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Going to church as a 30-something single childfree woman
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Ironically, in my church, I think many singles are single by choice. Many of them already had relationships in the past although none resulting to marriage and many are divorcees and single parents.
I'm not sure if I'm single by choice myself. If my circumstances are different, I might have taken the chance to get to know someone even just for a friend.
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Yeah ,it's a choice, I fear it is being taught they need a Mini Christ, a 'Super Apostle.' You strive to be that, b/c Christ is your passion, but it's never enough. Unless you're a Bible Study Leady or Missionary, a "Super Apostle", it's like you can't get married to a godly woman, they're taught to want that, & that's good I suppose, but can every man be a Bible Study Leader or Missionary? It's depressing.
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I'm not sure if single women in our church behave the same way because I never tried to talk to any of the single women in our church.
But I won't be surprised if a "godly woman" would only be interested in men who have leadership qualities and eager/ambitioning to become ministry leader, etc.
Honestly I'm not convinced it's a winning formula for Godly women. Because there are many Christian men whose eagerness to get lead roles outweigh their desire to uncover the truth. Because everything you do ends up worthless if it doesn't have truth in it.
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I feel like I just want a godly man who actually has a relationship with God and doesn't just talks the talk but walks the walk. He doesn't have to be in a leadership role. In fact, I would prefer if he didn't because if he was a pastor or missionary I would never see him because he will always be on the go and busy. Maybe that is selfish of me. lol
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Well, this morning I had the intention of going to church finally...but I got scared and ended up sleeping in again. 
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I mean, generally there's nothing wrong w/ desiring these Super Apostles b/c many do desire to preach the truth, & those desiring the Super Apostles want them to preach the truth. So it's good. But those of us who aren't - what are to do. We don't want the worldly. I fear I am single my whole life
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Yeah, that'll happen. Try again next week. Desire in you from the Holy Spirit.Well, this morning I had the intention of going to church finally...but I got scared and ended up sleeping in again.
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It's taught you know someone is walking the walk b/c they are in a church leadership role b/c accountability. But this isn't what Bible says. It says different people have different roles. Our righteousness & desire for God isn't based on our role in the church. & as members in Christ's body, we all have people, the other parts of his body, keeping us accountable.
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Thanks for trying to help. Yeah, the world is big, we have a big God! But If I can't get married here, what good would moving somewhere else do.
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the flesh.
Anxiety is just the fear of the unknown really and the flesh likes to trap us in it, whereas the Lord wants us to go forward knowing he goes before us and behind us.
you'll do just fine.
My flesh has tried the same and I can tell you it's when our flesh is pushing back hard that we should do it all the more because it's in those instances where we step out of our comfort zones that the Lord shows up in a big way.
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I'm not giving up. Why would one out of USA be different from one in USA.
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Large differences in upbringing, cultures, and circumstances in life. It sounds like you've never been outside of USA nor had close friendship with someone from outside of USA who did not grew up in the American culture.
I'm not saying it's better but if you're not having any success looking for someone, you may consider it as your last or final option before you get too old searching.
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You don't get too old searching.
Understand. Americans are born w/ the spirit of the rebellion. Can make it difficult even in genuine Christian circles.
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