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HowardDean
9th April 2008, 01:14 AM
As some of you know, we are without income, almost homeless, etc.
I have gotten a prophetic word saying I must fast and pray to get things moving. And ask friends to also.
May I please request you guys to pray for me while you are fasting; as I know you already are fasting anyway in anticipation of Holy Pasca.
WIll some of you fast with me?
(I cannot do a total one for health reasons, have tried. But will definitely do a partial one.)
God bless:crosseo:
Rose

Thekla
9th April 2008, 01:37 AM
As some of you know, we are without income, almost homeless, etc.
I have gotten a prophetic word saying I must fast and pray to get things moving. And ask friends to also.
May I please request you guys to pray for me while you are fasting; as I know you already are fasting anyway in anticipation of Holy Pasca.
WIll some of you fast with me?
(I cannot do a total one for health reasons, have tried. But will definitely do a partial one.)
God bless:crosseo:
Rose
it is an honor to ...

:hug:

EmperorConstantine
9th April 2008, 01:51 AM
Of course.

:hug::hug::hug:

Philothei
9th April 2008, 02:47 AM
:hug::crosseo:

You know you are my prayers Rose.

Lord have mercy.

Philothei

stephenc
9th April 2008, 02:57 AM
:crossrc:

Lukaris
9th April 2008, 07:17 AM
Lord accept our prayers and fasts for your mercy on your servant. :crosseo:

Nichole
9th April 2008, 08:52 AM
:crosseo:

Chocolatesa
9th April 2008, 10:18 AM
:crosseo:

MsDahl
9th April 2008, 01:21 PM
HowardDean, you continue to be in my prayers.

I sent you a PM a couple weeks ago, not sure if it went through. If you are interested in any work at home opportunities, I can provide some information for you.

Lord Jesus, Son of God, have mercy

HowardDean
9th April 2008, 01:26 PM
:hug: Thank you all. I know God will hear.:groupray: :crosseo:

HowardDean
9th April 2008, 08:58 PM
We cannot pay any bills(gas is late) buy enough food for the month, or even live anywhere (house may be auctioned next week).
I am terrified.:cry:

MsDahl
9th April 2008, 09:28 PM
Do you have any items that you are able to sell on your local craigslist?

HowardDean
9th April 2008, 09:30 PM
No. This computer belongs to my son's homeschool(we get to use it).
Other than a small tv, and an old hard mattress, nothing.

MsDahl
9th April 2008, 09:32 PM
What are your current needs in order to not be homeless (if you don't want to post that, I understand)?

MsDahl
9th April 2008, 09:36 PM
You should put whatever you can on craigslist, you'd be surprised how quickly 30 dollar items add up.

Also, have you checked with your local social services office? They may be able to provide you with emergency help. There is a heat program available for those who qualify where your heat is paid for with public assistance. If you are in a position of need, you should accept the help. You pay taxes into this system and it is there to provide help in situations like these.

HowardDean
9th April 2008, 09:51 PM
I don't pay taxes. Have not been hired for 10 years.
The bills are in my fathers name, and he is not here now, may not come back.
Next week the condo may be auctioned.
I only have one pair of shoes (tennies with holes).
A microwave but we need that.
What we need is employment (we both applied at the downtown library for pages).
And for someone to take us in until we can survive. No one has wanted anything to do with us for decades.

MsDahl
9th April 2008, 09:59 PM
What about working at a diner as a waitress? They are always hiring and it is same day cash money and good money at that. You can still be available to homeschool your son and work in the evenings. You can do that while you work on getting the employment that you prefer.

Regardless if you don't pay taxes or haven't paid in x amount of years, you are a citizen of the US, right? Then you are able to seek public assistance if you need it and you qualify. I only suggest that as it sounds you are in urgent need to make payments on your home so as to avoid becoming homeless.

Can I ask who else is in this situation with you as you used "we"?

I'd like to try to help you think of other alternatives if I can. The current economy of the US is being felt by many households including myself and my inlaws.

HowardDean
9th April 2008, 10:08 PM
Me and my son, age 15. I'm a widow.
We are on assistance. We get free medical and 290 in food card a month (not enough now my son is as tall as me).
Cannot leave my son home while I work, its not a good neighborhood.
I know one who babysits but told me its 20$ for 3 hours.
I can't imagine making enough to even afford a studio for both of us.
Studios here are about 400 (at the cheapest).

