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<blockquote data-quote="stevevw" data-source="post: 77678344" data-attributes="member: 342064"><p>But you have also implied that a hierarchy is itself is inherently abusive and controlling. For example I said </p><p>Stevevw said</p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">I think its important to clarify that </span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>hierarchies themselves are not controlling or abusive</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"> and that it takes a human to make them abusive.</span></em></p><p>Paidiske said</p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>I don't agree.</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"> Hierarchies - relationships of control -</span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong> are, by definition, controlling.</strong></span></em></p><p>Stevevw said</p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>Acceptence of hierarchies is not violence or abusive. </strong></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">Acceptence of rigid roles is not inherently violent or abusive.</span></em></p><p>Paidiske said</p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">No; but they are two necessary prerequisite beliefs to being violent and abusive.</span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong> In that sense, they are not neutral; they are profoundly dangerous.</strong></span></em></p><p></p><p>But we are not just talking about households but any relationship within society as you said. So relationships within society, within households can be hierarchal and in fact are necessarily hierarchal and are not controlling in an abusive sense. </p><p></p><p>For example as mentioned the family hierarchy where parents are in control and at the top of the hierarchy overall and children are at the bottom. Or in how competent people are at the top and in positions of power and control to make the best decisions and to do the best work to run society and the rest are at varying levels of control below in forming a natural and healthy hierarchy for running a large society. </p><p></p><p>Its a value judgement in that you have said above that a hierarchy itself is abusive control and that you have not clearly defined which exactly is abuse or not. You assume any control within hierarchies is abusive. You have implied good and innocent people as holding abusive beliefs including myself when you have no evidence. That is a value judgement. </p><p></p><p>How you have assumed normal and healthy situations like controlling hierarchies are abusive. How you have accused innocent people in trying to read their minds, attribute abusive thinking and beliefs to them because they have opposing views that controlling hierarchies are abusive. </p><p></p><p>Your approach has no factual basis because control can be both positive and negative, abusive or healthy and beneficial but you assume they are all abusive. </p><p></p><p>I have provided evidence for the mindset of abusers. Every link I provided that links cognitions, emotions, feelings, psychological distress and perceptions to abuse is evidence that belief does not act in isolation and is entangled in cognitions, emotion and influence our psyche. </p><p></p><p>I don't want to have to re submit the many links I already posted. You just have to go back and you will find ample evidence. </p><p></p><p>But realistically if you breakdown my evidence I have actually linked 100s of pieces of evidence that abuse does not just happen because of beliefs and that it involves cognitions, emotional and psychological states. Like this simple statement of fact points out</p><p></p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">P</span></em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"><em>arents experiencing parental burnout <strong>are more likely to engage in abusive behavior toward their children.</strong></em></span></p><p></p><p>So even simple statements like this refute your claim that cognitions, emotions and the psyche are not involved in abuse. If parents who experience burnout or distress abuse more then this is evidence that emotion, cognition and the psyche are linked. In that sense there are 100's of pieces of evidence besides the more clear cut ones I have linked like this. </p><p></p><p></p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">Peel back the layers of human consciousness, and you’ll find an</span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong> intricate dance of thoughts, emotions, and beliefs.</strong></span></em></p><p><a href="https://www.thedailypositive.com/understanding-and-managing-lashing-out/" target="_blank">Caught in the Storm: Understanding and Managing Lashing Out - The Daily Positive</a></p><p></p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>The processes of believing </strong></span></em><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><em><strong>integrate</strong></em><strong> <em>external perceptual information from the environment </em></strong><em><strong>with internal emotional states and prior experience</strong></em></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"><em> to generate probabilistic neural representations of events, i.e.</em></span><em><strong><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">, </span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)">beliefs.</span></strong></em></p><p>[URL unfurl="true"]https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9584167/[/URL]</p><p></p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">Behaviour is affected by factors relating to the person, including: </span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>personal and emotional factors</strong> -</span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"> personality, </span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>beliefs, expectations, emotions, mental health, life experiences</strong> </span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">- family, culture, friends and life events.