Need prayer and grave advice Please

[ILiveInU]

I have just recently broken off wedding plans with someone very dear to me. It is hard but I think a very healthy choice. I don't think it would have been a good relationship. Too many secrets involved and lack of real trust. It may be because we still have lots of our pasts to let go of although we've moved ahead of much we've been through. I feel we are a bit closer than before yet I feel it is best we keep a good friendship.

Though, there is something seriously bothering me. I am in a church as a member and part of the worship team as well as youth ministry assistant.
I feel it would be better to not be where he is all the time in order to be able to heal from this change in our lives. Its very hard on me and I keep smiling daily. I really don't want to marry him, at least not until we both have time to heal. We've been through alot.
He is someone very, very dear to me though and I truly do value his friendship.

The reason I mention the church is because he is also part of our worship team and a leader in the youth ministry. His parents are the pastors and his sister and brother are pastor of the youth ministry and leaders of the worship team and more...

Not to mention I work with his brother and sister full time as well outside of church in our company.

It is hard for me to heal this way. I am thinking sincerely of finding a new church. I have been thinking of this for quite some time but I don't want to be a coward.
:help:
I have been told by many other christians that this is a healthy step if I do take it but I want to pray more over this situation and ask you all to help with prayer and advice. I hope that is not too much to ask.

I find family here all the time and is why I became part of the forum. I would like to put my faith in God's word right now and look for fellowship and I truly believe greatly in prayer...
Please put me in your prayers...

with love, IliveinU:prayer: :(

[Utah Knight]

At times letting go is the best thing for the both of you weather it seems so or not at the time. If he values your friendship he will understand. If not then he was not the one for you. Sometimes it takes times and all relationships of this sort is centered around trust. If you do not have enouph trust then how can you both move forward walking with God? If the love was true than this is but a set back and if you were ment to be together then it will happen on Gods time. You cannot pursue a relationship based on lies and an unkown past it will only end in complete heart break for the both of you. If you feel seeing each other as oftain as you do at church will lead to more heartache then you must move to a new church until you feel you can go back. I will keep you in my prayers. I do not clainm to understand your situation but i see this as the best way at least for now.

[E-beth]

There is nothing wrong with finding a new church. Church is where you are fed, and if you are focused the entire time on human stuff, then your mind isn't on the Lord. It is like you are at a banquet but aren't eating anything.

If you sincerely feel that God is leading you to find a new church, then you should do it. Just don't burn any bridges. Let anyone know who asks that you are following the Lord and that you hope He leads you back after you have done some healing.

I have found that even the toughest decisions turn out OK as long as I am doing what God wants.

I will join you in prayer that things work out according to God's will, and that all of you can find peace.

[GrayAngel]

Lord of Life, please give ILiveInU Your peace and healing. Guide her to where you want her to go, and let the demons flee at the sight of You in her.

I say these things in the full confidence that You hear me and care for ILiveInU deeply. In Jesus holy name, amen.

[torchbearer]

IliveinU ... E-Beth's words are so right. When you are at church and not being fed by the Holy Spirit as you are too busy concentrating on the earthly things, your soul is not growing in the Lord. This is when we become vulnerable and satan can slip in to make sure we backslide. Deliver the burdern at the Lord's feet, know that he will Guide your steps. Ask God to guide you, give you a clear sign /message or word as to what you should do. He will show you the way.


Heavenly Father, I lift this person to you in their hour of need and ask for you to show her the way. Reveal to her where you want her to be. May she be patient while she awaits on You for the answers. May she continually seek the Kingdom first, may she treasure the time spent with you. Heal her heart from this breakup. Give her courage to continue her duties in You until such time as you reveal your plans should they be different to the ones she has now. In Your Name, we pray. Amen.

[ILiveInU]

I feel like I do have some space at my church but just knowing he'll be around or someone that he knows is there to see my every action when I'd rather disappear from his life for a while to heal can become stressful. Lately he always treats me very special I guess I also stress because I feel like we've come so very far to fall back to the same starting point. No trust or relationship to build more on and its been years. Prayer has been my ONLY hope. thank you all for the prayers and may the Lord shine on your every word. -IliveinU

[Sharon1973]

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[Ephesians4]

I agree with everyone that it's a good idea to find a new church. Considering the circumstances, it's probably good to make a clean break. The Church is a global entity; it's OK to change meeting places. :)

Father in Heaven, please be with her and guide her. Give her wisdom to make the right decision and peace to know that she's made the right one. Please help her to heal from this relationship and not have regret. Guide her and direct her. Keep her close to You always. Deliver her from evil and provide her with all her needs. In Jesus' name we ask these things, Amen.

