Daughter hinting she thinks she's a lesbian

[momofone1]

This breaks my heart. I pray daily. A year or so ago she mentioned she was questioning her sexuality. She's in her early teens. I also need her to find Jesus.

 

[ll_retro.duck_ll]

This breaks my heart. I pray daily. A year or so ago she mentioned she was questioning her sexuality. She's in her early teens. I also need her to find Jesus.

Dang, wish you the best on dealing with this. I think a common trap the youth are led into is that their feelings are a source of identity. Many soon-to-be teachers from my school are moving on training elementary school students into such an idea. Since she's at the age where identity becomes more apparent, have you engaged in any explicit (more direct/open) discussions with her about identity?

 

[Reborn1977]

Your daughter and you are in my prayers.

 

[John42]

This breaks my heart. I pray daily. A year or so ago she mentioned she was questioning her sexuality. She's in her early teens. I also need her to find Jesus.

She might be in a phase. She may pass through this. Probably will.

 

[momofone1]

I appreciate all your prayers. Just got done reading "A Change of Affection" by Becket Cook. I keep praying daily.

 

[PloverWing]

This is probably a hard time for your daughter, as she sorts everything out. Remind her that you love her and God loves her, no matter what, and that you're a listening ear and a safe place for her.

 

[ll_retro.duck_ll]

I appreciate all your prayers. Just got done reading "A Change of Affection" by Becket Cook. I keep praying daily.

I think that's the best thing. In my experience in ministry, direct and persistent challenges could backfire, unless she's the kind of girl who really appreciates and respects leadership. If she's the opposite, the heart wants what the heart wants, and I think prayer, love, and being that "person" she can confide (as PloverWing said) can be used by God in the future when she's seeking Him. Keep up the prayers!

 

[Kolleen]

Hi Retoduck,

Your daughter must be going through such a hard time finding her identity. Stay positive and continue praying. I suggest maybe getting her involved in church fellowship so she can strengthen her faith and have a daughter and father bonding discussion regarding her sexuality (Remember don’t be demanding and hateful but also state the concerns). The reason why I suggested this is because when my mother was being demanding where she was against me dating this guy, I was frustrated and it made me go against her even more. I hope this helps a

 

[ll_retro.duck_ll]

Hi Retoduck,

Your daughter must be going through such a hard time finding her identity. Stay positive and continue praying. I suggest maybe getting her involved in church fellowship so she can strengthen her faith and have a daughter and father bonding discussion regarding her sexuality (Remember don’t be demanding and hateful but also state the concerns). The reason why I suggested this is because when my mother was being demanding where she was against me dating this guy, I was frustrated and it made me go against her even more. I hope this helps a

Actually, this is momofone's thread

 

[Lost4words]

She still ur flesh and blood. She needs u. Whatever the case.

Be there for her. Support her. Love her. Guide her.

Listen to her....

 

[Mountainmanbob]

The more that they push this in the schools
by the ones who wish to push it
we will be seeing more and more.

Sad but, the world we live in.

M-Bob

 

[Joined2krist]

In addition to prayers, change her school, I would home school if I was in your Shoes. Teach her God's word and establish in her the fear of God. God bless

 

[Anthony2019]

Prayers for your daughter as she comes to terms with her sexuality, that she will find love and grace in a world that is very often unwelcoming and hostile towards people who perceive things differently to us. I pray that she will experience peace and hope in Jesus Christ, whose love crossed all boundaries and who had a special compassion for those who were misunderstood or alienated. It is my hope that she will come to faith, not through fear of abandonment or rejection, but she will come to Christ because He first loved us (1 John 4:19).
And I pray for you that your daughter will continue to be a great encouragement to you. With all the chaos going on in the world at the present time, our families and loved ones are a blessing and a treasure truly worth holding onto.

 

[NothingIsImpossible]

This is the sad world we live in. The world teaches our kids whats "normal" and we are stuck dealing with what they do because of it. I will pray for you. I honestly don't think I could deal with such a situation. If my kid was old enough I would tell them they would have to move out at 18 because I won't support that stuff under my roof.

 

[momofone1]

In addition to prayers, change her school, I would home school if I was in your Shoes. Teach her God's word and establish in her the fear of God. God bless

I don't think I could homeschool. I also think it would make things worse if we took her out of her high school. I wish we would have put her in a Christian school from the beginning. Hindsight is 20/20.

I'm still praying for her to find Jesus. We watch our church's online sermons every Sunday.

 

[Mac267]

as most priests will tell you, feeling homosexual tendencies is not a sin. Most priests say homosexual BEHAVIOR is. Butdo not tell your child that homosexuality is only a sin if she acts on it. at first when i came to terms with the fact that i was a lesbian, i felt scared and hopeless and didn’t know what to do because i thought it meant i was going to hell for certain. later i was told (in an attempt to comfort me) that it’s only a sin if i act on it. that meant i could either go to hell, or spend my life alone repressing my feelings. you know what i started doing to cope? one) i started cutting myself. every time i looked at the girl i had feelings for i’d hurt myself in an attempt to “fix” myself. second) i was told suicides landed you in hell too, so instead i would break down crying in the church bathroom begging god to give me a terminal illness or to will a car to swerve and hit me. once my self hatred stemmed from that, it stayed with me for years, and it’s still not completely gone. If you tell her that she’s only a sinner if she acts on her orientation, or at all, then she will either grow to resent you, the church, herself, or all three. I pray to God that either you change, or that your daughter is able to get far far away from you.

 

[Mountainmanbob]

I pray to God that either you change, or that your daughter is able to get far far away from you.

That doesn't sound good
nor loving.
M

 

[Mac267]

That doesn't sound good
nor loving.
M

it is. it’s loving towards their daughter, who I don’t want to become another lgbt youth suicide statistic. It’s love to want to protect someone from the circumstances that nearly drove me to suicide. It’s love to make the original poster understand the gravity of a situation, because nobody deserves to lose a child, especially by suicide.

 

[Isilwen]

I have a thirteen-year-old daughter who, several months ago let me know that she is gay. It was initially a shock, but only initially.

I have accepted her for who she is. I still love her for who she is. That will never change! I will not try to change her. I will not throw bible verses at her. She is who she is.

 

[Mac267]

I have a thirteen-year-old daughter who, several months ago let me know that she is gay. It was initially a shock, but only initially.

I have accepted her for who she is. I still love her for who she is. That will never change! I will not try to change her. I will not throw bible verses at her. She is who she is.

Thank you so much. I’m sure it means a lot to her. I assure you you’re doing the right thing. Reacting the way you did is the best thing you can do for your child and for her faith.