</span></em></p><p><a href="https://www.health.nsw.gov.au/mentalhealth/psychosocial/principles/Pages/behaviour-factors.aspx" target="_blank">Principles for effective support - What factors can affect behaviour?</a></p><p></p><p>I could find hudreds of these all linking beliefs, cognitions, emotions and psychological states and affects. </p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">Beliefs are related to emotional processes</span></em></p><p><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"><em>people believe behaviors are justified because of the intensity of their emotions</em></span></p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"><em>Irrational and unreal beliefs are higher when emotional stress is elevated</em></span></em></p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"><em>Psychological interventions have been shown to reduce emotional symptoms and decrease negative thoughts and beliefs</em></span></em></p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">changing your mind does indeed mean changing how you feel, especially so for beliefs, which are more emotion-sensitive than knowledge.</span></em></p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">“emotions can awaken, intrude into, and shape beliefs</span></em></p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">“Strong feelings tend to elicit a search for supporting beliefs” and, conversely, beliefs tend to elicit a search for information that reinforces associated emotions (“belief-guided attentional focus.”)</span></em></p><p></p><p>But you have no clear way of recognising when its abusive control and when its just healthy control. You have already shown that you conflate normal and health control with abusive control. You even said is there anything such as healthy control as though there is no such thing. </p><p></p><p>I suggest you don't know yourself the difference but rather assume your own ideological beliefs about what control means and you give a biased and one sided view before any measure is taken. So you will always see abuse where others see it as just a normal part of how society works. </p><p></p><p>Thats like saying lets just concentrate on this one drug for drug prevention and ignore all the other drug choices which also cause problems. Thats why I think your approach is very limited and dangerous. It overlooks a lot.</p><p></p><p>It overlooks the thinking, emotions and psychological states, the conditions that cultivate abuse and everything is about beliefs which themselves have no clear definition and people can easily conflate non abusive situations as abusive and abusive situations as non abusive while missing a whole bunch of stuff that has been proven to be assocated with abuse and violence. </p><p></p><p>Not really as they are already overlooking beliefs that justify abuse in society right now because of their ideological beliefs. Or they promote abusive beliefs in the name of equality. </p><p></p><p>I agree that there are some obvious beliefs like the belief in violent and abusive controlling which speaks for itself. But when you start talking about hierarchies and control as being inherently abusive or any control being abusive then you have lost me as there is no evidence for this and its more about your own ideological beliefs. </p><p></p><p>It does have to do with DEI policies because they underpin the same principles of making people equal to prevent disproportionate power relationships. If everyone is equal and of equal position then there are no hierarchies of control and power or situations where some have it over others because they have more empowerment and control.</p><p></p><p>To be more specific the 'E; in DEI, Equity promotes policies such as Affirmative action. This is based on equality of outcome rather than equality of opportunity in order to equalize society. The idea is to priviledge those who are percieved as being disadvangaed by giving them special treatment to catch up on others and be equal.</p><p></p><p>But this is actually a form of descrimination and it priviledges some (minorities) over others thus disadvantaging others. Its doing exactly what the ideologues are protesting about. But its not seen as abusive because its helping the disadvantaged. This same policies has resulted in abuse and violence and yet is deeply believed as a good thing in how we should order society. This is just one example and there are others. </p><p></p><p>Yes they are and I gave yopu the evidence which you were awefully silent about. Like I said I could go back through all the links I supplied and hightlight where they are linked to demandingness, awfulising, downing and frustration intolertance ie</p><p></p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">Across these studies,</span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong> low frustration tolerance was associated with increased physical child abuse potential, greater use of parent-child aggression in discipline encounters, dysfunctional disciplinary style, support for physical discipline use and physical discipline escalation</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">, and increased heart rate.