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Are You Brave Enough to Post A Picture of Yourself?

Yusuphhai

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I'm relying on memory here (which is dangerous, because my memory sometimes fails) but I think you're a Taipei dweller... (?)

If so, you could be seeing me soon. I have some friends to catch up with.

I don't live in Taipei/Taiwan but I've met several Taiwanese when I worked in Hong Kong and also met some during a flight who are also Christians. Very hospitable and friendly people, way nicer people than myself!

I think we did have the same conversation about Taiwan several years ago. I live in the much more dangerous islands in the south. The Philippines.
 
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If privacy is a concern forums are worse in the long run. People reveal significantly more about themselves in this setting. And the volume of data is massive because the posts are longer. They're more likely to be vulnerable and share painful or embarrassing experiences. Things they would never admit on social media. You can learn more about them as result. Their opinions, hopes and fears, challenges, growth and so on. Few people use them intentionally.

That's where the 'I won't say anything I can't admit on a stage comes from.' I never discuss my problems or ask for insight. You won't find a thread here or anywhere else. I've never done it. While I share my opinions and answer questions there's a theme. There's topics I don't touch and levels of expression too.

I've been a fly on the wall for years. Most people on the Internet are living double lives or have secrets they don't want to get out. But I tell it before others can. My loved ones know everything. The sites I've frequented, the people I've met, including men, and my experiences good and bad.

Because there's no such thing anonymity. I knew that with dial up. They could trace the connection. I reasoned you tell it now or it comes out later and decided to be honest. I didn't want anything over my head. I know what it is and treat it accordingly.

~bella
That's why I don't share enough personal info here to identify me. I also never use my social media in the same browser that I do my forum stuff or other general browsing in, so the cookies and cache are contained.
 
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That's why I don't share enough personal info here to identify me. I also never use my social media in the same browser that I do my forum stuff or other general browsing in, so the cookies and cache are contained.

You're very smart and your background certainly helps.

Public venues attract people from different walks of life and the worst thing you can assume is everyone is harmless. Being in settings with diverse populations that were sizable provided numerous opportunities to observe unhealthy behavior. The number of people who develop fixations and unrequited attractions is vast. You have others who follow you around the site liking your posts, commenting behind you or putting themselves in your face.

There was a time when groups had public outings and members would say they're going. For a while nothing happened. But people started checking the list and showing up but didn't say they were coming. You can imagine the reason why and it became a problem.

A similar thing was happening on Foursquare. I went to a social media conference and they warned us about the app and advised us to check in before exiting not when we arrived. Because people were watching the page and showing up but they didn't know them at all.

When people say they stalked someone's page, did background checks, and things along those lines. I'm side eyeing them in my head. Oftentimes they don't have a connection or it isn't serious. If they do it to them they'll do it to me as well.

~bella
 
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