Please pray for us

[IceQueen64]

I don't know where to start... My stepfather seems to have some kind of anger issues and he mental abuses me and my mom. He acts nice for a while but now he is mean again... he goes to church on sundays just to go home and cuss n sware about everything and every one he gets mad if I even have some kind of converstation with my mom and he can't hear it as if we are talking aobut him behind his back and he needs to know... I don't know what to do my mom is always stressed and even taking med's for depression :(... not to mention has a bad heart n such.He is so controling of her she can't even visit her family with out his permission and he so much as tells her she can't use their vehicle ...

He makes me so mad that I just want to scream at him I don't like the anger me makes me feel because of the way he treats me and my mom. She is thinking of telling him to leave but we must get transportation which I am working on getting now. I know devorice is not something to be choosen lightly but what can you do when the spouce is mentaly abusive and refuses to change or even seek help? I got a job working where he does in fact he is my relief but most of the time he shows up when he wants and doesn't do the things he's suppose to.. not to mention his rudeness with customers and employees.

I am so lost and confused :( . I get so angry that I shake and get confused. please pray for my family. Thank you all for your time.

~IceQueen/Christa

[Criada]

:hug: :hug:

Lord, pleae step into this situation. Lord, speak to this father, heal his anger and unhappiness.
Guide and protect Christa and her mother, give them Your peace, Father.
Restore this family, lord, draw them close to You and to one another.
in the name of Jesus
Amen.

[Ephesians4]

Father in Heaven, please heal this man of his rage. Heal him mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. Heal IceQueen and her mom, too, from their anger and all that they've been through...and maybe a little bitterness, too. Give them a gentle spirit of forgiveness yet lots of wisdom to do the right thing and get out of a bad situation if that is Your will. Soften all of their hearts. Deliver them from evil. Cast out all evil spirits that are in and around them, so that those evil spirits may never return to them or anyone else. Move in their hearts so they will know and lean on You more. Please let the Holy Spirit convict this man of how he's been acting. Give him peace, joy and a gentle spirit. Transform him in a massive way. Make him a humble servant for You. Make him passionate about sharing Jesus with everyone he encounters. Give him a deep compassion for everyone he sees. Radically transform him in a miraculous way, Lord. Forgive him and help him to forgive everyone who may have hurt him over the years. Help IceQueen to share the true Jesus with him. In Jesus' name we ask all these things, Amen.

[Sharon1973]

I am praying for you and your family. I hope you will all find peace.

[IceQueen64]

Thank you Criada, Ephesians and Sharon. :hug:

I pray everyday for the lord to change his heart. I remember along time before my mom met him that he didn't use to be like this. He can be nice when he wants to be but most of the time hes just so... hateful and angry I just don't understand why :(

[foxsta]

:crossrc::liturgy:

[Steve1960]

I am sorry to hear about your situation. My wife and I will be praying for you :pray:

[IceQueen64]

Thank you foxsta and steve. God bless you all!!

[mercysongs]

God bless you tremendously IceQueen...

Lord, please be with Christa and her family at this time and remind them of your Glory at every day they wake. Unite them in harmony and grant them the blessings of communication through the Holy Spirit. Lord Father, only You can do all things and we believe this greatly.
Anger and confusion are not from You Lord and we see this in Your Word! Thank you for being ever faithful and always reminding us that we have a living "manual" for our life!

I thank you for the love you have granted Christa today to seek Your guidance at ever situation. Good or Bad.

I pray your blessings over her family in the name of Jesus, AMEN! :)

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Praying for your step father and your family. :hug: :prayer:

If this hasn't been going on since you've known him, you might suggest to him that he have his hearing checked, and/or talk to his doctor about depression. I know it would be difficult for you to bring this up, but in reading your post I am reminded of person(s) who develop hearing problems over time. They often become angry, and feel that they are being talked about, or left out of conversations, because they cannot hear what is being said. It sounds like people are whispering, because voices become so much softer when you begin to lose your hearing. Also, sometimes as people age, we can begin to experience depression, whether it is from environmental causes, or just aging. It's a common thing, and nothing to be ashamed of, so a doctor would not be surprised to hear about it. For some folks, medicine helps and for others, getting outside more, getting in the sun, fresh air, etc., will help. If it's a hearing issue, then getting tested, and getting a hearing aid will help tremendously. I've seen patients go from being hostile, to joyful, simply because they can suddenly hear again.

Whatever the case may be, I am praying for you and your family, and we all are. If you need to talk, just PM any of us. We're all here for you and we care. :hug:

[IceQueen64]

Thank you mercy and Adiya. I wish that was the case Adiya, but he has been this way since shortly after my mom and him married. I knew him for years before because of my mom's best friend shes like a 2nd mom to me, I stayed with her a lot and he was friends with her they met at a place she worked at.

He refuses to do anything but sit on the sofa and watch tv all hours of the day :(... His ex-sister n law said that his brother acted just like he is acting minus the cheating and so far minus the physical abuse.... My moms best friend seems to think that he is jealous of her kids because he doesn't treat us kindly. He knew she had kids before she married so he can't even think of using that as an excuse...

I'm at my wits end, I don't know what to do or say. Only thing I can think of is to pray. I get scared at times to the point I'm afraid he will stress her out so bad that she'll have a heart attack or something.