</span></em></p><p>[URL unfurl="true"]https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25796290/[/URL]</p><p></p><p>As already evidenced Self-Downing is associated with parental low self esteem and comparing self to others negatively as well as putting others down to make self feel better. Many of the links provided support this ie</p><p></p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">The</span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong> abusive parents </strong></span></em><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><em><strong>are usually rigid and inflexible in their thinking</strong></em></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"><em> and are more likely to use <a href="https://www.parentingforbrain.com/coercive-parenting/" target="_blank"><u>coercive disciplinary methods</u></a> and believe that harsh punishment is the only way to discipline. Parents at risk of abuse toward children</em></span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><em><strong> tend to have low self-esteem</strong></em></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"><em>.</em></span></p><p><em><a href="https://www.parentingforbrain.com/abusive-parents/" target="_blank">Why Do Parents Physically Abuse Their Children</a></em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>Child-abusing women also lack self-esteem </strong></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">and strength of will.</span></em></p><p><em><a href="https://marripedia.org/effects_of_family_structure_on_child_abuse" target="_blank">Effects of Family Structure on Child Abuse [Marripedia]</a></em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">Two robust findings were the </span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>negative correlation between explicit self-esteem and self-downing</strong></span></em></p><p>[URL unfurl="true"]https://www.researchgate.net/publication/235417899_Implicit_and_explicit_self-esteem_and_irrational_beliefs[/URL]</p><p></p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>Your negative core beliefs reflect the negative, broad, and generalised judgements you have made about yourself</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">, based on some negative experiences you might have had during your earlier years. negative life experiences contribute to the development of your </span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>low self-esteem provide clues as to what your negative core beliefs are.</strong></span> </em></p><p><a href="https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/-/media/CCI/Consumer-Modules/Improving-Self-Esteem/Improving-Self-Esteem---08---Developing-Balanced-Core-Beliefs.pdf" target="_blank">https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/-/media/CCI/Consumer-Modules/Improving-Self-Esteem/Improving-Self-Esteem---08---Developing-Balanced-Core-Beliefs.pdf</a> </p><p></p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">Controlling people have </span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>low self-esteem</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"> and project their own negative traits onto their partners. </span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>All controlling people have a low sense of self-esteem and self-worth</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">, and being in control brings a sense of safety. </span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>They feel that they are entitled to inflict pain on others.</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"> They have a</span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong> strong intolerance of any type of discomfort</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">, and have </span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>rigid beliefs about how a person should be</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">. The</span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong> abusive or controlling personality type believes</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"> the other person is the problem and </span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>must be controlled </strong></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">and made subject to their will. </span></em> </p><p><a href="https://www.jimoshea.net/controlling-people-have-low-self-esteem-and-project-their-own-negative-traits-onto-their-partners/" target="_blank">controlling people have low self-esteem and project their own negative traits onto their partners - Jim O'Shea, Researcher, Author, Volunteer Counsellor & EMDR Therapist</a></p><p> </p><p><em><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">Quite often, </span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>controlling people seek praise</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"> from others as a means of reassurance and </span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><strong>boosting their own self-esteem</strong></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)">. </span></em> <a href="https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/what-are-control-issues/" target="_blank">What Are Control Issues? Causes, Signs And Treatments</a></p><p> </p><p><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"><em>The findings suggest that there are </em></span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><em><strong>key mechanisms through which vulnerable parents can be helped to break the cycle of abuse.</strong></em></span> <span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><em><strong>Specifically the importance of</strong></em></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"><em> promoting social support, regulating parents’ behaviour through trauma-informed approaches and </em></span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><em><strong>enhancing</strong></em></span> <span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><em><strong>their</strong></em></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"><em> knowledge, </em></span><span style="color: rgb(44, 130, 201)"><em><strong>self-esteem</strong></em></span><span style="color: rgb(84, 172, 210)"><em> and confidence in parenting.