please post here. I am considering doing the same so your experiences would really help me out.
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Are any couples saving their first kiss until their wedding day? Or did?
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sunshineray
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A girl in my bible study is doing this and it's going really really well. They have said I love you and want to marry soon... and I believe they are meant to be. They are careful not to put themselves in tempting situations and spend most of their time with their friend or in public when alone together.
I personally could never do it.... but I truly admire them for doing it. I think it takes two very secure people to do this. They express their love in different ways than physical touch. And they have a very open flow of communication.
I personally could never do it.... but I truly admire them for doing it. I think it takes two very secure people to do this. They express their love in different ways than physical touch. And they have a very open flow of communication.
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I'm waiting. glad to know that i am not the only one, and would love responses from someone who is married who waited too.
I became christian later in life, after having several boyfriends and taking the physical relationship too far with them, so my fiance decided when we started going out that he wanted us to wait, so that i would be under know illusions about what he wanted from me, and that he is not in this just for the physical aspect. Took me a while to understand and agree, but i am so thankful now. He is my best friend, we hold hands, hug, snuggle sometimes, he plays with my hair - all wonderful, loving touch, and yet our physical relationship has a very clear boundary. some days it is hard to love him so much and not be able to show it as i want, but knowing all that is waiting for me when we are married is incredibly exciting. I'm a bit scared about our first kiss being at the alter in front of all our family and friends, but i also wouldn't change it.
I became christian later in life, after having several boyfriends and taking the physical relationship too far with them, so my fiance decided when we started going out that he wanted us to wait, so that i would be under know illusions about what he wanted from me, and that he is not in this just for the physical aspect. Took me a while to understand and agree, but i am so thankful now. He is my best friend, we hold hands, hug, snuggle sometimes, he plays with my hair - all wonderful, loving touch, and yet our physical relationship has a very clear boundary. some days it is hard to love him so much and not be able to show it as i want, but knowing all that is waiting for me when we are married is incredibly exciting. I'm a bit scared about our first kiss being at the alter in front of all our family and friends, but i also wouldn't change it.
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Me too! We're waiting!
It's definitely not always easy, but his commitment to waiting for me actually gives me security (as opposed to what sushineray said about needing to be secure people to wait.. the waiting actually makes for security in marriage!!)
My siss and her now-husband of two years waited till their wedding day, too - and they didn't have any trouble at all (as far as after the wedding
)..
It's definitely not always easy, but his commitment to waiting for me actually gives me security (as opposed to what sushineray said about needing to be secure people to wait.. the waiting actually makes for security in marriage!!)
My siss and her now-husband of two years waited till their wedding day, too - and they didn't have any trouble at all (as far as after the wedding
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BeautifulDestiny09
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Me personally, I'm not doing it...BUT I know of a couple who dated without kissing and saved it for their wedding date...it was such a sweet story
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we are not doing i. but i think you can tell so much from a kiss.
my frist kiss with kev was on the first date (we met on line so the first face to face meeting) and that first kiss i knew that i was going to spend the rest of my life with him.
to some ppl i will sound mad buti do love him and have always known that i wanna be with him forever.
my frist kiss with kev was on the first date (we met on line so the first face to face meeting) and that first kiss i knew that i was going to spend the rest of my life with him.
to some ppl i will sound mad buti do love him and have always known that i wanna be with him forever.
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Our first kiss will also be with the knowledge that we will spend the rest of our lives together!
FH and i have had a rather serious discussion since my last post about how we will go about that kiss at the alter, so we now have an action plan, and that makes me feel better.
I agree that this choice in our relationship makes me feel more secure - if DF is unwilling to even kiss me before we are married, how very unlikely it is that he will break any of the bonds of marriage in the future. He holds marriage as so sacred that even a kiss is special within it. That makes me secure, and love him even more.
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FH and i have had a rather serious discussion since my last post about how we will go about that kiss at the alter, so we now have an action plan, and that makes me feel better.
I agree that this choice in our relationship makes me feel more secure - if DF is unwilling to even kiss me before we are married, how very unlikely it is that he will break any of the bonds of marriage in the future. He holds marriage as so sacred that even a kiss is special within it. That makes me secure, and love him even more.
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HisLittleHazelnut
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Being in a long distance relationship is difficult because we're both primarily touch love languages. I don't think we could have done it without kissing at all. In fact, he tries to make up for every day we've been apart and every day we will be apart! Sometimes this is almost a year, so yeah he's busy.
And I love every minute of it and each one is special.
And I love every minute of it and each one is special.
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HisLittleHazelnut
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By they way, the only couple I saw that saved their first kiss messed up at the altar. He kissed her nose.
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Nope, not saving it lol
I'd be WAAAAY to embarassed for our first kiss ever to be in front of a ton of people. That is a disaster waiting to happen for me.
I'd be WAAAAY to embarassed for our first kiss ever to be in front of a ton of people. That is a disaster waiting to happen for me.
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HisLittleHazelnut
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You're also 17... not 25. I hope your marriage goes well and that you're not going to be dirt poor.We saved our first kiss for our wedding day.
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I agree with Mr. Cheese.. it's good if you want to save your first kiss for the altar (I think it's kind of sweet, although I couldn't do it), but take things slowly.. you don't have to go from zero to sex all in one night. Take your time to enjoy each other.. you have a lifetime ahead of you.
Maybe that was intentional? Nonetheless, it might be a sweet memory in their eyes instead of a "mess up".. nobody said the first kiss has to be technically perfect.
I don't think that was necessary.
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