MsDahl
9th April 2008, 10:25 PM
Ahh, I see. So, he would need to be at a place of employment while you worked as well in order to be in a "supervised" setting?

Hm....could he work in a clothing store or some type of retail store? Then maybe you can work a lunch shift or early dinner shift as a waitress.

If not that, how dead set are you on homeschooling? Would you consider putting him in the schools temporarily while you got yourself back up from this situation? You could even work as an aide in the cafeteria or classroom while he attended classes while you were present.

Do you have any higher degrees at all?

I am so sorry you are going through this, HowardDean. I hope that through our discourse, you may see something that you weren't able to see before that is available to you.

Have you considered placing an ad for babysitting services on craigslist? By that I mean, you care for someone else's child while they are at work.

HowardDean
9th April 2008, 11:32 PM
I took him out of school 3 years ago because of harrassment. Not going back. We have gottne into the habit of retiring at 3 a.m. so that won't work.
Cannot babysit if I don't know where we will live.

MsDahl
9th April 2008, 11:38 PM
Oh, you are in a very tough situation.

Sometimes I wonder if God allows certain situation to happen in my life to see what I am spiritually made of like He did with Abraham and Isaac. What I mean is, I think He may be "asking" me, how much I am willing to surrender what my needs are to His will for my life.

I am convicted that I am to raise my son at home and not ever use daycare. There have been several times that God has put me in a position where I had to be willing to assent to the idea of having to go to work out of the home and put my son in some sort of daycare situation part time. For me, they were painful times in my life as a mother but looking back, I realize that these situations helped me to keep my spirit open to God's will for my life rather than my will for my life.

I don't know if this could be what you are going through but I thought I'd share my own experiences with you.

Where else have you applied for work?

HowardDean
9th April 2008, 11:41 PM
In the past years, everywhere!

MsDahl
9th April 2008, 11:49 PM
Are you finding that you don't have the drive or energy to go back out there and apply now? I can only imagine how despondent you must be feeling. I want you to know that you are not alone at all, even though it may feel that way from time to time in life. God does not want to see you homeless, HowardDean!!

What you need to do is get a good pep talk and then go out there and apply everywhere once again. You never know what may be available - people who are able to help you in the exact way you need to be helped.

Take a look at the websites I PM'ed you. Your son is old enough where he can study at a library without parental supervision and you could essentially use the library as "free" care for your son while you worked out the home for a few hours a day.

It's important to find some way to get motivated to fight the good fight, my friend!

rusmeister
9th April 2008, 11:52 PM
Hi Rose!
One warning - not sure if I said this or not, but you know the story of CS Lewis? As a child he prayed (as he had been taught) that if you pray earnestly, things will go your way, and he prayed for his dying mother not to die. She did, and he concluded that prayer 'doesn't work' and turned from God and spent the next 20-odd years as an atheist.

Also the book and story of Job.

I'll put you on my permanent prayer list (I don't usually do that with people I know online).

As to practical advice - maybe you could try contacting a local parish? If they knew and put out word, someone might turn up who could help you in some way.

(Please forgive me! I, too, was homeless and desperate for a while, and hope I do not seem at all flippant or insensitive!)

HowardDean
9th April 2008, 11:55 PM
Problem is, theres not enough money right now to go out and apply unless its in walking distance.
And when the house goes, where do we live? Its not like I could save enough until it got foreclosed.
We belonged to a church. left it 3 years ago (the couple driving us went off on us) and they won't return e mails, nor the one I went to from 83-89 and last year.
Went to St. Nicholas last May, they don't return e mails either.

MsDahl
10th April 2008, 12:05 AM
I don't want to make you more upset but there are homeless shelters available in most communities these days. My spouse had to spend a short time in one as a teenager because his single parent mother had lost her job among other things. It was a short lived time and a very scary time for him but I can attest to you that he has overcome that dark time in his life. My point is that you won't have to live on the streets if you lose your home and cannot find someone to open their home to you. If it came down to that, and I pray that it doesn't, you should consider a woman's shelter (they will take in your child as well). Oftentimes, they offer services to help the women get back into the workforce and to rebuild their lives.

THe US is one of the most resourceful countries in the world. There are worker's grants available - your local unemployment office should be able to provide more information. You can even go online and find out more about this.

