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    Is it ok to be a hermit?

    I have to laugh because the strategy most churches take for visitors is the exact opposite of what introverts want. Big churches often have welcoming people who keep an eye out for visitors and then want to greet you, take you to an information booth, get your name and address, and try to make...
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    Is it ok to be a hermit?

    Here in the United States, so many Christians and churches have gotten caught up in Trump and Christian nationalism. Whether or not you support Trump has become a litmus test for many. It is so ridiculous. I want nothing to do with it. What scares me as an introvert is that the local churches...
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    Is it ok to be a hermit?

    I read different percentages when it comes to what percentage of the population are introverts. I would suspect that maybe 25% are introverts, 25% extroverts, and the other 50% are a mix. As you know, there are degrees of introversion and extroversion. I would say I am somewhere in the middle of...
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    "It is not good for man to be alone..."

    Reasonable concerns. Perhaps a policy they can't date within the church. They would have to seek a spouse from outside the church (that church). What if they are not sure they want to marry or don't feel ready? Are they to be shunned from ministry until they marry? What if they decide to stay...
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    "It is not good for man to be alone..."

    I know some people sleep better with someone else nearby. It makes them feel secure. I can see that. I know a woman who has been married for over 50 years now. She has a hard time sleeping when her husband is away. She is so used to him being there. She says the house feels empty without him...
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    "It is not good for man to be alone..."

    I think the hardest part for me now is that I have zero social skills with which to find a wife even if she was a fellow loner and a good match for me. I live in a smallish town and there is not much to do other than hang out at bars. There are some single women around but not a lot. Not being...
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    "It is not good for man to be alone..."

    It's all good! I can picture that!
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    "It is not good for man to be alone..."

    I was referring to when I was married and sharing with a woman. I have not shared a bed with another guy in forever.
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    "It is not good for man to be alone..."

    Sharing a bed is hard but if the bed is big enough and they keep to their side and let me have a fan on next to me then I am ok.
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    "It is not good for man to be alone..."

    Well, if I could have good internet service, I could do it for sure! Ha ha. I would prefer to have access to good health care too. I have always liked to live on the outskirts of cities. Not super big cities but where in one direction I can drive into town and have doctors, stores, etc, but in...
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    "It is not good for man to be alone..."

    I have not heard of him. That would be challenging, but under the right circumstances, I could do it. I do get online interaction which fills a need. The nice thing about interacting online is that you can pick your times and length of interaction.
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    "It is not good for man to be alone..."

    I have created a relaxing home life. I have a very peaceful home, a cat, my books, computers, bike, etc. I do a lot of cycling, I read a lot, do photography, travel, etc. I have no problems with everyday life. I eat just fine, shop, run errands, etc. No different than anyone else. I am an...
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    "It is not good for man to be alone..."

    I am on very low levels of meds for anxiety, and maybe on my way to stopping. I don't really get anxious. It's more like stress, but sometimes I don't know what triggers it. I may be able to be in a relationship with another introvert. Maybe. We might be more like roommates though. Hard to...
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    Attachment Disorder

    I don't know what my personality style really is since I was born into a dysfunctional home with an alcoholic mother. I was raised in that environment so it shaped me from birth. Would I have been like this had my mom not been an alcoholic? I don't know. I may have been a little less extreme in...
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    Is it ok to be a hermit?

    I understand your perspective, but many introverts find non-traditional ways to minister. For example, I have written hundreds of articles posted on different websites about Christianity and theology. I am writing a book. I have many online friends I witness to, counsel, and encourage. I have...
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