Rant: I cant believe I did this (what should I do now?)

[Music4Hym777]

I seriously cannot believe that I did what I did yesterday!!!!

I was mad about the evolution stuff as well as the fact that the pastor of my church at school decided to talk bad about my home church pastor (who I love dearly by the way and is my future father in law). So my friend and I were talking about it, and I decided to ask a member of the RCC (also known as my bosses boyfriend) who just said "I dont question, I just believe what they tell me to believe" me in a bad mood and on the verge of tears already shot back with a "No wonder your Catholic"

Here is my delimma, I tried to rationalize the fact that I said that with an "I'm Lutheran, and therefore prone to question everything and doubt things since we we are the original break away. So should I leave it at that or apologize and have to bring it all up again?

[LuxPerpetua]

I think it's always best to apologize. We all say things we shouldn't (I think I should just dip my foot in hot fudge because it is constantly ending up in my mouth! :P ) and I think it demonstrates great love and maturity to humble your own pride and admit to someone that you spoke without thinking and that you are sorry if there are any hurt feelings. From my own experience, I've found that when I try to "rationalize" something that what I'm really trying to do is come up with excuses to ignore my own guilty feelings and feed my own feeling of pride and self-aggrandizement. Not that this is your case, but just what I've noticed in myself. Maybe once you calm down a little you and your friend can have a friendly chat about these things, and perhaps you both will learn from the other in the process as well as mend any tension between the two of you. :hug:

[Music4Hym777]

We all say things we shouldn't (I think I should just dip my foot in hot fudge because it is constantly ending up in my mouth! :P )

Ewwww. Hot fudge, no thank you (I know, I know, I am weird, but if you hand over the caramel sauce I am all for that!)

I think it's always best to apologize...and I think it demonstrates great love and maturity to humble your own pride and admit to someone that you spoke without thinking and that you are sorry if there are any hurt feelings.
This is very true and most the time when I do it to people I am EXTREMELY close to it comes very naturally to me. I had to do it last Thursday with my fiancee after he took a tone of voice with me (on Tuesday) that I deserved but made me mad and defensive.

[SPALATIN]

I seriously cannot believe that I did what I did yesterday!!!!

I was mad about the evolution stuff as well as the fact that the pastor of my church at school decided to talk bad about my home church pastor (who I love dearly by the way and is my future father in law). So my friend and I were talking about it, and I decided to ask a member of the RCC (also known as my bosses boyfriend) who just said "I dont question, I just believe what they tell me to believe" me in a bad mood and on the verge of tears already shot back with a "No wonder your Catholic"

Here is my delimma, I tried to rationalize the fact that I said that with an "I'm Lutheran, and therefore prone to question everything and doubt things since we we are the original break away. So should I leave it at that or apologize and have to bring it all up again?You know it's hard hearing something about someone we know and love that is negative and it is hard for us not to defend them as they are not there to defend themselves. What I would do is this. Go to them and tell the Pastor from the school church that you didn't appreciate his comments yesterday and that if he has something negative to say about your future Father-in-law that he should take it to him rather than speak about it in the open. Tell him that you disagree with him about it and feel hurt that he said it since it was about someone you care about.

To the Catholic you should go to him and say this.

"I am sorry for what I said yesterday, that was completely out of line. I was already upset about something and your reply to my question just made it worse. Please accept my apology."

I think it is necessary to stand up for your Father-in-law since he was not there with you when the School church pastor made his remarks. He seems to have a problem with your Father-in-law and should take that to him instead of making blanket statements that are only opinion at this point.

Truthfully you have only one person to apologize to and that is the RCC person.

[Music4Hym777]

You know it's hard hearing something about someone we know and love that is negative and it is hard for us not to defend them as they are not there to defend themselves. What I would do is this. Go to them and tell the Pastor from the school church that you didn't appreciate his comments yesterday and that if he has something negative to say about your future Father-in-law that he should take it to him rather than speak about it in the open. Tell him that you disagree with him about it and feel hurt that he said it since it was about someone you care about.

To the Catholic you should go to him and say this.

"I am sorry for what I said yesterday, that was completely out of line. I was already upset about something and your reply to my question just made it worse. Please accept my apology."

I think it is necessary to stand up for your Father-in-law since he was not there with you when the School church pastor made his remarks. He seems to have a problem with your Father-in-law and should take that to him instead of making blanket statements that are only opinion at this point.

Truthfully you have only one person to apologize to and that is the RCC person.
Oh, I kindof already told off the pastor that decided to say something about my FFIL. Basically, this pastor is very into keeping his views to himself (ironic I know since he is a pastor) and thinks that all pastors do the same, but in reality they dont, I have spent time with my FFIL and Fiancee and we do talk openly about our differences in beliefs and I know their stands on everything that is important to me.

To the RCC, I will end up apologizing, I will probably be seeing him in a few hours, but who knows.

[SPALATIN]

Oh, I kindof already told off the pastor that decided to say something about my FFIL. Basically, this pastor is very into keeping his views to himself (ironic I know since he is a pastor) and thinks that all pastors do the same, but in reality they dont, I have spent time with my FFIL and Fiancee and we do talk openly about our differences in beliefs and I know their stands on everything that is important to me.

To the RCC, I will end up apologizing, I will probably be seeing him in a few hours, but who knows.
Well if that is the way he is he has just broken the 8th commandment on Bearing false witness against his neighbor. He should be called on the carpet for it and if he doesn't repent should be stripped of his collar.

May I ask what exactly the pastor said about your FFIL. Please reply in PM to me if you like or not at all if you don't want to. We don't need to spread it all over the place.

[Music4Hym777]

Hey Ya'll,

I did talk to the RCC person and apoligized, I knew I would see him today and I did apologize and said that I was out of line,

Just glad that is over and that he has said not to worry about it. (I'm taking that to mean forgiveness)

Yeah!!!!

[LuxPerpetua]

Way to go! That was definitely the right thing to do. :)