I asked God for a girlfriend

[GodIsGood24]

I am 18 years old and I just started my faith in Christianity few years ago. I have no one to talk to about this problem so I am asking to see if my fellow Christians may help me.

I have always wanted a girlfriend. I never got one in my life. It's not even that I'm not attractive, as girls say I'm cute all the time. I've been praying to God for a girlfriend for a couple years now, and he has not answered my prayers. I have been patient. And I have grown in the Lord. I thought that maybe God did not want to bless me with a girlfriend because He thought I wasn't ready. I have grown in abundance both spiritually and naturally. I continue to pray, and He still has not answered my prayers. I want to know why God has yet to bless me with a girlfriend? It's been the absolute strongest desire of my heart to have one. Am I meant to not ever be someone in my life at all?

 

[pdudgeon]

I am 18 years old and I just started my faith in Christianity few years ago. I have no one to talk to about this problem so I am asking to see if my fellow Christians may help me.

I have always wanted a girlfriend. I never got one in my life. It's not even that I'm not attractive, as girls say I'm cute all the time. I've been praying to God for a girlfriend for a couple years now, and he has not answered my prayers. I have been patient. And I have grown in the Lord. I thought that maybe God did not want to bless me with a girlfriend because He thought I wasn't ready. I have grown in abundance both spiritually and naturally. I continue to pray, and He still has not answered my prayers. I want to know why God has yet to bless me with a girlfriend? It's been the absolute strongest desire of my heart to have one. Am I meant to not ever be someone in my life at all?

what you have asked from God is one of the greatest gifts that He has to give, apart from salvation. And great gifts take time to prepare for, so yes, sometimes the wait can be a long one, because you are not the only one who has to be prepared--so does your future girlfriend!

yes, there are benefits to having a girlfriend that you need to think about, but there are also many responsibilities and obligations that come along with that girlfriend. And for all of that God needs time to grow and to prepare you.

So how about asking Him not just for the girlfriend, but also for the knowledge, compassion, gentleness, strength, wisdom, patience, unselfishness, and love that you will need in order to be the kind of boyfriend that she deserves to have.

After all, you will need to love her with the same kind of devoted and considerate love that Christ gives to the church; the kind of sacrificial love that puts her welfare, her safety, her happiness above your own. it takes a man who is secure in his relationship with God to be able to understand what a relationship with a woman needs, and it takes all of God's help to build such a relationship.

the answer to your prayer is to love God first with all your heart, all your mind, all your strength, and all of your devotion. Everything else should and must take second place in your life--including a girlfriend.
Learn to do that and when you have accomplished it, then you will be ready (and your relationship with God will be strong enough) for the best and most complete relationship on all levels with a girlfriend that you could ever want.

 

[Alive_Again]

Do you want the girlfriend or the wife?

Don't be anxious and let godly contentment be the first destination. That's God's for you. From within this place, is a place where you are less likely to be sidetracked by your flesh.

The human soul is a marvelous thing, but it's capable of generating deep ties that often are not of God. The most wrecking thing in my life has been my relationships with women. They often start as friendships and take on a more "natural" character, which provides a stage for the enemy to afflict and oppress. That's with godly women too! Uhhh!

I believe that you can increase your readiness by submitting to God for any healing you might need. Deliverance also. Prepare yourself (Don't get in a hurry.). You can even pray for your mate and watch and see if their is an anointing.

The enemy can completely turn a life into God's permissive will or out of His will entirely by the wrong relationship. People marry the wrong person, have a family, and they miss the fulness of the ministry God had for them.

I firmly believe that praying in the Spirit can help bring about the kingdom more than just about anything (except your obedience to what He's called you to).

You can take it on like a priesthood. Start readying yourself and her. Speak the Word over her (by faith). Pray in the Spirit for you both. Set yourself apart (honoring God first). Keep your thoughts and words in line as one who is betrothed (which you already are). Let God groom you and her. Prayer helps to ensure your part is well played and you're really praying the kingdom in your life in this area.

Don't let it go past your focus on the Lord, but keep in mind that He's got a provision for you and won't bring you anything that is going to take you away from Him. (Be on the lookout for the enemy's distractions! -- other women!).

 

[pk4yahweh]

Be careful to not confuse what the world calls "good" with what God calls "good".

Instead of asking God to give you a Mrs. Right... work at becoming Mr. Right. Then He will bring her into your life... she will be attracted to who God is making you into.

Dont just ask for a girlfriend - seek the Lord and concentrate on getting close to Him.

