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ThePilgrim
13th November 2007, 03:31 AM
Dear brothers and sisters in Christ,

When I was in Ukraine, I met some people from an Orthodox volunteer organization (Zhiti zavtra - Live tomorrow) of people who visit children in cancer wards, most of whom are dying, to comfort them and their mothers, and who blog about the work and the children's progress, as well as about needs that the children have. I even was blessed to go with one of the volunteers in the city near where I lived to one of the cancer wards.

Today, reading the blogs, I found out that in another city, two of the children passed away within this past week. Evgeny, who was 17, always wanted to police officer, until he died. Please pray for him and for his parents. He was their only child. (For those of you who can read Russian: http://donor.org.ua/index.php?module=arnews&act=show&c=7&id=1827)

Also, Valera, another teenager from the cancer ward in Zaporozhye, passed away a few days before. Please also pray for him and for his parents. http://donor.org.ua/index.php?module=arnews&act=show&c=7&id=1807

And last of all, please pray for me. Reading what the volunteer wrote about the passing of Zhenya and Valera reminded me of all that I've just seen and experience in the orphanage during the past few months. Those experiences don't really fit with our culture.

I've been sort of seeing and realizing how much of our culture is built around "me". From the time that we're little, we hear "You deserve a break," "Have it your way," and in so many other ways, we're taught to follow our own will and desires, that we deserve to have everything we want, or at least everything that the person next to us has. And now, I'm starting to return to that.

What room is there for the Gospel or the Cross in our society where we think primarily about ourselves? How can I reconcile weeping at the death of a child to living in a consumerist society where almost anything we want can be bought or ordered immediately, with very little waiting or patience?

In Ukraine, by God's grace, I began to understand the very beginnings of love, self sacrifice, self-denial, the will of God, humility, etc. Now that I'm home, I'm not sure what to do with that all, and I'm becoming who I've always been.

Pray. Pray for the servants of God Evgeny and Valera, and for their families who are missing their beloved children right now. Pray for the thousands of children who desperately need parents to love them, since without that, they will likely die young by their own hands. And last of all, say a prayer for me, the unworthy servant of God, John.

In Christ,
John

Sacrum Silentium
13th November 2007, 03:39 AM
Lord have mercy, Lord have mercy, Lord have mercy.

Praying for you John, with great respect.

ThePilgrim
13th November 2007, 03:47 AM
The newly departed servant of God, Evgeny †. Please remember him in your prayers at Liturgy. May his memory be eternal.

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Theophorus
13th November 2007, 03:56 AM
:crosseo:

I hate death. I have since I was 5 years old. Everyone has told me it is natural. It's not.

Prayers for You and Evgeny, and Valera.

ThePilgrim
13th November 2007, 11:32 AM
:crosseo:

I hate death. I have since I was 5 years old. Everyone has told me it is natural. It's not.

Prayers for You and Evgeny, and Valera.

Thank you.

How do we find Christ when we're taught only to look for our own will?

Or how can life be normal (and should it even be normal?) when you go to an orphanage, and see bright, cheerful little children of God, hug them, watch them show you drawings that they made, and think, "Statistically, if no one adopts these children, if no one cares for them, that cute little kid will be selling her body in 10 years, that boy will be probably living in the sewers, sniffing glue..."

Like I feel like no one will understand, because we're used to hearing about things like this, but we don't see them, and so I think the reality doesn't enter into our hearts. I've now seen

Asking your prayers,
John

RobNJ
13th November 2007, 11:34 AM
They are in my prayers, as are you.

Lukaris
13th November 2007, 11:41 AM
Lord have mercy. Memory eternal.

Chocolatesa
13th November 2007, 12:11 PM
:crosseo:

Orthosdoxa
13th November 2007, 01:30 PM
Memory eternal.

