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Stretchy Glue
27th October 2008, 12:19 PM
First off, if this is the wrong forum, please forgive me and move it to the correct spot.

A little history: I grew up in a United Methodist church that became quite liberal as I grew older and my parents stopped attending. Shortly after having my daughter, my husband and I began attending a Free Methodist church, where we have been for the past 5+ years. My husband had never been to church until my daughter was born. My daughter attended the daycare at our church until she went to kindergarten. Now she attends a Christian school across the county. We are very blessed to be able to send her to this school.

About 18 months ago, our church went through a major shake up, with a pastor firing and many members leaving. A new pastoral family was hired and they are wonderful people. All that being said, the atmosphere is changing significantly. With all the political stuff going on, several members of the church are sending mass emails out to everyone that have a horribly un-Christian-like vibe to them. Another thing that has been bothering me is that the majority of the families in our church home school their children and have subtly or not so subtly insinuated that my husband and I are being lazy by letting someone else raise our child, and someone even said that we could be putting our money to better use by giving it to the church instead of a school. My daughter, who used to be very excited about going to church has started to balk at it. Instead of saying she doesn't want to go, she's been asking to try different churches.

We really, REALLY want my daughter to love church, and if it means that we change, we're willing to do that to keep her excited. We went through the school directory and have chosen 4 different denominations to visit, based on the churches that many families from her school attend. (Having friends from school in her Sunday School class is something she wants).

When doing my research on these churches, their beliefs and foundations all sound pretty much the same. I know that there are differences, and that's what I'm trying to find out. I currently attend a Free Methodist church that is pretty contemporary in worship style, but seems quite traditional in beliefs, sometimes though the members of the congregation are really stubborn and un-forgiving (I realize that this is the individual members, not the church, but most of these members are the elders and "experienced" Christians).

Here is the list of the denominations we're considering:
Baptist
Christian Reformed Church
Assembly of God
Non-Denominational

Each of these were chosen because they openly support my daughter's school and Christian education, all are larger churches with more family and children's programs, and all have a large amount of families from my daughter's school.

How different are these from each other? Is it simple issues like music style or are the differences really significant.

We are attending each church 2 times in a row, then after all have been visited we're going back to each one at least once more before we decide. We've been praying about this decision for a few weeks now, asking God to guide us and support us in this endeavor.

I really appreciate any input you can give me.

Jonihttp://www.gracecentered.com/christian_forums/Themes/classic/images/icons/modify_inline.gif

RND
27th October 2008, 05:58 PM
Have you thought of attending a Seventh-day Adventist church in your area?

www.adventist.org

Prizm
6th November 2008, 08:01 AM
The church you attend should be the one that most accurately reflects biblical doctrine, and is bringing challenging and convicting sermons across the pulpit. The messages need to preach against sin and ungodliness, and challenge believers to living a holy life. If the sermons are consistently shallow and only 'feel-good', then you should look elsewhere.

Generally speaking, Baptist, Assembly of God, and non-denominational churches are quite accurate in doctrine. Assembly of God and non-denominational churches usually uphold pentecostal doctrine, meaning they believe that the gifts of the Holy Spirit (I Corinthians 12:7-11) and the filling of the Holy Spirit with the evidence of tongues (Acts 2:38-39) are for Christians today and not just during the time of the Bible.

Traditionally, Baptists do not uphold pentecostal doctrine, although they are spot-on with all other aspects.

I have not heard much about the Christian Reformed Church, although a quick browse through their beliefs did not give me confidence in them. They seem to condone homosexuality: http://www.crcna.org/pages/positions_homosexuality.cfm

Svt4Him
14th November 2008, 03:16 AM
Find a church that talks about Jesus. Doctrine, gifts, singing are all secondary to a church that preaches Christ. You get to know Christ, you'll want to worship.

How do you know? I think if they read the word and believe it.

woden
27th November 2008, 07:51 PM
It seems the spirit of the congregation was upset when the pastor left and other things happened. When this happens it does take a long time to settle down, trust me, it's happened in my own congregation. Your spiritual outlook has changed because of what has happened and sadly some are showing their true colours. You go to be upbuilt and yet you feel you're being torn down. The trouble is where to go or what to do next. You have a spiritual need, we all do. You are thinking of your family's spiritual needs but caution is needed. Look around by all means even to my own faith if you want. Make a list of things that you want to see in a faith then do your research. Check each one off if they match or fail your expectations. Then you should have a more complete idea of where you really want to be.