Okay, so here is my dilemma...
I think my boyfriend of 5 months may be lying to me about small things and I don't know how to figure it out or what to do. I know it has happened once before, but it was something so stupid that I thought he may have just said it without thinking. But now I'm not sure. We go to college together and are both in the same bio class. We got our grades back for an assignment and he told me that he got a perfect score (20/20) after I told him that I got an 18/20. Later, I found out that he actually got a 19/20. He explained it away as a mistake when I asked him about it, but I remembered that when I had asked to see his score when we got them back originally he wouldn't show it to me (laughing and playfully saying "Don't look at my grades!") I just don't understand why he would lie about one measly point!
Today, however, we got back an exam in the same class and he seemed upset with his grade. I let him see my test (I did well) to compare his answers and I asked him if he had gotten a question right that I had missed points on. He said that he had gotten it right but then when he tried to explain it to me, he told me something that I knew was wrong. When I corrected him, he got frustrated and defensive, then walked away. I have no solid proof that he lied in this instance because I never saw his test, but I think he may have.
In general, we have a very good relationship. We study the Bible together, pray together, attend the same church, and both share the same priorities. He treats me well, is affectionate, and always tells me that he cares about me a lot. This possible "lying" is the only thing that bothers me. So far it has just been these two instances that I know of, but they are making me constantly paranoid about his lying about other (bigger) things. I think about it all the time now! (The last guy I dated ended up cheating on me and lied to me about it throughout our entire relationship and I think this has caused me to have some trust issues...)
On a side note, I think he may have some insecurities about school and am wondering if this stems from that. I typically do better than him academically, but this has never bothered me at all. He still does well and I am proud of him. I just want to know that I can trust him. I care about him sooo much and don't want to break-up with him. If I can't trust him though, I will have no choice but to end things.
What do you think? Sorry it was so long.
I think my boyfriend of 5 months may be lying to me about small things and I don't know how to figure it out or what to do. I know it has happened once before, but it was something so stupid that I thought he may have just said it without thinking. But now I'm not sure. We go to college together and are both in the same bio class. We got our grades back for an assignment and he told me that he got a perfect score (20/20) after I told him that I got an 18/20. Later, I found out that he actually got a 19/20. He explained it away as a mistake when I asked him about it, but I remembered that when I had asked to see his score when we got them back originally he wouldn't show it to me (laughing and playfully saying "Don't look at my grades!") I just don't understand why he would lie about one measly point!
Today, however, we got back an exam in the same class and he seemed upset with his grade. I let him see my test (I did well) to compare his answers and I asked him if he had gotten a question right that I had missed points on. He said that he had gotten it right but then when he tried to explain it to me, he told me something that I knew was wrong. When I corrected him, he got frustrated and defensive, then walked away. I have no solid proof that he lied in this instance because I never saw his test, but I think he may have.
In general, we have a very good relationship. We study the Bible together, pray together, attend the same church, and both share the same priorities. He treats me well, is affectionate, and always tells me that he cares about me a lot. This possible "lying" is the only thing that bothers me. So far it has just been these two instances that I know of, but they are making me constantly paranoid about his lying about other (bigger) things. I think about it all the time now! (The last guy I dated ended up cheating on me and lied to me about it throughout our entire relationship and I think this has caused me to have some trust issues...)
On a side note, I think he may have some insecurities about school and am wondering if this stems from that. I typically do better than him academically, but this has never bothered me at all. He still does well and I am proud of him. I just want to know that I can trust him. I care about him sooo much and don't want to break-up with him. If I can't trust him though, I will have no choice but to end things.
What do you think? Sorry it was so long.