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  1. snoochface

    How do you make decisions together?

    I could have written this. My husband does the exact same thing. Sometimes I feel weighed down by having to make all the preferential decisions because he just doesn't have an opinion. He tells me if he really has a strong preference for something, he'll let me know - and he does. But I feel...
  2. snoochface

    What would Jesus want me to do?

    I can't tell if this is a joke or not. You seem to know a good amount about the Bible. Do you really believe that we are "back on the market" in heaven and that loving other people the way you are talking about, romantically, is going to be our focus in heaven? Do you know of anything in the...
  3. snoochface

    There's nothing else to call it, except weaponized incompetence

    I also have a husband who doesn't listen/hear/retain information well. The only solution that works is for our division of labor to be me doing the things that matter enough for me to want them to be done a certain way, and for him to do the things that he is interested in doing, good at doing...
  4. snoochface

    Do you think in words, images, or…

    Definitely in words. I have entire dialogues in my head. I work out logic with mental words. If I can't get the words in my head first, they don't come out of my mouth right.
  5. snoochface

    Not using birth control

    If you're not using birth control because you want to trust God and be obedient to him.... then if you have 3, 4, 5, 11 kids as a result, I guess you need to think of it as a result of trusting God and being obedient to him, and then trust him to help you take care of your passel of children...
  6. snoochface

    Another "what would you do?" question.

    I'm sorry he's taking that line. From things you've said in the past, I'm wondering if it's a combination of him not being comfortable with you having big emotions, and not wanting to deviate from the easiest course of action, which is inaction. He's got a good job, in his mind it's "Why take...
  7. snoochface

    Another "what would you do?" question.

    Start looking immediately. If they'll do it to one, they'll do it to all. Plus, it's just likely to be a sore spot between the spouses going forward, which isn't worth it when it's "just a job" to the one who still works there.
  8. snoochface

    Sin or Not Sin

    Why are you asking an internet forum? Ask the Holy Spirit and search scripture, and you'll get real answers without the inevitable salacious and argumentative discussions that will come from asking a diverse group of people their personal opinions. The only answer that matters in the end is...
  9. snoochface

    OK, let it be his idea.

    I think you've broken the code. I'm impressed. I remember your previous posts and how the communication issues between you could cause conflict, and you've found the way to improve on that. I hope I'm not coming across as condescending when I say I'm impressed, because I am, because I'm still...
  10. snoochface

    Gender-related humor?

    A neighbor who plays golf with my husband makes jokes like this, and I find it sickening - especially because he's a neighbor and we know his wife so it seems especially cruel. An example, he grew out a beard, and his wife hated it. He told my husband, "She won't kiss me until I shave my...
  11. snoochface

    (Moved) A question for wives

    The "right" translation of the Bible is the one that is shown to you by the Holy Spirit as you read God's word, meditate on what you are reading, and pray for the Holy Spirit to give you understanding. Translations do not change the meaning of God's word.
  12. snoochface

    Advice needed - all is welcome

    You did nothing wrong. The only thing you might have done "wrong" is to ask someone else in a group setting to change their behavior - only because he can send videos if he wants, and if other people in the group chat aren't bothered by it then the onus is on you to do what you need to do for...
  13. snoochface

    Did you give or receive flowers from your spouse on a March 8?

    So, if you're not in favor of receiving flowers on a random day assigned by... someone... you're also not in favor of women's rights? That's a big stretch. I don't give flowers to my husband on International Random Day either. So I guess that makes us equals.
  14. snoochface

    Did you give or receive flowers from your spouse on a March 8?

    I don't find it to be one of my rights as a woman to receive flowers. But no, I didn't get flowers that day, however my husband gives them to me regularly, for no reason other than to bring me something beautiful, throughout the year.
  15. snoochface

    Did you give or receive flowers from your spouse on a March 8?

    Is March 8 a flower giving holiday of some kind that is escaping me?
  16. snoochface

    Work Conversations - "My spouse" vs. "[spouse's name]"

    Unless someone knows my husband personally to the point that they would know who he is when I say his name, I use "my husband" in casual conversation.
  17. snoochface

    Wife won't attend church

    Leave and cleave. You haven't left your mother and you're not cleaving to your wife. Change churches. Don't tell your mother where you are going. Draw a boundary and stick to it. You are being disloyal to your wife by setting this up as if it were a choice between your wife or your mother. It's...
  18. snoochface

    Things that make you go, hmmmm.

    I have to say I agree with just putting your phone on DND when you're sleeping. Is it possible that you're picky or critical if the errands aren't run "properly" so they're trying to stay ahead of that by double checking with you?
  19. snoochface

    Domination and submission fantasies in the bedroom

    Why would it be sin? What scripture do you think it would possibly be violating?
  20. snoochface

    In Laws

    I think you probably didn't get replies because it's hard to understand what the problem is. Invite your mother over. Your husband can deal with it from time to time. Talk to your mother immediately and directly if she says anything out of line to him, because she's your family and therefore...
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