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Recent content by Trayalc

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    Parents calling me to severely reduce my church giving

    I'm still saving most of what I make. I pay rent, pay for my 7% "tithe", and then I have well over 50% of my income to put into savings.
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    Parents calling me to severely reduce my church giving

    I think you are right. He wants me to be successful, and he is not a believer (as he claims to be) and does not see the value of giving back to God (except very minimally). He loves me and genuinely thinks this sort of giving is going to harm me financially.
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    Parents calling me to severely reduce my church giving

    No; neither of them go to church.
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    Parents calling me to severely reduce my church giving

    I am a single (not married) adult man with no debt. I live with my parents and have been saving money until I can afford a house. I have a full time job. I have been paying my parents an agreed-upon monthly rent. I have been giving ~7% of my salary to my local church. Not too long ago, my father...
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    How can we wisely deal with our hopes and feelings during a breakup?

    May I ask why you said "there could be a risk in 'taking a break'"?
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    How can we wisely deal with our hopes and feelings during a breakup?

    My girlfriend of almost 14 months recently decided to end things between us. I had told her for the first time that I loved her the week before. She confessed to me that she is feeling confused and, while she hates it, she is unable to say "I love you" back to me for reasons unbeknownst to her...
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    (NSFW) When/how to confess to past sexual sin while dating?

    I've been dating a young Christian woman for a couple of months now. When/how should the topic of past sexual sin come up? Is it still too early? Have I waited too long already? The sexual sin in my past consists of (1) pornography and (2) some sexual activity in one past relationship (though...
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    Thoughts on a 26 year old dating a 18 year old?

    Hey y'all, been a while since I've posted. It's good to be back. Let's cut to the chase: I'm 26 years old, and recently I've had more opportunities to talk to an 18 year old young woman at my church. There seems to be a spark there. Normally I would avoid such an age group, but I have found her...
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    Should I not date anyone if I've had a recent porn problem?

    My apologies -- what I mean by "fighting for her" is that I would hope having a godly woman in my life would motivate me all the more to conquer this besetting sin. And I understand what you mean. I will be careful not to get involved with a woman of questionable morals in the church culture...
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    Should I not date anyone if I've had a recent porn problem?

    Thank you all for your encouraging replies. I have thought about having a godly woman to fight for would give me a strong resolve to overcome the temptations and lusts of porn. However, I also hear the warning that compulsive porn use will not be solved by marriage alone. That is why I am being...
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    Should I not date anyone if I've had a recent porn problem?

    I've had a long history with porn. I was first exposed around 12 or 13 y/o, and it has remained to varying degrees throughout the years (I am 24 now). Admittedly, I have only recently began to seek help and address it. I have been using Covenant Eyes since November 2021, and I have my best...
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    Asking for prayer - corrupted thoughts and feelings

    Hey everyone, I am in need of some prayer right now, if you would. Lately, I've been struggling with envy, hatred, and covetousness. I've been looking down on others, especially other Christians. I think it certainly has to do with my own insecurities. I don't know why, but I seem to be...
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    Unequally Yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14)

    Would this not be the case for anyone getting married? Surely one would not agree to marry the other if they are not pleased to dwell with them.
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    Unequally Yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14)

    In an article I just read which defends interfaith marriages (Why "Marrying Unbelievers" Can Work | HuffPost), the author takes 2 Corinthians 6:14, points out the wording of "unequally yoked with unbelievers", and asks "Can someone be equally yoked with an unbeliever?" This was an interesting...
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    Update: Breakup - Wrestling with Depression

    Hey everyone. I feel embarrassed to still be posting about this relationship and breakup that I had, but I honestly am still struggling with it all. This is going to be a long, long post, just to warn you. It has still a very rough road for the past month, and that, I think, is largely because...
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