Advice for joining a Church

[Sojourner<><]

My wife and I have been having trouble 'getting into the mix' at our local church. It just seems so hard to break the ice. So far, we haven't made any real friends yet and we just can't figure out how to get involved. Can you spare some advice?

[ozmum]

Some churches are very clique and they don't like outsiders .
That isn't the spirit of Christ though .

[Svt4Him]

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[holderz]

My wife and I have been having trouble 'getting into the mix' at our local church. It just seems so hard to break the ice. So far, we haven't made any real friends yet and we just can't figure out how to get involved. Can you spare some advice?

If you both decide to leave your local church & find another, pray about is first.
And here some advice I have learned from the word of God.

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Before anything, Always

*Check their Doctrinal Statement (what they believe)
and compare that with what the word of God has to say
as you don’t want to be taking in false truth.

at the end of the day we go to Church to learn Gods word
and that should be the pastors teachers priority.
His job is to study & teach (Isa 28:11/ 2Tim 2:15)

Presenting the truth to his congregation & letting them take that truth & make there OWN decision whether to believe it or not.

Not guilting them into a decision or judging them because they found out certain things about that congregational member as the majority of pastors do.
this is totally against the word of God.
Rom 14:4 / 14:10

And as ozmum mentioned “Some churches are very clique and they don't like outsiders.
That isn't the spirit of Christ though . ”
Which I agree totally goes against Gods word, he desires all to come to the knowledge & truth (1Tim 2:4)
these are defo Churchs to stay away from.

Ps – as I said in your other post, God in his perfect timing will bless you with social prosperity

[rosiecotton]

My wife and I have been having trouble 'getting into the mix' at our local church. It just seems so hard to break the ice. So far, we haven't made any real friends yet and we just can't figure out how to get involved. Can you spare some advice?

How long have you been at your church? What activities/ministries are offered at your church?
Sometimes it can take awhile to 'fit in' or find your place in a church. Get involved in different activities. I found the easiest way to get to know people is to get involved.
Help out in VBS, help in one of the children's sunday school classes, get into a small group.
I know there was a family at our church that I had heard made the comment that they didn't feel like they had any friends at the church. But they never got involved in anything at the church except coming on Sunday mornings. It's hard to get to know someone when you only see them for a short time on Sunday morning. But if you work together on something, say VBS or some other event, you get to know them a lot better!