Does God Choose our Spouse or is that our decisions

[yam]

Do you believe that God choose our mates or Do we choose for ourselves ?

As for me , I believe that God is the one who should choose our mate . Ex : Adam , he chose Eve for Adam ,but so many times people get tired of waiting on God time , and they go out and look for their own mates which usually ends in diaster.

 

[GoodNewsJim]

I agree yam. God can choose if you pray a lot about it.

 

[septemberskies]

We choose.... if God decided then we really don't have lose free will (thus why we are able to deliberately make right and wrong decisions). Since God has our best interest at heart we should consult him prior to wedding vows. It would save so much heartache and pain

 

[CrystalBrooke]

God can lead us in the right direction, but ultimatly we choose who we want.

 

[Marycita]

I don't know if God really chooses for us or if we choose..or if it's some sort of mix of the two


but I know that whenever I make my own decisions, it's just, not pretty - so I'm letting God have this one



...and all others, really but hey

 

[smacky ramone]

What is God? Some kind of cosmic eHarmony?

My answer: Yes.

 

[Spirit_Star]

God has a plan for everyone so I feel that he also has someone in mind for that persons life mate/spouse. When you think about who better to match two people up then someone who knows both inside and out. However you’re right sometimes people get impatient and may not end up with the one the Lord has wanted them to be with. They may not care about what the Lord feels in regards to their chosen spouse. I think if one prays to the Lord he will bring the right partners together in his time. If someone even prays about a relationship that God will tell them if this is the right person for them or not.

 

[Trashionista]

I don't know if there's any supreme being involvement, but I do believe in soul mates. Ultimately, you choose to waste time with someone you're just not that into, or move on, though.

 

[Stephen Kendall]

We choose.... if God decided then we really don't have lose free will (thus why we are able to deliberately make right and wrong decisions). Since God has our best interest at heart we should consult him prior to wedding vows. It would save so much heartache and pain

Can't we choose whom we asked God to chose without losing our freewill? Can't we trade in our self-determination for his loving helping hand into our lives? Can't we love Dad? My wife is from the other side of the world, met accidentally on the internet. We both were looking for the ones that we found in each other, but how was that possible? We walked by each other in our looking and postings on the internet. I was praying for someone like her, but I didn't think that she was that far away from me. She also was praying. I just blinked by her and stopped in my tracks upon seeing her picture & words, while viewing ChristianSingles.com single women profiles. I felt compelled to encourage her in her search for a husband and wrote a note to her. I moved on with no more thought. She responded and I found myself in correspondence with her. I soon pondered if this was the one for me. I was amazed and joyed to think she may be the one. Our son was conceived on the fifth day of our marriage. He is a miracle. We realize this all the more as we wait for another baby. He is over four years old now. Life seems to make a lot more sense in our marriage. Who I asked for I receive. I say that all of this came about by God's hand. Praise God.

 

[jonbrandon]

I think it's a mix of the two. I believe God has someone out there for each of us, but it is up to us to find them. If we allow God to have control of our lives and hearts he will lead us to that person, and then it is on us to make it work.

 

[CoachR64]

We choose. Free will is not only applicable to certain situations. I do believe God can show us the one, but it is up for us to step up to the plate.

I met a great girl two years ago... we saw each other in an elevator and we spoke for about 30 seconds. I never thought anything of it. I was at a point in life I wasn't sure what I wanted to do career wise and didn't know where I was going to be. I wasn't ready for a relationship. I ran into her a few weeks back, and now I can't imagine being without her. I am choosing to be in a relationship with her, but I totally believe God brought her into my life again when I was finally ready.

Coach

 

[Kirisutokyoo-shinja]

We choose.... if God decided then we really don't have lose free will (thus why we are able to deliberately make right and wrong decisions). Since God has our best interest at heart we should consult him prior to wedding vows. It would save so much heartache and pain

Must the absolute Sovereignty of God conflict with the concept of Free-Will?

Must all be completely deterministic if God is Sovereign?
Or God's Sovereignty denied if we are to have Free-Will?

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Forgive me: The refresh button is healthy. I had the thread open too long.

 

[K9_Trainer]

We choose.

The idea of soul mates is cute, but comes out of fairytale books, not reality. God gave us the Bible, which are the laws he requires us to follow and he will bring people in to and out of our lives. We are to use the Bible to decide for ourselves who would be the best mate and who who we can grow in Christ with.

 

[Ost]

God does

 

[KingCrimson250]

We choose.

The idea of soul mates is cute, but comes out of fairytale books, not reality. God gave us the Bible, which are the laws he requires us to follow and he will bring people in to and out of our lives. We are to use the Bible to decide for ourselves who would be the best mate and who who we can grow in Christ with.

Agree 100%

 

[NoodlesNoodlesNoodles]

God being the first great Cause, nothing can be performed that he did not both know about and energize. But do people not act on their own volition? My understanding is that it's like trying to examine two sides of the same coin at the same time. Does He choose? Yes. But do we choose? Yes. It's impossibly to see both sides of the coin when bound by three dimensions. But God is aware of and can "see" both sides of one coin, and in fact all coins everywhere... throughout history all at once! God sees a perspective we are incapable of even comprehending and we must trust Him that the explanation that seems contradictory to us is true outside of our limited view.

Romans 9:19b "... For who resists His will?" Rhetorical question with the obvious answer being: No one. No one can do anything outside of his will in a final sense. Can you be outside of God's will by sinning... yes. But it's still not outside of God's will in a "ripping time and space because the omnipotent God has been resisted" sense.

Does God choose your spouse? Yes. Will who you marry be a decision that you are responsible for? Yes. Will the one you exchange vows with be "The One". By definition, yes.

 

[citizenthom]

The idea that God is going to magically send someone into everyone's life is one of the most harmful lies ever told. Even if circumstance puts "the one" in our paths, we still have to choose to exercise diligence and live according to the Biblical model for the relationship to happen and then, for it to work.

 

[Inkachu]

I believe God places people in our lives for a reason; but it's up to us to decide how we handle the relationships. God doesn't force anybody to do anything. So, do I believe God has someone picked out for me? Yes. Does that mean I couldn't marry someone else? Of course I could, but I don't think it would be the absolute best possible marriage, like it would have been if I'd followed God's path for me.

 

[henryL64]

I believe God can create the situation but we have to make our own decisions. But God does have the ability to influence us but only if our own free will brings us there. It's kind of like saying you can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink...no matter how thirsty he is.

 

[Obzocky]

I believe the ultimate decision over whether someone becomes a spouse or just another face in your memories is down to us.
Part of me thinks even if the Lord did choose our spouses that we, being prone to brattish behaviour as it is, would find some way to decide that despite all the evidence to the contrary this person is obviously not the best spouse for us. The Lord does not always give us what we want, but what He knows we need, and sometimes this comes in forms we find truly unpalatable as it goes against what we want. Like trying to feed a fussy child vegetables, we know it's good for them to have a varied, nutrient rich diet, the child knows that sweets taste far nicer than the green stuff we're trying to get them to eat. Normally they will eventually take it and perhaps even realise it's not as bad as they believed, others will rebel furiously to the point they avoid vegetables for the rest of their lives. We chase around the idea of a God chosen spouse so much that we become like the man who refused help during the floods, we miss the opportunities God gives us because we're too focused on something breath taking to happen instead of the rather plain doors He so often presents us with. Which is my way of attempting to see the "soul mate" side of it in a way I think it would work, for most people anyhoot.