As you draw closer to Him - He will transform you into who HE has made you to be... THEN you will come across the one young lady He has selected for you to spend your life with.

How do you become Mr. Right?
- Find a good church
- Find good men in said church
- Ask them to teach you how to become a good man
- Do what they tell you


AFTER (and only after) you walk in that path will God bring the lady you search for into your life.


(I have been married for 18 years to the same beautiful woman - spent several years as a Youth Pastor - now Pastor a church and teach this to young men today... so trust me - it works!).

 

[DYOLF]

I am 18 years old and I just started my faith in Christianity few years ago. I have no one to talk to about this problem so I am asking to see if my fellow Christians may help me.

I have always wanted a girlfriend. I never got one in my life. It's not even that I'm not attractive, as girls say I'm cute all the time. I've been praying to God for a girlfriend for a couple years now, and he has not answered my prayers. I have been patient. And I have grown in the Lord. I thought that maybe God did not want to bless me with a girlfriend because He thought I wasn't ready. I have grown in abundance both spiritually and naturally. I continue to pray, and He still has not answered my prayers. I want to know why God has yet to bless me with a girlfriend? It's been the absolute strongest desire of my heart to have one. Am I meant to not ever be someone in my life at all?

You asked for one and God gave you one the day you asked for one.What you need to do is stand on the word,thanking God for his finished worked.Through faith and patience we inherit the promises.Do not look for any reasons as to why she hasnt come yet.When you believe you accept as true that God has done it.Just look at Abraham who believed in hope against hope that he could be he father of many nations.He believed so he could be.If he had not believed he would not have been even though God had promised.Same with Isaac when his wife was barren.The promise was already there that he would be the father of many nations yet the wife was barren.Even though it appears hopeless,even though it doesnt look like anything has happened just believe and thank God that he has done it.Sooner or later,God will bring someone in your path and the rest will be history.A good wife comes from the Lord so he will bring her through.Your only obligation is to stand on the promise.Fight the good fight of faith.
The fight is when thoughts which are contrary to the promise come to you.When the devil speaks to you and tells you 'cant you see no one wants you'Just consider God's faithfulness,consider what he has done in the past,consider his promises and tell the devil 'it is written whatever you ask in my name I will do it that your joy may be full'

 

[pappastratos]

Dude, gotta get out & look for one. We can pray for a car, but one is not going to magically appear in the driveway. Got to go look for it. Paul was a tent maker also, in other words, along with ministering, he worked.
Gotta be girls where you go to church or went to school. They need to know you are interested in them. Find one you like, make sure she is not seeing someone. Ask a friend, they will know.
1. Call her at home or talk to her at church.
2. Ask her if she is going to the next youth function.
3. If she say 'yes' say "great, I am too, can we sit together" ?
4. If no function coming up, youth usually go out after church, do the same thing.
5. Don't smother her,

we pray & pray for a mate (for a lack of terms), they pass by & pass by every day at work & school & we don't notice them.
Then when you least expect it, you will see her. Then you will know.

 

[donnamabob]

Hello Friend!

I went through the exact same thing when I was a teenager (I'm 27 now). I asked God repeatedly for a boyfriend, for YEARS, and I felt like he was ignoring my requests. I didn't understand why he would not let me have a 'companion'. In retrospect, I now understand that it is because he never intended to give me a boyfriend, but rather a husband, and that I would not meet that husband until I turned 22. Unfortunately, I ran ahead of God and started dating because I was never introduced to the concept of courting - but instead misguiding church "elders" told me that it was okay to "date around". Eventually dating led to questions of "how far is too far", etc. and all kinds of evil took place because of this.

I finally started getting a clue on my own that what was taking place didn't seem right - and asked God to show me his way. He led me to the authors Eric & Leslie Ludy who have a series of books geared towards teens and young adults that explain all of this in great detail. I would highly recommend you read their materials. They really did help to change my life, and I've heard another person say that they changed their life as well. My husband is currently reading one of their books, and it is radically transforming our marriage to be the way that God intended it - so I would absolutely reccomend them!

 

[SophiaC]

come to the Lord first, and prepare yourself for God's mission on you. Unless you have a solid faith, you won't meet the right person God has prepared for you.

Wrong relationship can lead to Satan's temptations, troubles, and eventually misery.
Only accept the unique one that God has prepared for you, and trust me God will bring him/her to you by his will, not according to our improper efforts.

Also, only accept Christians, the true believer God has prepared for you to mature your life together as companions.