Unsure of how to deal with my Mother in-law

[cherim]

I have been a Christian for about 5 years now, and one of the lady who first helped me when I went searching, was my Mother in-law, and at that point best friend. Since then many things have changed and she started hurting my feelings on a regular basis. So I tryed to love her regardless of her actions, and found myself getting sick, at one point I would get the shakes and feel sick to my tummy. Now for about a year, I see her when have to. A short time ago she was telling me how she told another friend of hers that I was a great friend to her. I realized that she did not know how I felt. I was just going to leave it because it wasn't hurting anyone. But just this week, she came over when noone was home and entered our apt. took our Dog out of the run and bred it to some other dog. I want her to understand that I don't want anyone entering our home when we are not here, and that she can't overstep my bounderies like she was aloud to in the past. But I don't know how to word it, and then I wonder if I am wrong in feeling the way I do. I live under her Mom and Dad who babysit for her, and feel like I am constantly being involved in stuff I don't want to get involved in. WHATCAN I DO?

[Lilly of the Valley]

The best thing you can do is tell her. If you never tell her, she will just keep on doing these things. Be sure to tell her in a loving gentle way though. Also, continue to be nice and kind to her. Believe me, I know how you feel! Also, ask the Lord for wisdom in what to say and how to say it as well. Also, be sure to stay tight with God too.

[thereselittleflower]

It is a matter of learning to say no . . she probably thinks you don't care, so has no clue . .

But if you tell her, then she wil know .. then what she does after that will show you what to do next . .

You have to learn how to set limits . . you have to learn how to say no. :) People will generally respect that if they know their limits with you . ..


Peace in Him!

[SpiritPsalmist]

I have been a Christian for about 5 years now, and one of the lady who first helped me when I went searching, was my Mother in-law, and at that point best friend. Since then many things have changed and she started hurting my feelings on a regular basis. So I tryed to love her regardless of her actions, and found myself getting sick, at one point I would get the shakes and feel sick to my tummy. Now for about a year, I see her when have to. A short time ago she was telling me how she told another friend of hers that I was a great friend to her. I realized that she did not know how I felt. I was just going to leave it because it wasn't hurting anyone. But just this week, she came over when noone was home and entered our apt. took our Dog out of the run and bred it to some other dog. I want her to understand that I don't want anyone entering our home when we are not here, and that she can't overstep my bounderies like she was aloud to in the past. But I don't know how to word it, and then I wonder if I am wrong in feeling the way I do. I live under her Mom and Dad who babysit for her, and feel like I am constantly being involved in stuff I don't want to get involved in. WHATCAN I DO?
What about your husband? I"m not sure what you mean when you say you live under her mom and dad who babysit for her. Do you mean you live in the grandparents home? Either way, no one should enter your home without your approval. What does your husband feel about it? I think he should be the one to say something not you.