my friend asked me this question when we got pizza last night. I really didnt have a response because usually when i pray i dont ask for things i tell God on how i am feeling. He wanted to know if he prays for a gf will God give him one? i thought about it and i concluded with this. God does not make deals and is not a dating service. You can ask God to give you the courage to ask a girl you really like out or for better judgement when it comes to choosing a gf.
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Can I Pray for a Girlfriend? Is It Wrong to Ask God for a Gf?
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The Bible says:
"Delighthttp://www.biblestudytools.com/psalms/37-4.html#cr-descriptionAnchor-1 yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart." Psalm 37:4
"Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive,http://www.biblestudytools.com/john/16-24.html#cr-descriptionAnchor-1 and your joy will be complete." John 16:24
"But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" Matthew 6:33
I think it is ok to ask God for things. What we need to remember is the differnece between wants and needs and we need to trust that whatever answer God gives is what is best for us. (Sometimes yes, soemtimes no, and sometimes not yet) The key is putting God first in our lives (delighting ourselves in Him) and seeking Him. When we are seeking God first our desires will begin to line up with His and we will trust His answers. I believe God is very much involved in very aspect of our lives and wants us to communicate everything with Him!
Is it ok to pray for a boy friend or girl friend? I believe it is. In my asking God to bring me a man to share my life with and in my attempt to put God first I have found my prayer is not only that I might be married some day but also that I become the Proverbs 31 woman that a Godly man would desire.
"Delighthttp://www.biblestudytools.com/psalms/37-4.html#cr-descriptionAnchor-1 yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart." Psalm 37:4
"Until now you have not asked for anything in my name. Ask and you will receive,http://www.biblestudytools.com/john/16-24.html#cr-descriptionAnchor-1 and your joy will be complete." John 16:24
"But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well" Matthew 6:33
I think it is ok to ask God for things. What we need to remember is the differnece between wants and needs and we need to trust that whatever answer God gives is what is best for us. (Sometimes yes, soemtimes no, and sometimes not yet) The key is putting God first in our lives (delighting ourselves in Him) and seeking Him. When we are seeking God first our desires will begin to line up with His and we will trust His answers. I believe God is very much involved in very aspect of our lives and wants us to communicate everything with Him!
Is it ok to pray for a boy friend or girl friend? I believe it is. In my asking God to bring me a man to share my life with and in my attempt to put God first I have found my prayer is not only that I might be married some day but also that I become the Proverbs 31 woman that a Godly man would desire.
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bertolt
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The Bible says to pray for what you want, but accept that God fulfills that need out of His riches, not according to what we think we want. So yeah, I'd say praying for a girlfriend is all right; just accept His answer in His time. 
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Praying for a mate is a good and godly thing to ask for. Demanding God give you a girlfriend because you want one is another thing entirely (not saying your friend is doing that).
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RobertMerton
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The bible says, Love they God with all your heart, with all your soul, and all your strength.
The bible says, to delight in the Lord, and he will give you all the desires of your Heart.
Perhaps he should pray for intimacy with God first.
In regards to praying for one, I don't see anything wrong with it per se. Apostle Paul in the New Testament talks about 'praying without ceasing', about asking the Lord for anything and everything. (Philippians Chapter 4).
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Everyone is right, praying for that is fine as long as intentions are right. However one thing I would like to say is...
How old is he? How long has he been saved? And why does he want a girlfriend? What does he think having a girlfriend will give him? Is he enjoying his single-ness? If he is not why does he think that he is going to be able to truly enjoy a partner if he cannot enjoy being single?
Marriage and dating is forever... Single-ness has a time limit so we should enjoy it.
Those are questions he should ask himself before he prays for that. Because remember the Lord judges our hearts...
How old is he? How long has he been saved? And why does he want a girlfriend? What does he think having a girlfriend will give him? Is he enjoying his single-ness? If he is not why does he think that he is going to be able to truly enjoy a partner if he cannot enjoy being single?
Marriage and dating is forever... Single-ness has a time limit so we should enjoy it.
Those are questions he should ask himself before he prays for that. Because remember the Lord judges our hearts...
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NightWatchman
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I agree. It would depend on his attitude and his motivation. And perhaps he should be taking advantage of his singularity to travel or be a missionary. These things are much harder to do when one is married.
And has he traveled a lot/done mission work? How old is he? I hope the original poster can shed some light on these questions.
And has he traveled a lot/done mission work? How old is he? I hope the original poster can shed some light on these questions.
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Judy02
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Great bible verses and some wise comments afterward
I think what God is most concerned and bothered about is whether he ultimately comes first in your life, and whether your love for him is foremost and takes priority over everything else. What's important to consider if someone were to have a mate/partner is to ensure that even though marriage and having a partner is a wonderful thing, that it doesn't risk coming before God, where you look to a mate to find fulfillment before or above God.
I think it's fine to confess and share what the desires of your heart are to God, and that you want to be married (and I think most people probably do want to be). But also to pray that you will have the right motives for wanting to get married, and whether they are good, God honouring reasons. God knows what our heart's desires are now anyway - so admitting them to him and being straight and honest about them in your prayer time can only be a good thing! God wants us to be sincere and real with him and values our honesty, even if we still have some way to go in perfect behaviour
, and not just say what we think are the right things, if it's not genuine. Encourage your friend to share their desires with God, but also pray that God's will for their life will come first and foremost, and that he knows what is best, and ask that if they are to marry, that they are wanting it for the right reasons.Oh, and just to add sharing our "feelings" or our hearts desires, and wanting certain things in our life to be granted or fulfilled are not necessarily mutually exclusive
In fact, usually the opposite.
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what a disaster when we don't share our burdens and our wants and our needs and our guilt and our failures and fears with Christ. What a disaster it is when we do not share everything with Christ clinging to Him in all things. In Job it says
Does He not see my ways? And count all my steps? - Job 31:4
It is surely a great thing and a blessed thing to pray for a wife or a husband especially one who is godly, and today one does not simply get married without dating first. Jesus is no genie in a bottle, and yet the relationship between Jesus and the believer is as if you were the only other being in creation. All things from the littlest of the little details in your life He cares about, and desire intimacy in our most inward parts.
Is there anything too little or too big for Jesus to not be interested in? Doesn't He want us to have dialogue with Him in all things? Therefore, with meekness and submission we should come to Him in all things even matters that seem to trivial.
Remember the first "not good" in all scripture is "It is not good for man to be alone" so surely God cares about our relationships which are dating and especially our marriages.
yet God may also want you to do as Adam did and find no suitable partner in all that passed before him so you may for a time need to pass up on a girl or boy because he or she is not suitable.
To end with a quote from my mentor and my beloved brother: In the end you'll know. When you meet the right person you'll know.
Does He not see my ways? And count all my steps? - Job 31:4
It is surely a great thing and a blessed thing to pray for a wife or a husband especially one who is godly, and today one does not simply get married without dating first. Jesus is no genie in a bottle, and yet the relationship between Jesus and the believer is as if you were the only other being in creation. All things from the littlest of the little details in your life He cares about, and desire intimacy in our most inward parts.
Is there anything too little or too big for Jesus to not be interested in? Doesn't He want us to have dialogue with Him in all things? Therefore, with meekness and submission we should come to Him in all things even matters that seem to trivial.
Remember the first "not good" in all scripture is "It is not good for man to be alone" so surely God cares about our relationships which are dating and especially our marriages.
yet God may also want you to do as Adam did and find no suitable partner in all that passed before him so you may for a time need to pass up on a girl or boy because he or she is not suitable.
To end with a quote from my mentor and my beloved brother: In the end you'll know. When you meet the right person you'll know.
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