</em></span></p><p><a href="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s42448-021-00103-8" target="_blank">Using the Behaviour Change Wheel (BCW) to Characterise Parenting Interventions to Prevent Intergenerational Child Abuse - International Journal on Child Maltreatment: Research, Policy and Practice</a></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="stevevw, post: 77678344, member: 342064"] But you have also implied that a hierarchy is itself is inherently abusive and controlling. For example I said Stevevw said [I][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]I think its important to clarify that [/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]hierarchies themselves are not controlling or abusive[/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)] and that it takes a human to make them abusive.[/COLOR][/I] Paidiske said [I][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]I don't agree.[/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)] Hierarchies - relationships of control -[/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B] are, by definition, controlling.[/B][/COLOR][/I] Stevevw said [I][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]Acceptence of hierarchies is not violence or abusive. [/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]Acceptence of rigid roles is not inherently violent or abusive.[/COLOR][/I] Paidiske said [I][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]No; but they are two necessary prerequisite beliefs to being violent and abusive.[/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B] In that sense, they are not neutral; they are profoundly dangerous.[/B][/COLOR][/I] But we are not just talking about households but any relationship within society as you said. So relationships within society, within households can be hierarchal and in fact are necessarily hierarchal and are not controlling in an abusive sense. For example as mentioned the family hierarchy where parents are in control and at the top of the hierarchy overall and children are at the bottom. Or in how competent people are at the top and in positions of power and control to make the best decisions and to do the best work to run society and the rest are at varying levels of control below in forming a natural and healthy hierarchy for running a large society. Its a value judgement in that you have said above that a hierarchy itself is abusive control and that you have not clearly defined which exactly is abuse or not. You assume any control within hierarchies is abusive. You have implied good and innocent people as holding abusive beliefs including myself when you have no evidence. That is a value judgement. [COLOR=rgb(0, 0, 0)][/COLOR] How you have assumed normal and healthy situations like controlling hierarchies are abusive. How you have accused innocent people in trying to read their minds, attribute abusive thinking and beliefs to them because they have opposing views that controlling hierarchies are abusive. Your approach has no factual basis because control can be both positive and negative, abusive or healthy and beneficial but you assume they are all abusive. I have provided evidence for the mindset of abusers. Every link I provided that links cognitions, emotions, feelings, psychological distress and perceptions to abuse is evidence that belief does not act in isolation and is entangled in cognitions, emotion and influence our psyche. I don't want to have to re submit the many links I already posted. You just have to go back and you will find ample evidence. But realistically if you breakdown my evidence I have actually linked 100s of pieces of evidence that abuse does not just happen because of beliefs and that it involves cognitions, emotional and psychological states. Like this simple statement of fact points out [I][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]P[/COLOR][/I][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)][I]arents experiencing parental burnout [B]are more likely to engage in abusive behavior toward their children.[/B][/I][/COLOR] So even simple statements like this refute your claim that cognitions, emotions and the psyche are not involved in abuse. If parents who experience burnout or distress abuse more then this is evidence that emotion, cognition and the psyche are linked. In that sense there are 100's of pieces of evidence besides the more clear cut ones I have linked like this. [I][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]Peel back the layers of human consciousness, and you’ll find an[/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B] intricate dance of thoughts, emotions, and beliefs.[/B][/COLOR][/I] [URL='https://www.thedailypositive.com/understanding-and-managing-lashing-out/']Caught in the Storm: Understanding and Managing Lashing Out - The Daily Positive[/URL] [I][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]The processes of believing [/B][/COLOR][/I][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][I][B]integrate[/B][/I][B] [I]external perceptual information from the environment [/I][/B][I][B]with internal emotional states and prior experience[/B][/I][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)][I][B] [/B]to generate probabilistic neural representations of events, i.e.[/I][/COLOR][I][B][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)], [/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)]beliefs.