Dorothea
13th November 2007, 02:13 PM
Prayers for Evgency and Valera and their families. God's comfort and peace please come upon them. :crosseo:

As someone who has stayed several times at a Ronald McDonald House, and had met many parents who's children were there staying for months for their chemotherapy and radiation treatment for cancer, I feel for all children who go through this horrible monster of a disease. It's heart breaking and devastating, and I marvel at the strength of those parents. I will be keeping all those children as well in my prayers as I've done in the past.

Also, prayers for you, Pilgrim.

ma2000
13th November 2007, 04:31 PM
God bless!

ThePilgrim
13th November 2007, 08:50 PM
Does anyone have any ideas on how to adjust back to normal life?

In Christ,
John

Orthosdoxa
13th November 2007, 08:59 PM
define normal. An experience such as that has probably changed you forever - and that's not a bad thing.

ThePilgrim
13th November 2007, 09:05 PM
That's the thing... I'm not sure right now what normal should be, and if I knew, I'm not sure if I'd choose it.

I feel a bit like I just came back from a war, but no one else even knows the war is going on. Or we know, but only from hearing it on the news, but we don't believe it with our hearts.

I also kind of feel without purpose. I get up in the morning and do what I want for as long as I want, and then do something else. I help around the house, but overall, life here is about me and it drives me nuts.

I've tried trying to help the kids form here, with some results, but there's a lot more that needs to be done, but when I talk to people, I can tell they look at this as a neat hobby of mine, but no one really understands.

What do I do?

In Christ,
John

Orthosdoxa
13th November 2007, 09:08 PM
Maybe it means you're supposed to be over there for the long haul, not just as short mission trips.

ThePilgrim
13th November 2007, 11:13 PM
Maybe it means you're supposed to be over there for the long haul, not just as short mission trips.
That's possible. I have some reasons for thinking that isn't the case, but God knows.

I definitely want to continue to be involved with it always. But somehow, I'd really love to see this become a concerted effort, a pan-Orthodox thing.

But also, I just don't see right now how all of this is compatible with the ''have it your way'' part of your culture.

Thoughts?

Grace and peace,
John

Thekla
13th November 2007, 11:18 PM
Memory eternal.

Prayers for you

how blessed you are, these children have given you such a teaching :)

Theophorus
14th November 2007, 12:17 AM
That's the thing... I'm not sure right now what normal should be, and if I knew, I'm not sure if I'd choose it.

I feel a bit like I just came back from a war, but no one else even knows the war is going on. Or we know, but only from hearing it on the news, but we don't believe it with our hearts.

I also kind of feel without purpose. I get up in the morning and do what I want for as long as I want, and then do something else. I help around the house, but overall, life here is about me and it drives me nuts.

I've tried trying to help the kids form here, with some results, but there's a lot more that needs to be done, but when I talk to people, I can tell they look at this as a neat hobby of mine, but no one really understands.

What do I do?

In Christ,
John

You keep it with you, always. In time the feeling will fade in and out, but you will never look at the world the same way again. I drive down the street and see so much suffering, I watch "media" for a few minutes and it seems so unreal to me. The world is full of sorrows.

What do you do? Let it keep you humble at least, and at most, declare war with prayer. The latter is hard to do, so I let the Church take that burden sometimes by trying to attend as much as I can.

Thank God the nativity fast is here. :crosseo:

ThePilgrim
14th November 2007, 01:53 PM
So I went back to the site :cry:It looks like it's been quite a week.

Add to your holy prayers the newly departed servants of God, Anatoly and Andrey.

Thank God, at least, for the way in which Andrey passed. Apparently, after the doctors knew there wasn't much longer, he slipped into a coma, but then later regained consciousness, asked for some of the oil from Holy Annointing, and drank it. Then, while praying a Moleben service, Andrey received the Body and Blood of Christ. Shortly afterwards, he stopped talking, and then passed away peacefully, into the arms of Christ.

Thank God for the work of this organization, and all of the Orthodox volunteers committed to visiting these precious children. Thank God for the priests that they find to come and bring the Holy Mysteries.

Keep praying.

The unworthy servant of God,
John