[Ephesians4]

IliveinU ... E-Beth's words are so right. When you are at church and not being fed by the Holy Spirit as you are too busy concentrating on the earthly things, your soul is not growing in the Lord. This is when we become vulnerable and satan can slip in to make sure we backslide. Deliver the burdern at the Lord's feet, know that he will Guide your steps. Ask God to guide you, give you a clear sign /message or word as to what you should do. He will show you the way.


Heavenly Father, I lift this person to you in their hour of need and ask for you to show her the way. Reveal to her where you want her to be. May she be patient while she awaits on You for the answers. May she continually seek the Kingdom first, may she treasure the time spent with you. Heal her heart from this breakup. Give her courage to continue her duties in You until such time as you reveal your plans should they be different to the ones she has now. In Your Name, we pray. Amen.
Agreed!!!

[Redheadedstepchild]

Praying for you and all involved. May God give you guidance about this situation and strength as you carry out his will. I pray for comfort and healing for all involved.

[ILiveInU]

Thank you all so very much. Things are still not situated and/or resolved but I am still praying and all your prayers have changed my life so far in more ways than one. God bless you all and I will hope to have time very soon to get back to you on the updates. Please continue to pray for my family and I and for my ex boyfriend. We aren't speaking right now but he is a very special man.

[Criada]

Praying for all of you.
:hug:

[bgoddenia]

Iliveinu just stand still and let God do what he have to do, leave it in his hands! don't run/change church if you just hold on and stand still and let God you will see his hand move in your life, keep your prayer at all time for prayer does great things in our lives and when we come with our whole hearted to the Lord through prayer he starts manefesting himself. So sweetheart keep your prayer that I too will join you at all time. God bless you.

[Shubunkin]

Lord, have mercy. :crosseo:

[RuthD]

I am praying for your relationship allthough I must say you sound like you really know what you are doing and handling things well. God bless!

[Ariella]

Lord please bless your daughter as she makes these changes in her life. Give guidance and wisdom please Lord, and direct her path. Help iliveinu to know what to do about her church situation; and bring healing to both iliveinu and the man she has broken up with. Lord, restore them in your love and grant them both your precious peace. In Jesus mighty name, Amen

Bless you :hug:

[ILiveInU]

I have finally decided decided to find a new church.... please keep me in prayer...

[AxionEsti]

Prayers. :crosseo:

[JesusFreak4L]

Praying that everything will be better!...praying God will give you guidance and that the situation will be used to glorify him more!

-Cameron

[ForHisGlory]

Praying God leads you to the right one!

[Valentine]

I have finally decided decided to find a new church.... please keep me in prayer...

Praying that you will find a church that will bring you the spiritual nourishment and comfort that you need. :hug::hug::hug::hug: :prayer:

[ILiveInU]

Thank you all very much. I haven't been on in quite some time. I actually have just started attending a new church of the same denomination and I have been blessed since then with even more sisters and brothers. I do, however, have to add that the man of my dreams is the man that I have let go. I miss him terribly but have learned that God is my newfound strength.

It was hard for me to see He's always been holding me up. I am thankful and ever so greatful to Him for His power and love and mercy.

It hurt to finally truly let go, but I have recently been able to get in contact with him and we are friends through Christ. He says he loves me very much.

The best news is he has started back to attend his church and has said he feels our seperation is only going to lead to our growth.

Pray for us. We don't live far from one another but I want to wait on God's will and not ours.

Thank you all again for your support. I am going to be here more often in Faith. :D

With love.

[Criada]

Praying for both of you, sis.
And very glad to hear that you have found a good church.

[FaithfulWife]

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[ILiveInU]

thank you so much for the words and prayers. I truly, truly believe they make the difference and God loves every word in faith...

[dmhforJesus]

Praying for your continued healing and growth.

[ILiveInU]

Thank you so much. :D