HowardDean
10th April 2008, 12:44 AM
Yes, have thought about shelters. Problem is the tv is my sons only entertainmnet and we watch til 3 a.m. And since he got older, he eats more, and we eat supper around 9 and another one at 2 a.m. Can't eat there at those hours.

hungrytiger
10th April 2008, 01:40 AM
:crosseo:

HowardDean
10th April 2008, 01:23 PM
:groupray:

Philothei
10th April 2008, 01:32 PM
Yes, have thought about shelters. Problem is the tv is my sons only entertainmnet and we watch til 3 a.m. And since he got older, he eats more, and we eat supper around 9 and another one at 2 a.m. Can't eat there at those hours.
Well, somethings will have to change anyways Rose after you are hired... though right? I mean how does your son goes to school in the morning? Don't you find it odd to have this schedule?


Forgive me HD.

Lord have mercy on me a sinner :crosseo:

HowardDean
10th April 2008, 01:37 PM
He is homeschooled and is sleeping right now (1:38 est).

Philothei
10th April 2008, 01:39 PM
He is homeschooled and is sleeping right now (1:38 est).
Ah... that would make sense... sorry...then... :) That is great wish I had the patience to do the same....

HowardDean
10th April 2008, 01:45 PM
No patience needed. The school (there are two which are free) send the computer and most of the work is done there.
Virtual Academy and Connections, they are.

Philothei
10th April 2008, 01:54 PM
Then, could you apply for a teacher's aid?

MsDahl
10th April 2008, 02:44 PM
Good day HowardDean. God has certainly placed you on my spirit! I was thinking about you this morning as I was easing into my daily routine.

Yes, have thought about shelters. Problem is the tv is my sons only entertainmnet and we watch til 3 a.m. And since he got older, he eats more, and we eat supper around 9 and another one at 2 a.m. Can't eat there at those hours.

So, what I was considering was the mere fact that if you do end up being evicted from your current home due to foreclosure, you certainly won't be thinking about his need for entertainment nor will you be able to watch or carry the television around. Have you ever seen Pursuit of Happiness with Will Smith? In it, his character ended up in a shelter with his child as he pursued searching for work. He had to carry his possessions at all times. That meant he had one suitcase for him and one for his child with the bare necessities to appear presentable in the job market.

My point is that you may not have the luxury of worrying about his entertainment if you find yourself homeless and if you are in that situation, again, consider a woman's shelter.

praying for you!:crosseo:

HowardDean
11th April 2008, 11:47 PM
Its not just entertainment. He alwasy eats extra around 2a.m. You can't there, and this is not good for his health.
Will have to call soon, am down to 40$ and none coming in.
If that happens, I will de-convert. My son gave up on God a while ago, now I see its time for me. He has turned His back on us and I can't make him help us or keep His word(extend the boundaries of the widow.etc)

jckstraw72
12th April 2008, 10:43 PM
If that happens, I will de-convert. My son gave up on God a while ago, now I see its time for me. He has turned His back on us and I can't make him help us or keep His word(extend the boundaries of the widow.etc)

look at everything that happened to Paul.

HowardDean
12th April 2008, 10:45 PM
Is not God faithful to keep His word?

jckstraw72
12th April 2008, 10:50 PM
truly He is.

HowardDean
12th April 2008, 10:54 PM
He will not see his seed begging bread?
Whatever you shall ask, believing you will receive it, you will?

Michael the Iconographer
12th April 2008, 10:56 PM
God is not a sugar daddy...

HowardDean
12th April 2008, 10:57 PM
Never said He was.
He supplies all our needs. We don't have our needs supplied.

Michael the Iconographer
12th April 2008, 11:06 PM
Never said He was.
He supplies all our needs. We don't have our needs supplied.
He supplies us with the ability and initiative to make sure all of our needs are fulfilled.

Anhelyna
13th April 2008, 02:25 AM
sometiemes He waits to see if we are trying to help ourselves .

Maybe your son should try and live like other people - getting up in the morning and going to bed at night at the time when other folk do.

That way you could both get jobs .

Yes this is tough love but no boy of 15 should be staying up till 2am every morning because he needs to eat then [ unless there is something seriously wrong with him , medically speaking.

Forgive me for being blunt

HowardDean
13th April 2008, 03:16 AM
Not everyone has to do things the same. Some work different shifts.
Thanks to those who are fasting.:crosseo:

Bushmaster78FS
13th April 2008, 04:48 AM
While the depression and the silence of God reminds me of the immigration and naturalization ordeal, He is there, He will provide.

