Hello forum! This is my first post here on this website, and I'd first just like to say welcome and God bless to everybody here!
I am a 42 y/o mother with a 17 y/o son who is a senior in high school. Up recently, I had always thought of my son as a very good person. He scored straight A's thoughout highschool and middle school, he was a very respectful person towards me and my husband, and he was a very social person with lots of friends. At some point in the summer between junior and senior year I began noticing severe changes in his personality and behaviour. He started going to the gym very frequently (he was always heavily overweight by 60 or 70 pounds), he spent a lot of time at the library, and became very introverted. At the beginning of the school year, this behaviour progressed. He seemed to lose most of his friendships, and spent his weekends alone "biking" or "hanging out" downtown or at the library. My husband and I became very concerned with his change in attitude, however he continued to score good grades and he was in excellent physical condition so we could not complain.
However as time went on his grades began to slip and we were increasingly worried of what was wrong with him. He talked to us very rarely, and when he did he was very critical of us and our actions. He began demanding that we give more money to charities and homeless shelters, and asked us to sell our more extravagent luxuries (plasma television, coastal summer home, major electronics, etc.), because our lives fueled by materialistic posesions were keeping us from living "a life of simplicity, independence, magnanimity, and trust." (His words, not mine) He asked us if he could skip church to go on more extended bike rides, declaring that modern religion is "drivel shoved down the throat of sheeple," and he accused college as being "deameaning 20th century inventions."
My husband and I talked to our pastor about what we should do, and he said that it was just teen rebellion that would pass in time. However, I recently walked into my son's room very late at night (I was closing the windows because the heater was on) and I found that my son was not in his bed! My husband and I decided not to call the police, and hoped he would return that night. As we hoped, he did (at 5:30 in the morning!) and he was astounded when we were waiting in his room for him. We searched the backpack he was wearing, and found the unimaginable: a used marijuana pipe, along with a small sack of dope and a lighter. When we asked him where he was, he said he was giving homeless people Taco Bell and "smoking them out". We asked him if he had any other drugs in his room, and he admitted that he kept his stash under his bed.
We were flabbergasted, and had no idea that our own son was a druggie! We found 48 tabs of LSD, a small sack of "powdered mescaline", a baggie of poisonous mushrooms, some "DMT" (a kind of crystal meth), 2C-E (which is slang for cocaine), and more dope (marijuana). When we confronted him on the drugs, he told us that they were for "a journey of 'psycedelic' self betterment." He said that he used the drugs to become a better person, and that 'psycedelic' drugs were labelled under a blanket category of "hard drugs" when they were in fact tools of spiritual healing.
I have no idea what to do! I will continue to pray for my son, but he seems firmly convinced that what he is doing is morally right, regardless of religion or his own health. I have told him that if he does not stop abusing drugs, he will die and his brain and body will detiriorate, but he demands that he's used the 'psycedelic' drugs on a regular basis for over 8 months and that he is in better shape and is more inteligent than he was before he started abusing drugs. He claims that nobody has ever overdosed on LSD before (which I do not believe, people overdose on LSD all the time!) and that he does not do any of the "hard" drugs (as if crystal meth and cocaine are not dangerous drugs!). Please help me, I don't know what to do!
I am a 42 y/o mother with a 17 y/o son who is a senior in high school. Up recently, I had always thought of my son as a very good person. He scored straight A's thoughout highschool and middle school, he was a very respectful person towards me and my husband, and he was a very social person with lots of friends. At some point in the summer between junior and senior year I began noticing severe changes in his personality and behaviour. He started going to the gym very frequently (he was always heavily overweight by 60 or 70 pounds), he spent a lot of time at the library, and became very introverted. At the beginning of the school year, this behaviour progressed. He seemed to lose most of his friendships, and spent his weekends alone "biking" or "hanging out" downtown or at the library. My husband and I became very concerned with his change in attitude, however he continued to score good grades and he was in excellent physical condition so we could not complain.
However as time went on his grades began to slip and we were increasingly worried of what was wrong with him. He talked to us very rarely, and when he did he was very critical of us and our actions. He began demanding that we give more money to charities and homeless shelters, and asked us to sell our more extravagent luxuries (plasma television, coastal summer home, major electronics, etc.), because our lives fueled by materialistic posesions were keeping us from living "a life of simplicity, independence, magnanimity, and trust." (His words, not mine) He asked us if he could skip church to go on more extended bike rides, declaring that modern religion is "drivel shoved down the throat of sheeple," and he accused college as being "deameaning 20th century inventions."
My husband and I talked to our pastor about what we should do, and he said that it was just teen rebellion that would pass in time. However, I recently walked into my son's room very late at night (I was closing the windows because the heater was on) and I found that my son was not in his bed! My husband and I decided not to call the police, and hoped he would return that night. As we hoped, he did (at 5:30 in the morning!) and he was astounded when we were waiting in his room for him. We searched the backpack he was wearing, and found the unimaginable: a used marijuana pipe, along with a small sack of dope and a lighter. When we asked him where he was, he said he was giving homeless people Taco Bell and "smoking them out". We asked him if he had any other drugs in his room, and he admitted that he kept his stash under his bed.
We were flabbergasted, and had no idea that our own son was a druggie! We found 48 tabs of LSD, a small sack of "powdered mescaline", a baggie of poisonous mushrooms, some "DMT" (a kind of crystal meth), 2C-E (which is slang for cocaine), and more dope (marijuana). When we confronted him on the drugs, he told us that they were for "a journey of 'psycedelic' self betterment." He said that he used the drugs to become a better person, and that 'psycedelic' drugs were labelled under a blanket category of "hard drugs" when they were in fact tools of spiritual healing.
I have no idea what to do! I will continue to pray for my son, but he seems firmly convinced that what he is doing is morally right, regardless of religion or his own health. I have told him that if he does not stop abusing drugs, he will die and his brain and body will detiriorate, but he demands that he's used the 'psycedelic' drugs on a regular basis for over 8 months and that he is in better shape and is more inteligent than he was before he started abusing drugs. He claims that nobody has ever overdosed on LSD before (which I do not believe, people overdose on LSD all the time!) and that he does not do any of the "hard" drugs (as if crystal meth and cocaine are not dangerous drugs!). Please help me, I don't know what to do!