The man at work

[Maffers]

:wave: Im a confused baptist I have not been to church or really studied the bible much in the last 7 years or so. I have talked to a old good friend of mine and he rekindled my interest in my faith again and im trying not to lose it it. Any who I worth with a guy who talks a lot of trash behind everyones back including me but when he talks to you to your face he is as nice as can be. He also uses the lords name in vane a lot.... like every 10 min on average. And I am trying VERY hard to stop mine. so many years of not thinking about it has caused me to slip up pretty bad. The thing is i would confront or talk about all these things to him but im pretty sure he will just want to fight or get really super mad. And i am to the point where i really don't even want to talk to him anymore. But I am lost on how i should handle the situation. Should i just let it go and keep talking to him like nothing has ever changed, not talk to him, or confront him. The think that keeps going around in my mind is i don't want to be "vengeful" and just not talk to him i think Jesus might frown on such a thing. :confused:

[MsScarlett]

I just don't talk to people like that at work. It comes down to - good morning, good night, please, and thank you. That's all the interaction I have, while still letting it be known what offends me and what I don't want to hear.
Glad to hear you're getting back into your faith!

[Maffers]

I probably should have said that its in a shop with about 20 guys that are all 36-75 and they are all very hard nosed and set in their ways and I think all of them do not practice their faith. I am the soul provider for me and my wife she is still in college and will graduate this may with a double major and a minor after 6 1/2 years. i cant wait so i can get a new job =/

[rainbowpromises]

I worked with a man like that. Except I am the bosses wife. I gently dealt with him every day that I came to work. The only time I told him to watch his language was when the kids were around. Otherwise he saw me reading my Bible during breaks, memorizing Bible verses while I worked, singing hymns quietly to myself and even praying while I worked.
Several years later he accepted the Lord and he credited me with not letting him rattle me.

I know it is tough to curb your own language when others use it so often, but just keep in mind that when he looks at you he should see Christ. In this situation, what would Jesus do? I believe Jesus would wait patiently for opportunity to gently share hope.

[daveleau]

My thinking is- what good is my Christianity if I anger the person who offends me and cause him to have think I have a 'holier than thou' attitude.

But, at the same time, you cannot let something go to the point past the point where you are uncomfortable, and feel led to act.

Knowing so little about your situation, work environment and coworkers, my only advice would be to be careful with your words. Ask God for guidance. Listen, and do not let anger get the better of you too early. Jesus was VERY patient with sinners, except those who defiled His Father's house. If the situation dictates, tell him of your recent revival of conviction, and ask him to respect your faith by trying to abstain from using God's name in vain. I would not just lose it, unless it is something led by the Spirit. Anger without being led by the Spirit is destructive and has only bad results.

In Him,
Dave

[RED that's ME]

First off pray for the guy. :) Also pray that you can be a Godly witness to him.

You didn't say if the co-worker was a christian or not. You would react different first depending on that. Maybe you can make friends with him out of work. You never know what his life is like and he could use a Godly friend who could help him either find the Lord or be convicted of his lifestyle.
Too many people are turned off by preaching in your face type as you prolly know. Build a relationship and pray that God will use you to be a good influence on him.

[Maffers]

well i have been praying on it a lot and today went a lot better he was a lot more calm and talked to me a lot more and we accutaly had constructive conversations. I just hope it keeps up.

[TheLoveTheLight]

I think you should inform him that you find his way offensive - he might not mean to offend you but he does. Maybe you should stick some posters up round the place saying "The Lord hears your profanity - repent or face eternity in hell". Hopefully that should set him straight.

If that doesn't work you should key the words "God knows what you're up to" on his car so that he has a daily reminder of his transgression. That should do it.

[Herod]

:wave: Im a confused baptist I have not been to church or really studied the bible much in the last 7 years or so. I have talked to a old good friend of mine and he rekindled my interest in my faith again and im trying not to lose it it. Any who I worth with a guy who talks a lot of trash behind everyones back including me but when he talks to you to your face he is as nice as can be. He also uses the lords name in vane a lot.... like every 10 min on average. And I am trying VERY hard to stop mine. so many years of not thinking about it has caused me to slip up pretty bad. The thing is i would confront or talk about all these things to him but im pretty sure he will just want to fight or get really super mad. And i am to the point where i really don't even want to talk to him anymore. But I am lost on how i should handle the situation. Should i just let it go and keep talking to him like nothing has ever changed, not talk to him, or confront him. The think that keeps going around in my mind is i don't want to be "vengeful" and just not talk to him i think Jesus might frown on such a thing. :confused:
According to official guidlines that i read last week, using the Lord's name in vain is actually only offensive if used every 5 minutes or sooner. Every 10 minutes is classed as "totally minor". I think you should worry less about his mouth

[bumpkin1]

I'm in the military and EVERYBODY uses foul language often. I myself did for a long time, but no more. I have chosen to obey God and not conform to the world....Or at least to try my best. God bless!

[PETE_]

I think RainbowPromises is right on in these things. Our best witness is our life, not just our words. People always notice when one amoungst them is different, whether that be good or bad. When live live Godly lives people will notice and often will at some point want to know why. Thats when you have the opportunity to share Christ with them.