[/COLOR][/B][/I] [URL unfurl="true"]https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9584167/[/URL] [I][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]Behaviour is affected by factors relating to the person, including: [/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]personal and emotional factors[/B] -[/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)] personality, [/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]beliefs, expectations, emotions, mental health, life experiences[/B] [/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]- family, culture, friends and life events.[/COLOR][/I] [URL='https://www.health.nsw.gov.au/mentalhealth/psychosocial/principles/Pages/behaviour-factors.aspx']Principles for effective support - What factors can affect behaviour?[/URL] I could find hudreds of these all linking beliefs, cognitions, emotions and psychological states and affects. [I][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]Beliefs are related to emotional processes[/COLOR][/I] [COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)][I]people believe behaviors are justified because of the intensity of their emotions[/I][/COLOR] [I][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)][I]Irrational and unreal beliefs are higher when emotional stress is elevated Psychological interventions have been shown to reduce emotional symptoms and decrease negative thoughts and beliefs[/I] changing your mind does indeed mean changing how you feel, especially so for beliefs, which are more emotion-sensitive than knowledge. “emotions can awaken, intrude into, and shape beliefs “Strong feelings tend to elicit a search for supporting beliefs” and, conversely, beliefs tend to elicit a search for information that reinforces associated emotions (“belief-guided attentional focus.”)[/COLOR][/I] But you have no clear way of recognising when its abusive control and when its just healthy control. You have already shown that you conflate normal and health control with abusive control. You even said is there anything such as healthy control as though there is no such thing. I suggest you don't know yourself the difference but rather assume your own ideological beliefs about what control means and you give a biased and one sided view before any measure is taken. So you will always see abuse where others see it as just a normal part of how society works. [COLOR=rgb(0, 0, 0)][/COLOR] Thats like saying lets just concentrate on this one drug for drug prevention and ignore all the other drug choices which also cause problems. Thats why I think your approach is very limited and dangerous. It overlooks a lot. It overlooks the thinking, emotions and psychological states, the conditions that cultivate abuse and everything is about beliefs which themselves have no clear definition and people can easily conflate non abusive situations as abusive and abusive situations as non abusive while missing a whole bunch of stuff that has been proven to be assocated with abuse and violence. [COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)][/COLOR] Not really as they are already overlooking beliefs that justify abuse in society right now because of their ideological beliefs. Or they promote abusive beliefs in the name of equality. I agree that there are some obvious beliefs like the belief in violent and abusive controlling which speaks for itself. But when you start talking about hierarchies and control as being inherently abusive or any control being abusive then you have lost me as there is no evidence for this and its more about your own ideological beliefs. It does have to do with DEI policies because they underpin the same principles of making people equal to prevent disproportionate power relationships. If everyone is equal and of equal position then there are no hierarchies of control and power or situations where some have it over others because they have more empowerment and control. To be more specific the 'E; in DEI, Equity promotes policies such as Affirmative action. This is based on equality of outcome rather than equality of opportunity in order to equalize society. The idea is to priviledge those who are percieved as being disadvangaed by giving them special treatment to catch up on others and be equal. But this is actually a form of descrimination and it priviledges some (minorities) over others thus disadvantaging others. Its doing exactly what the ideologues are protesting about. But its not seen as abusive because its helping the disadvantaged. This same policies has resulted in abuse and violence and yet is deeply believed as a good thing in how we should order society. This is just one example and there are others. Yes they are and I gave yopu the evidence which you were awefully silent about. Like I said I could go back through all the links I supplied and hightlight where they are linked to demandingness, awfulising, downing and frustration intolertance ie [I][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]Across these studies,[/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B] low frustration tolerance was associated with increased physical child abuse potential, greater use of parent-child aggression in discipline encounters, dysfunctional disciplinary style, support for physical discipline use and physical discipline escalation[/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)], and increased heart rate.