Orthosdoxa
13th April 2008, 11:15 AM
Greetings, my friend :hug:

I am sorry that you find yourself in a very difficult situation. We very nearly faced this situation ourselves when I was pregnant, as my deteriorating health at that time prevented either of us from working (I needed round the clock care, so my DH couldn't work either). I remember it well and it's a VERY bad feeling.


He will not see his seed begging bread?
Whatever you shall ask, believing you will receive it, you will?


This is true, but it is not always in gift form, either. Sometimes He might simply supply the means for us to do it ourselves. We can't dictate to Him HOW He answers prayer.

Perhaps you might be gifted with a large sum of money or a home... or perhaps some doors will be opened to you to do it yourself and pull yourself up by your bootstraps. God might be asking you to make some sacrifices as well, such as TV or your sleeping schedule.

Since you'd rather be homeless than go to a shelter and have to give up your TV and your schedule, is it possible they've become idols in your life? I really don't know; only you do. Maybe just something to chew on. I know I have a few idols in my own life I'm still trying to knock down.

My husband works hard so that our kids don't have to be put in daycare... but we're still not making it, even though we live in a tiny tiny apartment and have no luxuries. I might have to go back to work too, and since we are both against daycare, it will mean working overnights somewhere. It will be a huge sacrifice for me, in terms of sleep and time with my husband... but sacrificing for the good of family is a part of life.

Since it has been so long since you've worked, are you feeling perhaps out of touch in HOW to get a job? I would be happy to help you with a resume or cover letter; I am actually quite good at both and have helped a number of people with them.

Orthosdoxa
13th April 2008, 11:18 AM
BTW, you said you only have one pair of shoes - do you have clothes appropriate for job hunting? I don't have much money, but I do have a car that I can drive to a thrift store, and perhaps find you something nice for not much money. Do you think this would help you? If so, pm me your sizes.

nikolayalexandroff
13th April 2008, 01:27 PM
Lord have mercy!:crosseo:

HowardDean
13th April 2008, 02:32 PM
No, nothing on earth has value to me. My sons only entertainment is tv, no friends ever, nothing else to do, especially in winter.
We've always been night owls.

Orthosdoxa
13th April 2008, 03:27 PM
What about advertising on Craigslist, asking for a place to stay? Be VERY!!! careful, because you don't know who's going to answer - but there might be an arrangement that would work for you.

It's Sunday. Maybe get a paper and see if someone is looking for a live in maid or nanny.

When my DH and I were first house hunting, we found a little 4BD/2BA house, with a "mother in law" cottage on the property - just a tiny bedroom, a tiny bathroom, a small open area, and a kitchen. Maybe other people have set-ups like that and would let you live there if you cleaned their yards or did other work for them. Be creative. God hasn't left you, but it's very rare that everything we need is just dropped into our laps. Ever heard the old story about the guy standing on his roof as the flood waters rise, waiting for God to save him? A helicopter flies overhead and drops a ladder, and a loudspeaker says, "Climb aboard!" The guy says, "Nope, God will save me!"

He drowns.

When he gets to heaven, he asks God why didn't he save him? God says, "I sent a helicopter, what else did you expect me to do?!"

You said St. Nicholas doesn't return emails - what about calling them?

Are you willing to try any of the suggestions we've given you? I kind of feel like you're saying you won't, because having a job or going to a shelter would disrupt your TV watching schedule. TV isn't going to matter if you're on the street and have nowhere to plug it in. :(:(:(

HowardDean
13th April 2008, 03:30 PM
No, I don't care about tv, its my sons only enjoyment.
At times its hard to have faith, you know.:hug:

Michael the Iconographer
13th April 2008, 03:39 PM
No, I don't care about tv, its my sons only enjoyment.
At times its hard to have faith, you know.:hug:
I dont get it? It is hard to have faith in God? As if God is supposed to just hand us everything we need in life just because we believe in him? It doesn't quite work that way!!!

Thekla
13th April 2008, 04:30 PM
No, I don't care about tv, its my sons only enjoyment.
At times its hard to have faith, you know.:hug:
its hard to "step out", and its hard to have faith to "step out" and do whatever - and in your situation, I would feel so discouraged...

