Do you think Love Marriage is a sin?

[jrs]

In my country India, Love marriage is considered as a sin by most of the christians. More than ninety percentage of the people doing arranged marriages. My parents also against Love marriage. But I am loving one girl for five years. For me also sometimes it seems that I am going in a wrong way. I am in a confusion.

Please give your opinion. I want to explain this to my parents and some of my friends who were against love marriage.

 

[BarbB]

Welcome to CF, jrs!

Well, it depends. Love marriages in the USA certainly don't fare too well with 50% of marriages ending in divorce. And I am evidence of that with two failed marriages behind me before I was Christian. But I don't see love marriage as a sin.

Is there a reason why your parents wouldn't have chosen the girl you love to be your wife? Is there a reason why you cannot come to love the woman they will choose for you? Love is an active verb, not passive. We can choose to love a good Christian person.

I didn't answer this for you, did I?

 

[rainbowprism]

Well I'm not saying your or your family subscribe to this view but in India there are alot of women who are injured as a result of "dowry weddings". Marriages are arranged and exorbitant amounts of money and gifts are expected to be given to the brides family--like we're talking top of the line cars, home entertainment equipment and money...some families work for decades to build up a dowry. Many brides have fallen victim to this practice, as the husband and family can exert much force over the woman. There are special hospital units for women that have literally been set on fire by thier husbands, and for the woman to return to her family would make her a huge unwanted burden as she couldn't marry again and must stay. I'm not saying this is what the OP does but the culture for arranged marriages can and has led to much strife in coutnries such as his. JRS--marry for love!

 

[Svt4Him]

Nope, not a sin. Can't find anything about it in the Bible.

 

[Sketcher]

That's right, Scripture says nothing against it. Just as long as the two stay married and faithful it doesn't matter how two people get married.

 

[slytwi]

JRS,

That must be an incredibly tough position to be in. Since I am from the US I can't imagine an arranged marriage but that doesn't mean it isn't better than our cultural practices. I don't think marriage for love is sin nor does the Bible say it's sin but your situation is between yourself and God. Just because the majority of Christians do things one way does not necessarily mean that is the 'right' way either. I pray for wisdom for you. Either way, marriage will take alot of strenght and faith to remain strong.

Slytwi

 

[Asaph]

In my country India, Love marriage is considered as a sin by most of the christians. More than ninety percentage of the people doing arranged marriages. My parents also against Love marriage. But I am loving one girl for five years. For me also sometimes it seems that I am going in a wrong way. I am in a confusion.

Please give your opinion. I want to explain this to my parents and some of my friends who were against love marriage.

Firstly, them is some pretty broad brushes you is paintin with son. Really? Ninety percent of all marriages? Really? I might be able to believe that ninety percent of devout Hindus believe that, but if you are talking about true Christians you are making stuff up. If you are Christian you know better, if you are not then you need to be. Love is a verb, an action, a decision. Feelings follow or are in conjunction with. If your tradition is so strong that you are conflicted by this, then do the honorable thing and honor your father and mother and commit yourself to loving their choice for you. If you chose to love, you cannot be disapointed in your freewill choice to love.
Or did you just want me to agree with you?
OK, I agree with you.

Asaph