I'm not sure where to put this but......for the mature christian.

[chloe8982]

i am somewhat new to chirstianity. have believed for years but didn't really live it till a few months.

I have have made serveral comittmenst to God. One of which concerns getting away from sex and sexual acts.

Well i have a boyfrind left over from my wild past, and i can't get him to understand that i don't want sex of any sort anymore.

He is of the belief that what makes someone your girlfriend is sex.

Anyway as made it clear to me that i need to move last night. When he layed behind me as i was haf asleep and watching TV and he mad me climax before i even knew what he was doing.

But my biggest problems are, i can't work outside the home as i am currently disabled from an accident and can hardly wallk. I am also going through heavy deliverance at the moment. i am looking at moving within the next few weeks. I have a place where i can go and it will be safe but it is with another male, though i know he will respect my decisions i would rather live with a strong christian female that can help teach me move the ways of the Lord, here in New York or real close. The reason i want to stay in New York for the time being is so that i can keep my state benefits. But i will not turn down an offer to help based solely on if you are in the state or not just my preferrence, but i am also open to whatever God has for me at this time. If you can help me in someway please contact me in some way.

[restore]

Pls find female to stay with.
Never go to live with male, and especially when u r still needing deliverance and in health problems.

Pls talk to Laurie and pls talk to other sisters on CF who knows ministry or other refuge place as soon as possible!

[chloe8982]

i can never seem to catch laurie on. :(

[restore]

start doing battered women's shelter/center, abused women, women's services
on google pls!

once u find those, pls call them.

and father God, pls send sisters who living in Newyork to help her as soon as possible!

[restore]

http://www.abwrochester.org/


http://www.opdv.state.ny.us/about_dv/fss/resource.html

[Holy Warrior]

Hope you find somewhere- I'll put up a prayer. :hug:

[Angeldove97]

Sweetie, I'll be praying for you :hug: I'm not too far but a college dorm is no place for a young Lady who's healing. You do need to find a place where you can live with a good Christian Lady, who understands your needs right now of healing your body and your spirit. May the Lord watch over you until a place is found. :hug:

~Tati

[chloe8982]

please contact me my friend

[chloe8982]

shelters are not an option sorry

[restore]

yea, i know shelters r not good now...
I m posting prayers for u on different places...and pls beleive God is there, and pls talk to more loving friends to help this matter out soon!

[WesWoodell]

A Christian young woman should not live with her boyfriend or any man that's not family. Your situation is a good example of why.

[Chococat]

First of all you shouldn't blame yourself for what happened as it was not your fault. In fact you were a victim of sexual assault. :hug: You are right in that the sooner you get away from that "boyfriend" of yours the better as he obviously has no respect for you or he wouldn't treat you like that.:mad: I'll certainly be praying for you,:pray: :prayer:

[Bubba1301]

I'm not sure about the new guy that you've got plans to move in with in the coming weeks, but if he's a Christian and understanding he may even assist in finding you a godly woman to ultimately live with... I know that is something that I would do. I agree that living with someone who is not family and is of the opposite sex is not exactly the best thing to do, but if this can be a step up and out - away from the non-Christian boyfriend - then proceed with caution.

Unfortunately, I'm half the country away and can't actually be there - however, prayer warriors around here shall get upon the matter.

[chloe8982]

bump

[DaughterofZion63]

You definitely need to get away from your "boyfriend". You should be honest, but if he is not willing to respect your beliefs, then he is not respecting you. Period. Do you have any family in the area who could help you out?

May God guide you to a healthier and more faithful place to live.

Trust in The Lord with all your heart! :hug:

[LittleladyinChrist]

After becoming a Christian I still had an unsaved boyfriend who was completely pagan in every way. He would not change and couldnt accept me changing either. He was a huge stronghold for me, and everytime I would see him I would vow not to have sex with him but would end up anyway. My spiritual life was up and down and it always made me depressed after I had done this, so I can really comprehend what you are going through. I pray the Lord will give you the strength and courage to do what is right in His sight, and God will bless you mightily for being obedient. How can we who have the Holy Spirit living in us continue in sin. I live in Kitchener, Ontario so I dont think I can do much for you physically but I do know that God will provide for all of your needs because you love him enough to do whats right. GOD BLESS YOU.

--Alicia

[chloe8982]

I spoke with my boyfriend today, about this issue he is confused. as i said in the previous post he thinks that you automatically get free access to sex when you are living together. and sex is what makes you girlfriend and boyfriend.

we now have an appointmnt with our couples counselor. i will keep you updatd on this situation

[restore]

i think most men think sex is the link between a boyfriend and girlfriend. especially he is still an unchristian.

I think couples counseling is good for u both right now. and if this man really loves u, he will be able and willing to change, it takes time. Just pray and be positive and also with an understanding heart.
God is there , so no worry.

[UnitynLove]

God will take care of I will look for some places for you sis.

[Utah Knight]

I work am a cop so i'll tell you the laws view first. If you have told him no for sex if he does not listen you can file rape charges because that is what it is in the laws eyes. If you do not want to take legal action your other options are to find a female friend to stay with but do not stay with a guy for obvious reasons. Also there are a number of shelters in your town that you could goto. But no matter what you need to leave your susposed "boyfriend" if he did something against your wishes he does not respect you nor does he truely care and you do not need him in your life. Also keep a prayer in your heart God will provide but you must help yourself. I too will pray for your situation.