Our family has been in a rough situation of our own. It could be a very long story, but in short:
illness/job difficulty/family of 6 with only enough income for rent (not for food, utilities, etc)
and also, landlord selling, not enough income to rent or buy ...

so whatever you do, pray, trust, take "steps" saying, Lord - this may not be the solution I want or you intend, but I'm doing the best I can, forgive me, be with me as you promised.

HowardDean
13th April 2008, 04:31 PM
:hug:

Anhelyna
13th April 2008, 06:11 PM
Howard Dean

we are all keeping you in our prayers , prayers can work miracles but we don't always recgnise them.

I still feel that you have to do something about your night hours - in the future your son is going to have to try and find work. I can't see an employer accepting the fact that he sleeps from after 2 am till what most folk will consider lunch time the next day.

If the worst happens you are going to have to go to a shelter and you won't be able to keep those hours then .

Please try and turn things round - it would be a HUGE step forward.

Your son doesn't have friends - why not ? He needs to be with people of his own age at times. You say TV is his only enjoyment - that's not good as he needs to broaden his experience of life.

Notice - it's not just me saying these tough things - others have too. We are trying to make constructive suggestions to help you out of this dreafdul time

HowardDean
13th April 2008, 06:15 PM
When he was in school, no one ever invited him over. No one in the neighborhood has either.
Had to pull him from schools for harrassment.

Anhelyna
13th April 2008, 06:25 PM
Im getting depressed here

All we get are excuses and negative comments.
no one invited him [ did you invite any over ?]

TV is his only enjoyment [ why ? It's easy to just park yourself in front of it and do nothing]

Had to pull him from schools for harassment - [why were kids picking on him ? what did you do about that ?]

The 2 of you can't go on in this way .

Orthosdoxa has made some very good suggestions - are you trying to follow some of them ?

At times we all have to fight problems - life can seem hard.

I still don't dare think of the future - after all my husband may well not survive . We just don't know - he could be taken tomorrow , next week , next month . Believe you me though - he's fighting this damn disease , he WANTS to live .

HowardDean
13th April 2008, 06:33 PM
He was harrassed in school. All I know is they considered him 'different.' Not being in school with him, don't know what they meant.
Went to principal and Board of Education.
Principal said he needed to take it and not react, Not acceptable.
Board of Education leader said Kids are that way, nothing they can do.
Sorry it seems like negative comments, i will unsubscribe now.

Orthosdoxa
13th April 2008, 07:06 PM
Job Corps in HD's area has dorms where people can live while they receive free job training. HD is going to call them tomorrow, and she also has the numbers of a few other relief/social services agencies that should be able to get her on track with some job training. Hopefully this will get her on the right track.

Once things have settled down and you are living somewhere, what would you think about enrolling your son in something like judo or karate? Some places have scholarships for people who can't afford the fees. This would give him a way to be around kids his own age, and give him some self-confidence - if the only thing he knows how to do is watch TV, he probably has none. Developing a skill like that could really help him.

Philothei
13th April 2008, 10:57 PM
Job Corps in HD's area has dorms where people can live while they receive free job training. HD is going to call them tomorrow, and she also has the numbers of a few other relief/social services agencies that should be able to get her on track with some job training. Hopefully this will get her on the right track.

Once things have settled down and you are living somewhere, what would you think about enrolling your son in something like judo or karate? Some places have scholarships for people who can't afford the fees. This would give him a way to be around kids his own age, and give him some self-confidence - if the only thing he knows how to do is watch TV, he probably has none. Developing a skill like that could really help him.
Orthodoxa I think that would be great :) it is really wonderful news. God works indeed through people ...And HD please consider Orthodoxa's offer. God will not come down to help... people will... By asking is when we recieve... putting down our pride and insecurities and ask. I am glad Orthosdoxa knows all these agencies.. :)

Lord have mercy
Philothei

HowardDean
13th April 2008, 11:01 PM
God will not help on His own? I have been taught differently. If we do all we can, then God doesn't need to be in the picture and what happens is thanks to us, not Him.

Thekla
13th April 2008, 11:09 PM
God will not help on His own? I have been taught differently. If we do all we can, then God doesn't need to be in the picture and what happens is thanks to us, not Him.
He sometimes uses the "hands" of others ... (community)

HowardDean
13th April 2008, 11:11 PM
Yes! Have lots of calls to make tomorrow. There is hope.:thumbsup:

Orthosdoxa
13th April 2008, 11:11 PM
God will not help on His own? I have been taught differently.
I don't know what you mean.