[/COLOR][/I] [URL unfurl="true"]https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25796290/[/URL] As already evidenced Self-Downing is associated with parental low self esteem and comparing self to others negatively as well as putting others down to make self feel better. Many of the links provided support this ie [I][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]The[/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B] abusive parents [/B][/COLOR][/I][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][I][B]are usually rigid and inflexible in their thinking[/B][/I][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)][I] and are more likely to use [URL='https://www.parentingforbrain.com/coercive-parenting/'][U]coercive disciplinary methods[/U][/URL] and believe that harsh punishment is the only way to discipline. Parents at risk of abuse toward children[/I][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][I][B] tend to have low self-esteem[/B][/I][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)][I].[/I][/COLOR] [I][URL='https://www.parentingforbrain.com/abusive-parents/']Why Do Parents Physically Abuse Their Children[/URL] [COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]Child-abusing women also lack self-esteem [/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]and strength of will.[/COLOR] [URL='https://marripedia.org/effects_of_family_structure_on_child_abuse']Effects of Family Structure on Child Abuse [Marripedia][/URL] [COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]Two robust findings were the [/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]negative correlation between explicit self-esteem and self-downing[/B][/COLOR][/I] [URL unfurl="true"]https://www.researchgate.net/publication/235417899_Implicit_and_explicit_self-esteem_and_irrational_beliefs[/URL] [I][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]Your negative core beliefs reflect the negative, broad, and generalised judgements you have made about yourself[/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)], based on some negative experiences you might have had during your earlier years. negative life experiences contribute to the development of your [/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]low self-esteem provide clues as to what your negative core beliefs are.[/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)] [/COLOR][/I] [URL]https://www.cci.health.wa.gov.au/-/media/CCI/Consumer-Modules/Improving-Self-Esteem/Improving-Self-Esteem---08---Developing-Balanced-Core-Beliefs.pdf[/URL] [I][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]Controlling people have [/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]low self-esteem[/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)] and project their own negative traits onto their partners. [/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]All controlling people have a low sense of self-esteem and self-worth[/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)], and being in control brings a sense of safety. [/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]They feel that they are entitled to inflict pain on others.[/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)] They have a[/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B] strong intolerance of any type of discomfort[/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)], and have [/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]rigid beliefs about how a person should be[/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]. The[/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B] abusive or controlling personality type believes[/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)] the other person is the problem and [/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]must be controlled [/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]and made subject to their will. [/COLOR][/I] [URL="https://www.jimoshea.net/controlling-people-have-low-self-esteem-and-project-their-own-negative-traits-onto-their-partners/"]controlling people have low self-esteem and project their own negative traits onto their partners - Jim O'Shea, Researcher, Author, Volunteer Counsellor & EMDR Therapist[/URL] [I][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]Quite often, [/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]controlling people seek praise[/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)] from others as a means of reassurance and [/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][B]boosting their own self-esteem[/B][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)]. [/COLOR][/I] [URL="https://www.forbes.com/health/mind/what-are-control-issues/"]What Are Control Issues? Causes, Signs And Treatments[/URL] [COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)][I]The findings suggest that there are [/I][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][I][B]key mechanisms through which vulnerable parents can be helped to break the cycle of abuse.[/B][/I][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)][I] [/I][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][I][B]Specifically the importance of[/B][/I][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)][I] promoting social support, regulating parents’ behaviour through trauma-informed approaches and [/I][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][I][B]enhancing[/B][/I][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)][I] [/I][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][I][B]their[/B][/I][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)][I] knowledge, [/I][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(44, 130, 201)][I][B]self-esteem[/B][/I][/COLOR][COLOR=rgb(84, 172, 210)][I] and confidence in parenting.[/I][/COLOR] [URL="https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s42448-021-00103-8"]Using the Behaviour Change Wheel (BCW) to Characterise Parenting Interventions to Prevent Intergenerational Child Abuse - International Journal on Child Maltreatment: Research, Policy and Practice[/URL] [COLOR=rgb(0, 0, 0)][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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