So I will try to keep this brief but will answer any questions that need clarifying
Ive been saved since 2020 or so. i only recently started going to church (God brought me to a nearby church because i have recently been going through things)
I have not dated at all since ive been saved, but in starting going to church, i met a very sweet girl. she works at the church and we've had some brief and pleasant convos about the lord and she was very welcoming and sweet
so every time i go, she always seems to find me (i usually go alone), she remembers my name. on resurrection day, she found me again sitting alone, asked me what book I was reading (it was romans) and was cracking a couple silly jokes
question a) does this read as interest on her part? my father and my friends say its a good possibility but i have no clue if shes just being a sister in christ, or if shes interested. ive never been involved with a girl that was saved, i dont know how they show interest or flirt, etc. i might be reading too many signals but my dad said "well....do you see her approaching anyone else alone and asking what theyre reading?". i am bad at reading interest from women and in the past, in my pre-God life, can really never been able to tell if a girl is interested romantically or as just friends until she really makes it explicit
question b) I want to get to know this girl better. we've only had a few brief exchanges over the passed couple weeks (she works at the church so she only has a brief chat before going back to work). i dont know her personality, sense of humor, her interest or anything, and would be interested in knowing more about her. but again, ive never really associated with a girl that was saved or had any relationship with Christ. i dont know how to approach her in a manner that is appropriate. i am new at the church, i dont want her to think im approaching her for (only) sex or anything (because she doesnt know me either). i want to approach her with intent of getting to know about her for the potential of dating, but i also want to be respectful of her, her relationship to God and my own relationship to God as well. she works at the church, she obviously has a close relationship with the Lord and is devoted, i am interested in her, but i dont want to give the impression that its for sex and/or to drag her away her from God
advice? as i said, i have not really dated since being saved. this is a new kind of girl, i know im overthinking probably, but i dont know how to navigate with a godly woman i guess. do they expect more conservative/aggressive men? being traditional and formal? its all new to me. i of course have leaned on God to guide me and to trust he will give me the correct mindset to put me in the right place (regardless of the girl or whatever). but does anyone have any advice or guidance?
Ive been saved since 2020 or so. i only recently started going to church (God brought me to a nearby church because i have recently been going through things)
I have not dated at all since ive been saved, but in starting going to church, i met a very sweet girl. she works at the church and we've had some brief and pleasant convos about the lord and she was very welcoming and sweet
so every time i go, she always seems to find me (i usually go alone), she remembers my name. on resurrection day, she found me again sitting alone, asked me what book I was reading (it was romans) and was cracking a couple silly jokes
question a) does this read as interest on her part? my father and my friends say its a good possibility but i have no clue if shes just being a sister in christ, or if shes interested. ive never been involved with a girl that was saved, i dont know how they show interest or flirt, etc. i might be reading too many signals but my dad said "well....do you see her approaching anyone else alone and asking what theyre reading?". i am bad at reading interest from women and in the past, in my pre-God life, can really never been able to tell if a girl is interested romantically or as just friends until she really makes it explicit
question b) I want to get to know this girl better. we've only had a few brief exchanges over the passed couple weeks (she works at the church so she only has a brief chat before going back to work). i dont know her personality, sense of humor, her interest or anything, and would be interested in knowing more about her. but again, ive never really associated with a girl that was saved or had any relationship with Christ. i dont know how to approach her in a manner that is appropriate. i am new at the church, i dont want her to think im approaching her for (only) sex or anything (because she doesnt know me either). i want to approach her with intent of getting to know about her for the potential of dating, but i also want to be respectful of her, her relationship to God and my own relationship to God as well. she works at the church, she obviously has a close relationship with the Lord and is devoted, i am interested in her, but i dont want to give the impression that its for sex and/or to drag her away her from God
advice? as i said, i have not really dated since being saved. this is a new kind of girl, i know im overthinking probably, but i dont know how to navigate with a godly woman i guess. do they expect more conservative/aggressive men? being traditional and formal? its all new to me. i of course have leaned on God to guide me and to trust he will give me the correct mindset to put me in the right place (regardless of the girl or whatever). but does anyone have any advice or guidance?