Never mind - I think Thekla's answer cleared it up. :)

Thekla
13th April 2008, 11:14 PM
Yes! Have lots of calls to make tomorrow. There is hope.:thumbsup:
:hug: more prayers :hug:

(ya got me in tears ...)

HowardDean
13th April 2008, 11:29 PM
Sometimes we need verbal support from brothers and sisters. Thank you guys.:crosseo:

MsDahl
14th April 2008, 12:55 AM
Sending you warm and fuzzy thoughts, HowardDean. I'm so happy to hear that you are taking some proactive steps in your situation. I just want to encourage you to channel your protective mother energy as I always believe human mothers are very much like mother lions. I can sense the deep love you have for your son and I want to suggest that you focus on this love and sense of protection when you make those calls tomorrow!

HowardDean
14th April 2008, 01:01 AM
thank you warm hearted (and cat headed) friend.:hug:

Anhelyna
14th April 2008, 02:19 AM
This sounds a great idea [ well both of them :) ]

Go for them HD - everything to gain from them.

Prayers it all works out

MsDahl
14th April 2008, 03:02 PM
Thinking about you and hoping something hopeful came out of the phone calls today!

HowardDean
15th April 2008, 01:09 PM
Called Jobcorps. They take people ages 18-24. I am 49.

Orthosdoxa
15th April 2008, 01:30 PM
Well, pardon my language, CRAP! I wasn't aware of the age limit. So sorry.

Who else have you called, and what happened?

One more idea - apply for college - they should have some community colleges around there with dorms, and there's no age limit there. My little 4 year liberal arts college in Nebraska had people of all ages living in some of the dorms. If your son got his GED, they might take him too. You never know. The money for your job training and living would be borrowed, and able to be paid back once you graduate.

http://www.tri-c.edu/Pages/default.aspx Even if there aren't dorms, you might get enough in financial aid to pay for a cheap apartment - that's how it worked for my DH when he went to school several years ago.

My last idea is - are your parents alive? Brothers? Sisters? Old friends from high school? Anyone in your late husband's family? That you could call and just bluntly ask to stay there while you're job hunting? I'd rather eat glass than go back to live with my parents - but if the only other choice was that my children would be homeless, I'd go live with them.

:hug:

MsDahl
15th April 2008, 02:32 PM
What about your local unemployment office? I've been collecting benefits since Januray (I just nabbed a temp position with a definite end date and will be going back to collecting benefits after it ends) and the services and grants offered through your local Unemployment Office are very valuable! If you PM me your city and state, I wouldn't mind finding out what the number is for you.

HowardDean
15th April 2008, 05:25 PM
Unemployment! How does one qualify? Last job was years ago and it wasn't more than a few months long.
I will check.
Also am contacting the local Lds church.

Orthosdoxa
15th April 2008, 07:15 PM
Unemployment! How does one qualify? Last job was years ago and it wasn't more than a few months long.
I will check.
Also am contacting the local Lds church.
Sorry to burst your bubble, but people who don't work don't qualify for unemployment. Definitely feel free to call your local unemployment office to check, but I'm positive you don't qualify- it's generally for people who work but have been laid off, and they have to prove they're job hunting in the meantime, to continue qualifying. DH was on it briefly a few years ago, and the paperwork every week to prove he was looking for a job was a total pain.

Are you interested in working at all? Surely there are some waitressing jobs in your area - with tips that can be good money, and most aren't going to care if you're not dressed to the 9's in your interview, or if you don't have a ton of experience. A college buddy of mine used to make around $400 every weekend working the night shift at Perkins Fri/Sat/ and sometimes Sun.

MsDahl
15th April 2008, 07:18 PM
Orthosdoxa is right, you must have worked within a certain time frame prior to collecting. I suggested them to inquire about any services that may be available to you (like interviewing skills, job leads, career courses and possible grant programs). There are many grants out there in the US. I used some to go to college and I'm currently enrolled in a program to buy my first home.

I definitely would not classify it as a pain. Without the assistance I receive from them, I would have to have gone back to the classroom as a substitute in order to supplement my spouse's income. Yes, I had to report my information (online) weekly by answering a few questions. I've been in to the office once and received a TREMENDOUS amount of help. It is by far such a blessing that this has been set up in our country. I'm grateful for programs like these.

I'm going to say that waitressing is a great choice for the current situation to keep you afloat (as I said earlier you can do this during the evening, allow your son to study at the library and be in a safe environment while you work). It can be until you find a more suitable job situation.

Btw, did you check ou jobs like Live Ops on that site I suggested?

Orthosdoxa
15th April 2008, 07:45 PM
I'm currently enrolled in a program to buy my first home.

What program is this? Is it only for first time home-buyers?

HowardDean
15th April 2008, 07:50 PM
Long long ago I used to work at a pizza joint (its still around) but the waitressing didn't net anything as it was mostly take out. I enjoy it. I've asked every pizza place within 10 miles.
As for the library, we don't go to our local one (few blocks away) as there was just a gun fight there a few days ago.
No, not an excuse.
We both applied downtown though! They take 14+ so that would double our income.
I've wanted to work at a library since grade school.
Yes, I do want to work, what a question.

MsDahl
15th April 2008, 09:57 PM
What program is this? Is it only for first time home-buyers?


The program I am enrolled in is for first time homebuyers, defined as never owned a home or have not owned a home within the last 3 years. I found out about it at my local bank --- it is called Home Club or something like that. From there I discovered a host of other grant programs some offered through the US Dept of Rural Housing and some through HUD. There is an income limit to these programs. For homeowners who qualify there are other programs out there like home repair loans, help with avoiding foreclosure, etc.



HowardDean, I wanted to suggest these two sites for you.

US Dept of Labor (http://www.dol.gov/dol/audience/aud-unemployed.htm#jobs). I linked you to the unemployed page.

Grants.gov site (http://www07.grants.gov/applicants/find_grant_opportunities.jsp) Here are all the grants offered through the government.

The library is a great place to work. It was where I got my first job as a teenager and I loved it. I wish I could be a librarian but you need a BS in Library Science.

Do you have any diners or IHOPS, Friendly's or Denny's in your area? These are great choices as well. Also, what about a local bookstore?

HowardDean
15th April 2008, 10:03 PM
Am calling all bookstores. I took an aptitude test in high school and it said my most likely choice of job was bookstore.
I worked in a Waldenbooks once, when son was a toddler.
Already applied at a boutique (they sell water pipes).
I keep calling them.

MsDahl
15th April 2008, 10:10 PM
Are they accepting applications? What are you doing for food and money as I remember last week you said you were down to your last $40. HowardDean, I feel for your situation as my financial situation isn't the best either. I spent a good portion of my day having to work out payment plans with some bill collectors. We ended up owing the government money this year and we were completely unprepared for this :(

Keep fasting and praying and remaining in faith. The strongest faith is the one that continues on through the dark night. Just like when you do sit-ups, the first 25 aren't the ones that cut up your abs, it's the last 5 but you have to do the first 25 to get to the hard core, ab ripping last 5 situps. I know, a poor analogy but the only one I could come up with on the spot.

HowardDean
15th April 2008, 10:20 PM
Yes, I called and they said yes. I mailed my application in as I hadn't wanted to spend bus money (I have a little more right now).
I do not care what they sell (bongs), a job is a job.
When my son was 1 and 2, I was working as a dancer, had my parents watch him til my mom had her stroke and couldn't anymore. Had a christian neighbor he liked and she was going to sit him but she refused because she would be condoning my sin by watching him so I could work.
I then quit and got on assistence.

Orthosdoxa
15th April 2008, 10:23 PM
Working in a book store sounds right up your alley, as you love to read!! Up my alley too, but they don't have overnights and that's what I'm looking for.

Your local newspaper should be online and have all the help-wanted ads in there - then you can search by keywords. It's a great way to hunt for jobs; it's how I've been doing it and beats poring through the paper for hours.

Philothei
15th April 2008, 10:46 PM
HEy Rose this whole thing reminds me of myself last year when I HAD to find a job or we would have been in debt.. (not that we are not now...) I was looking for a job anywhere... I finally found a job at Sears... it was good pay as a saleman/assosiate selling mattresses.. I was not bad pay either and they pay your training. See if it close to your home... The only bummer is that they will not give you insurance until 6 months later...

I am so happy for you that you are getting the ball rolling... Do not forget God is helping you along... I searched for 4 months before I could get a job....

Orthodoxa you are God-sent.. and a great motivator :)