Kickin' out a Roommate. Pray if you wouldnt mind

[aReformedPatriot]

So tonight I came to the conclusion that one of my roommates needs to leave. I have mentioned him here before asking "what would you do?" The vast majority said to give him the boot. I have since spoken with many, many people about this matter, all older than I for the most part. Their advice is the same.

There is a saying, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." Everything he has said to me has been a lie or disguised. He has broken his word at every turn of trust. And he has brought cocaine and underage drinking into my house. I have taken a month to think about this and finally decided that this is best and that I am not going to take one more risk into this area.

I have even lined up a replacement roommate during that time just in case. I'm going to give him a month to get his affairs in order, but then he is gone.

I talked with my other two roommates about this. Both of them are sad that it came to this but I believe they understand and some part of them is probably relieved. I have a tendancy to be blunt and matter of fact when it comes to this sort of thing and rather intolerant, so they are going to discuss it with Caleb first to prevent an all out swear fest and perhaps a violent confrontation. Hopefully he will be calm about it. He is already angry with me because he thinks I have it in for him, dont care about him, etc. The fact is I will not say these kinds of activities are OK. Otherwise I really like him and wouldn't have desired to be a roommate with him in the first place.

[rocklife]

praying for you guys

[Argent]

Uh, bro, I'm kinka wondering why you're living with a coke user to begin with?

The best living situation for a young, single Christian man is sharing a house or apartment with one or two (or even three) other single Christian guys committed to serving the Lord. That would exclude cocaine users. Now, if he's a brother with a drug problem, there's a certain obligation to confront him with his sin (which it sounds like you have done) and to try to get him some help, but if he won't repent, especially about something quite illegal, then he needs to find somewhere else to live.

[aReformedPatriot]

Uh, bro, I'm kinka wondering why you're living with a coke user to begin with?

The best living situation for a young, single Christian man is sharing a house or apartment with one or two (or even three) other single Christian guys committed to serving the Lord. That would exclude cocaine users. Now, if he's a brother with a drug problem, there's a certain obligation to confront him with his sin (which it sounds like you have done) and to try to get him some help, but if he won't repent, especially about something quite illegal, then he needs to find somewhere else to live.

I asked him about his personal life before we moved in. Having been at a Bible College together drugs were not brought up but a month later he tells me: "If I had told you all these things, You would not have agreed to move in with me. You have no idea what you got yourself into." Which is the truth, I would not have moved in with him, and so he has been full of deception from day one.

The new roommate will be a wholesome MDiv student with no associations of with drugs, etc. and the other roommates are godly, at least more Godly than I am.

[Seeker of the Truth]

Good Luck!

I'll be praying, I somewhat know how ya feel ;)

(I had a pretty ridiculous roommate first semester, but he didn't amount to yours)

[TwinCrier]

Praying all turns out and his eviction goes smoothly.

[RED that's ME]

Praying :prayer:

[Taylor43]

praying

[Indrid Cold]

I continue to pray for him and the whole situation . . .

[JPPT1974]

Praying for both of you!:thumbsup:

[Erinwilcox]

continuing to pray, mark

[Salamon]

You have my prayers!

[Tenorvoice]

Mark, I hope and pray that things go well, and that the old roommate does not cause any trouble because of your request.

Blessings. TV

[rkymtnjesusfreak]

Praying for you all who are involved in the situation. I am sure it is a tough thing to deal with.

[Manda_24]

I hope everything goes well. I know what you're going through too, my other roommates and I had to kick out one of our roommates recently, it was a very long semester and things have been wonderful since she left. It wasn't because of drug problems exactly but there were quite a few other problems.

[Hisbygrace]

My prayers are with you all...

[mesue]

:prayer:
Let us know how it turns out.

[aReformedPatriot]

Greetings Everyone! I am back from a... :P

Anyways heres the latest. We had this convorsation about two weeks ago. It went pretty bad and I was screamed at with various things like, "I hate you, "I would kill you," "You're the reason I ---- on Christianity," etc. To his credit he appologized for these things the next day while asking if I would change my mind. Not too sure how genuine that is though.

Nonetheless I did not change my mind. There is a whole section of my lease which describes me as having defaulted on it because of what he has done. He is supposed to be out by this weekend and I have a new guy prepped for moving in. Caleb is going to a friends house for the time being. I am very thankful for the fact that this did not become a legal matter.

[arunma]

It's great to hear this Mark. I've been praying for you, and will continue to do so.