[danstar]

im certainly praying for u as u already know and i know God will provide a godly woman for u to live with, stay strong my friend

[lostndown]

hey sweetie!
this isnt good. im so sorry he is doing this and made u do that. sex isnt much of anything no ive not had it but i was raped in 2006 and its a control issue.

yes get out of your house and get with a friend or a christian shelter. :( *hugs hon* if u need to talk, please pm me and i will give u my email addy. im here for u

im praying for u

[minimoose]

just wanted to let you know that I'm praying for you. keep focusing on god and things will fall into place.

[Jesusloevsu]

http://www.christianforums.com/
Jesus Loves you too!

http://img187.imageshack.us/img187/5471/loljesusqv8.jpg

[chloe8982]

ok i think i need to be a bit more specific what this thread is for.

i thank you all for your prayers.

But i am looking for someone willing to help.

someone with about 10 years as a christian, female, at least 35.

please if you have a place for me contact me

[twistedsketch]

I know of a place, but it's not in New York. It's a Christian home for women, most of them are in their 20's and 30's, many of them going to school. I don't know if they have a vacancy or not, and it's way out of your state, but if you like I will PM you the contact information.

[chloe8982]

please and thank you

[VCViking]

First get into serious prayer. You definetely need to get out of that environment. I was somewhat where you are about 10 years ago. The enemy will try to keep you in bondage as much as he can.

I'm also in New York. Have you found a solid church yet? If not, PM me and I'll try to help you find one. I'll also talk to members of my church to see of any places they might know of that could help.

[chloe8982]

thank you very much

and no i don't go to church

[ANM29]

i am somewhat new to chirstianity. have believed for years but didn't really live it till a few months.

I have have made serveral comittmenst to God. One of which concerns getting away from sex and sexual acts.

Well i have a boyfrind left over from my wild past, and i can't get him to understand that i don't want sex of any sort anymore.

He is of the belief that what makes someone your girlfriend is sex.

Anyway as made it clear to me that i need to move last night. When he layed behind me as i was haf asleep and watching TV and he mad me climax before i even knew what he was doing.

But my biggest problems are, i can't work outside the home as i am currently disabled from an accident and can hardly wallk. I am also going through heavy deliverance at the moment. i am looking at moving within the next few weeks. I have a place where i can go and it will be safe but it is with another male, though i know he will respect my decisions i would rather live with a strong christian female that can help teach me move the ways of the Lord, here in New York or real close. The reason i want to stay in New York for the time being is so that i can keep my state benefits. But i will not turn down an offer to help based solely on if you are in the state or not just my preferrence, but i am also open to whatever God has for me at this time. If you can help me in someway please contact me in some way.

I hope your ok! :confused: .
Check PM

[ANM29]

I spoke with my boyfriend today, about this issue he is confused. as i said in the previous post he thinks that you automatically get free access to sex when you are living together. and sex is what makes you girlfriend and boyfriend.

we now have an appointmnt with our couples counselor. i will keep you updatd on this situation

I have a feeling God will open some doors for you if you really want out of this. He will not leave you in a situation that is totally not what he 'wills' for your life. I have been in situations where I did not believe I had a way out and God has always shown up right on time with the answer and another opened door.

You don't have to give up your body for the sake of a having somewhere to live.

Of course he is going to tell you this, he wants his sexual needs met at any cost. He does not respect you, or else he would not pressure you with sex. It is obvious he does not know the Lord, so I know for a fact this is surely not the will of God for your life.

I will pray that opened door comes swinging wide open soon.

There is always a way out. God can't fail. :wave:

[IrishGuy070890]

God isn't there, because God could fix it, and he chooses not to.

[LilBoo]

Shelters are dangerous too, God will find a way. He will open a door.

[Artificial Intelligence]

thank you very much

and no i don't go to churchHow can you two go to counseling if you are not attending a Church and he is not even a believer or your husband? There is no counseling for this situation, the clear path is to get out of there right away. Go to a Church in your area, maybe a large bible believing Church, and make a commitment to attend that Church for at least a year (in your heart make that commitment).

Attend that church and the first day and make an appointment to see a Pastor or any Church leader when they have time to see you (they may be busy with services when you ask but will make an appointment soon as possible). Tell the Pastor or Elders your current situation, I am certain they will know someone that will have a spare room for you to rent. It does not matter if they have been a Christian for ten years, do not set such limits, let God work this out but you must make the step in that direction to work this out and be willing to trust those Elders or Pastor. Even if where you stay is temporary while they help you find a place to stay long-term, do it, and do it that moment it is offered, that day, that moment! Don’t tell your boyfriend you are leaving, and if you go to pick up your stuff do not go alone.

Here is a list of Churches you can look through and find one in your area.
http://maps.calvarychapel.com/results.cfm?q=New+York
You can refine the search to your zip code here
http://www.calvarychapel.com/?show=Churches
This is a place that I am 100% certain you will get immediate help.

You posted this thread over two weeks ago, it is over two weeks too long that you are still there if you are still there. If you act quick you could be out by tomorrow night or even tonight!

[Chococat]

I spoke with my boyfriend today, about this issue he is confused. as i said in the previous post he thinks that you automatically get free access to sex when you are living together. and sex is what makes you girlfriend and boyfriend.

we now have an appointmnt with our couples counselor. i will keep you updatd on this situation

Sad to say most people, both men and women, think the same way as he does. The world seems to just assume that if a couple have been seeing each other more than about a week they are automatically sleeping together.:( :sigh: :mad: