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You do not give any details and why you feel your marriage is not burning strongly, but my general answer is these few things we place into our marriage to keep it strong:

1) communicate: One reason marriages their sparkle is because couple often get busy caring for children or with jobs or even ministry. Therefore those of us in these situations need to create situations where we can just sit down and talk.

2) Thankfulness: As the wife of a Church deacon, I often add my husband (as part of deacons) as well as priests, rabbis, Bishops, Archbishops, Cardinals, Prime Bishop Anthony, and Both Pope Francis and retire Pope Benidict in my prayers also have a prayer of thanks and if I am frustrated with him, I always add thanks for being given Him as my husband.

3) Love: your marriage could be facing a Dark Night of the Soul. In the Dark Night G-d seems distance (however He actually close) and this can cause a distancing of each of you. Love can bridge even that Dark Night, so let it shine brightly and you may help your spouse as well.

4) Forgiveness: Sometimes, we or our spouses hurt each other. Its often by careless words or during times of weakness. Realizing that "but for the grace of G-d there too you might be" can help you forgive your spouse.

5) Small gifts: Since our marriage my husband buys me flowers ever week. They adorn our table. Small gifts like those flowers can come a long way to revitalizing a relationship that has gone stale.

Hope these few suggestions help.
 
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