughts, either way, I don't know if you can keep it up, without some sort of lustful stimulation of some sort. I've heard from pastors on this issue that if you're in a married relationship but away on business, or deployed in the military, and you've discussed this with your spouse. it would be okay to have uh.. naughty pictures of your spouse.
But for a single guy... not an option.