Again thank you all for your prayers and god bless everyone! :pray: :amen: :hug:

[mercysongs]

Yw for the prayers. I will keep you and your family in my prayers continuously as well. Hugs and blessings!*

[Tangeloper]

Praying for your family.

[IceQueen64]

Thanks guys! Well looks like I will be MIA till next week tues :( Thanks to my empoyer... they didn't put my info for direct deposite... and i wont have my check till next week due to the fact they mail it and the headquarters are in MO! My net is a bit behind and will be cut off sometime tonight because they refuse to give me any kind of extention. So it will be off till tues.

Again, Thanks to every one praying for me , everyone have a good weekend.

[Sharon1973]

I am keeping your family in my prayers

[Utah Knight]

I don't know where to start... My stepfather seems to have some kind of anger issues and he mental abuses me and my mom. He acts nice for a while but now he is mean again... he goes to church on sundays just to go home and cuss n sware about everything and every one he gets mad if I even have some kind of converstation with my mom and he can't hear it as if we are talking aobut him behind his back and he needs to know... I don't know what to do my mom is always stressed and even taking med's for depression :(... not to mention has a bad heart n such.He is so controling of her she can't even visit her family with out his permission and he so much as tells her she can't use their vehicle ...

He makes me so mad that I just want to scream at him I don't like the anger me makes me feel because of the way he treats me and my mom. She is thinking of telling him to leave but we must get transportation which I am working on getting now. I know devorice is not something to be choosen lightly but what can you do when the spouce is mentaly abusive and refuses to change or even seek help? I got a job working where he does in fact he is my relief but most of the time he shows up when he wants and doesn't do the things he's suppose to.. not to mention his rudeness with customers and employees.

I am so lost and confused :( . I get so angry that I shake and get confused. please pray for my family. Thank you all for your time.

~IceQueen/Christa


No need to ask me again

[GrayAngel]

I can't say I've been where you are, IceQueen, but I do have some advice, if you don't mind me sharing it.

I don't know exactly what's wrong with your father, but it sounds like he's been storing stuff up until he can't control his anger anymore. He needs to let go, or he'll never feel better. It'll be hard to convince him to open up, though, because he's a man, and men often have this strong want to keep an illusion of control. They find it hard to admit that they are weak and in need of help.

My advice to you is to keep his need in mind so you can pass the pain off to God. When you let go, it'll both both make your life much easier and it will allow you to see what God wants you to do.

My church did a neat little skit in the youth service today, and I think it would apply to you very well.

"Where did you get that outfit?" the bully says. "It looks stupid."

"Well, I like the way you dress. Maybe you can give me some pointers?"

"You smell like crap."

"I like the way you smell. What brand of cologne do you wear?"

Basicly, the bully hurles half a dozen insults at the girl, but the girl always turns those insults around to find a way to be kind to the bully. Eventually the bully realizes that he's not going to get to her and gives up.

This might sound weird, but I guarantee you if you make a habit of replacing rude come-backs or silent anger with kindness, you will achieve some sort of positive result.

Also, I became concerned when you said your mom was taking medication for her depression. Maybe I'm wrong and her medication is actually helping, but from my experience and others', I think relying on anything besides God can make your depression worse.

I have a friend from church who used to take the stuff when she was in under unbearable emotional stress. She claims that when she took her medication, it made her depression worse, and she even once considered suicide.

But enough of my advice. You need God's leadership more than anything.

God, please overflow IceQueen with Your peace and love. Give her what she needs so she can act wisely, and make her will more like Your will.

I pray this in the full confidence that you hear me and you care about Your children. In Jesus name, amen.

[IceQueen64]

Thank you everyone! Got my net back tonight.. Update on my things at home ~_~

My stepfather got angry because I went to church with them, got in the van saying if he knew i was comming he would have stayed up even tried to make up some excuse to stay home but my mom told him go head and we would go he didn't seem to like that any better. After church on the way home not even 10mins later some car was comming down the road slowly but not even in his way or anything and he drove like a mad man cussing the driver of that car. His driving scares me. Hopefully soon I'll be able to get a car. I left mine back in St.Louis because i didn't think it would make it back here.

Thank you all for praying for us. God Bless!:hug:

[torchbearer]

Praying that your stepdad deals with the things that make him angry, may he gain an inner sense of peace and calmness. May the Lord bring forward a revelation to him on his behaviour and how it hurts the loved ones around him. I pray that you and your mom remain focused on our Lord and that he provides you with strength and courage. May the Lord guide your paths and give you clear answers as to what he wants you to do. Amen.

[NonStopGospel]

Please pray for Non Stop Gospel Radio, for God send support and donations for us. In the book of (Psalms 25:3) No one whose hope is in you will ever be put to shame... and in Psalms 121:1,2 also says, where does my help come from?
My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.


Thanks in advance for your prayers... God Bless you and yours.

[Catherineanne]

I am so lost and confused :( . I get so angry that I shake and get confused. please pray for my family. Thank you all for your time.

~IceQueen/Christa

May the Lord hold you in the palm of his hand, Christa.:liturgy:

:crossrc:

[Redheadedstepchild]

Christa-

I am praying for you and your family.